09/07/2026
Al Jarboe had seen it before. People in grief fall apart. His mother, abandoned by her husband with two children to raise, lost her grip.
His sister, too. When her husband died, she had to be hospitalized.
Then, in 2017, it was his turn to fight the darkness. “I’m just cracking up sitting here, talking to myself and just crying.”
He’d lost Donnittia, his wife of 52 years, the woman who won his heart with a milkshake.
Al Jarboe at 91, in some ways, is the same as he was in his twenties. He loved to dance then, and he loves it now.
He went to a dance every weekend, but one changed his life when it got rowdy. He took a fist to the jaw, and it broke. Once it was wired shut for healing, he could barely eat. Every morning since he began working at the American Printing House, Al would stop at the Mellwood Dairy. The young woman in charge took one look at him and had an idea to help him: Milkshakes. If Al came in, Donnittia would make him one, adding the eggs Al brought in from his mother’s chickens.
It was the start of a romance. Marriage soon followed. Eventually, he restored three junk cars and sold them, giving the couple a down payment on a fire-damaged house in Clifton Heights. They worked together getting the house in shape in time for the birth of Rodney. Michael’s birth followed a few years later.
“I was really happy to be a father. I was right happy to have children,” Al says. “And she was too.”
Donnittia never liked to sit still, and their Cleveland Avenue home is vivid with her creativity: But most remarkable are her quilts, one on each bed and stacks more tucked everywhere.
“She made something every day,” Al said. “She was a genius.” And when she retired, she’d be up late into the night, the sewing machine humming.
Then cancer came. Then silence.
Slowly he remembered United Crescent Hill Ministries, where his sister had gone. He walked in and met with Monique Shaughnessy, coordinator of UCHM’s 60-plus program. He comes to every event, and every time there’s music, there’s Al on the dance floor with a woman in his arms.