04/05/2025
What did Adam need from Eve?
What did Eve need from Adam?
The answer?
Nothing!
That’s right, NOTHING!
Why? Because before the Fall, Adam and Eve depended on their Creator God to meet their deepest needs. They had no expectations that their needs would be met by the other person until they chose independence from God. All of a sudden, they had to be their own need-meeter and figure out their own way to get their needs met.
Then the expectations began and conflict and discord took over relationships. Men and women began to expect each other to meet their deepest needs. In other words, instead of the one true God as their “Need Meeter,” lesser “gods” came into view — spouses, friends, children, grandchildren, family, work, parenting, possessions, etc. etc.
But only in Christ, can we answer that question the same way.
What do we need from that other person? that particular situation?
NOTHING!
Because “Christ in us” is the ONLY ONE who can meet our deepest needs.
For in him the whole fullness of deity dwells bodily,
and you have been filled in him, who is the head of all rule and authority.
Colossians 2:9-10 ESV
So my friend, what about you? What/who are you looking to meet your deepest need for unconditional love, acceptance, worth/value, security?
Look to HIM! And let others in your life “off the hook.” Then you can receive everything that others and life offer you by the grace of God as free gifts.
And let yourself “off the hook,” no matter what all the others around you may expect from you. You were never meant to be their deepest need-meeter. Release them to God for that! But then ask the Lord what you can freely give to that other person out of love and from God’s life in you and through you.
I’ll share a little thought with you that the Lord gave me years ago when I was struggling with all this…
Love isn’t love unless it’s freely given!
So expect all from God.
Receive all as free gifts from His hand.
And give freely from the life of the Loving God within you.
Amen.
