03/12/2024
I have some take home notes, especially for the young Lady Pastors.
I leant a lot about how men react to relatonships.
Usually men are controlled by ego. They do not want to be told what to do by women, especially by their wives.
Have you noticed that if you suggest what to do in the family, ministry or marriege, they usually say" No we cant do that , its not a good at all."
Do not be offended, just know that what you have said is like a seed planted in the soil. Do not talk about it but you can continue suggesting other ideas, which usually will be thrown into dusbins,,,, but not forever kkkkk.
One day you will hear him saying " lm thinking we should do this or that" the same things you said and was rejected.
Wisdom;;, Do not say"but l suggested that and you refused. :" just say "ohh l think thats a very good idea my husband " A wise woman will have lots of her ideas implemented in the home, family or ministry by making suggestions. Even if they are rejected, don't worry he will come and suggest the very same thing and you just say"amen daddy".
Trying to change him will quickly put him away. Accept him the way he is. Men hate to be changed by someone who comes in their lives when they are grown up. He had rather listen to your sister than listen to you. Gen 4 we find God trying to reason with Cain. Did God succeed? No. In fact God gave Cain very good advice but he ignored , went ahead and did what he wanted. If God could not change Cain, can a wife change a grown man? He will feel like you are being superior to him and they hate anyone who acts superior to them
Even in companies, lots of men hate women who are above them . The do not want to take instructions, even if the woman is the CEO of the company. They will seethe with anger, in Africa they can even use juju to pull you down. They can do anything to make you fall.
So wisdom ;;; when working with them, even in church, desist from exerting your authority. Apply wisdom and they will respect you. Ask them to do the greater tasks as if you dont know what you are doing.
When suggesting schools for your children give him the responsibility to check out the schools, the ones that you want. Do not say" Lets upgrade our child to this school., its better " just say. "If you find time daddy, can you check out on these schools,"( name them)if they can be better than where so and so is. "You have a better judgement concerning issues of education".ln all that you do do not show him you know better than him act ignorant and you can have your way by doing that.....
Tmrw we will be looking at 10 things that quickly put away your man.