06/18/2026
Dallas Willard often used this humble, preemptive disclaimer during his lectures: "I don’t have time to tell you everything I DON’T mean when I say that…" He would use this phrase in an attempt to avoid common theological misunderstandings, clouded by his students’ presuppositions. Especially before diving into deep, counter-cultural teachings concerning the Kingdom of God. I feel this urge every time I preach. After all, I know what I mean when I speak, but I have limited control over what is heard by each person in the congregation.
However, I don’t think this problem is unique to preaching and teaching. Everyone knows what it feels like to be misunderstood; to misunderstand, and consequently, to be misunderstood, is to be human. But there’s a difference between making a mistake and lazy listening. Some people simply don’t want to understand. So how do we deal with this frustrating fact of life? Well, we should never waste our time and energy trying to explain ourselves to people who are committed to misunderstanding us. No matter how clear we attempt to be, they will inevitably muddy the waters. No matter how many times we try to bring clarity, their poor attitude and commitment to being obtuse, will always bring frustration. So instead of giving them more words, remain silent. Jesus said it this way, “Do not give dogs what is holy, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, lest they trample them underfoot and turn to attack you. (Matthew 7:6, ESV)
When you are feeling misunderstood, say fewer words. Truly in that case, less is more. But on the other side, when you are misunderstanding someone, seek clarity. Ask more questions. Try to understand what they are saying before filtering their message through your presuppositions. [3] yes, if you call out for insight and raise your voice for understanding, [4] if you seek it like silver and search for it as for hidden treasures, (Proverbs 2:3–4, ESV) You may not find agreement with everyone, but at least seek to hear what they are actually saying…not what you think they mean by what they are saying.
-Chris Ballard