Christ's Wisdom and Power Ministries - CWAPM

18/03/2024

Mat 25:12 "But he answered and said, 'Assuredly, I say to you, I DO NOT KNOW YOU.'

This was the answer given to the foolish virgins. The response was not go away for you don't have oil. It was I never knew you. The oil is a byproduct of intimacy with him. You don't buy oil, you produce it through fellowship with Him.

The foolishness is not in the absence of oil but in trying to get married to a stranger you have never met or known before. # Having a date with Jesus everyday of my life.

18/03/2024

Jos 10:12 Then Joshua spoke to the LORD in the day when the LORD delivered up the Amorites before the children of Israel, and he said in the sight of Israel: "SUN, STAND STILL OVER GIBEON; AND MOON, IN THE VALLEY OF Aijalon."

The most fierce battle we each fight, is the battle with time. We are in a constant race with the passage of time. People don't always fail exams because they didn't know the answers, sometimes they fail because they ran out of time to answer all the questions. There will always come moments you wish you were given extra time. Plan how you can stretch your day. You can stretch your day by waking up early and sleeping late. You can stretch your day by doing everything faster than you would normally do. You can stretch your day by setting priorities and following them. You can stretch your day by working with a team rather than solo.

Joshua stopped the sun because he had unfinished business. Don't allow the sun to set on your victory. If he had allowed the sun to set, he would have to fight again tomorrow. Let's do and finish today's business, today. Don't be doing what you should have done as a youth, when you are now old. Delay is one terrible thing, it will make marry when you are old enough to be a grandparent. Delay will allow you to be rich when you can nolonger enjoy your riches.

# Oh Lord, let not the sun go down on my victory, let me win first!

17/12/2023

HOME REMEDIES 14

Pro 6:27 can a man take fire to his bosom, and his clothes not be burned?

As a way of concluding the home remedies on marriage, there is no more befitting conclusion than dealing with cheating. The proverb above equates a cheater to a man trying to take fire into his bosom without burning clothes. Cheating always burns things eventually. It can warm up for a while but it can burn your entire home down in a moment. It's a fire that will burn the clothes that cover your nakedness and leave you exposed.

When you cheat in marriage, you are not only cheating your spouse but you are cheating your children too. They will be heartbroken when they find out you broke their home. You have betrayed the whole family and others who believe in you and have you in high esteem. You, your partner and your kids will be forced to live through the consequences of your cheating. Of all misstep that are found in marriage, only this one was explicitly stated by the Lord as grounds for divorce. In other words the damage it causes, even Jesus acknowledges may be impossible to forgive.

Cheating can lead to many bad things like su***de, diseases, depression, violence (GBV) and revenge (cheating) among others. The breach in trust is irreparable because usually before cheating couples enjoy blind trust of their partners. The rude awakening is very heartbreaking. Cheating is very selfish in the least. It's a product of failure to communicate your needs sufficiently to your partner.

Causes of infidelity include need for s*x( or better s*x as the case may be). Loss of emotional connection. Dealing with trauma. A surge of unbridled lust. Loneliness. Attention seeking. Low self esteem and need to be validated by someone as good or beautiful. Carelessness in handling inters*x relationships. Compromising s*xual boundaries. Obsession with s*xual fantasies. Masculine ego. Toxic feminism.Watching po*******hy. Fights in your marriage.

It's results may include, loss of your christian testimony. Loss of your relationship with Christ. Divorce. Domestic violence. Loss of admiration and credibility to your children. Su***de. S*xually transmitted infections. Paternity fraud. Stigmatisation ( as a cheater or as a divorcee). Loss of trust. Guilt and shame. Your partner will forever have that history as a weapon against you. Neglect of children or even abuse of children. Cause heartbreak to children. Murder has often resulted from such. It causes shame even to your parents and family you come from. It's such a high price you pay for so little amusement.

Cheating is a process everyone has experienced a little bit of the process. The difference between the cheaters and those who are not is cheaters allow the process to go full circle while those who are not, deliberately stop the process once they notice it has begun. The process does not always begin with the introduction of the outsider, at times it begins within the marriage when conditions for cheating are brewed. That's why I chose to end with the subject of cheating because all of the previous subjects can culminate in cheating. Commitment to your partner is the ultimate cure, anything that undermines it is a recipe for cheating.

Weaknesses in your marriage may be invitations to cheating so strive to strengthen your marriage. Even God ordained marriages fail if God ordained principles are ignored. The conditions in the world are increasingly becoming anti marriage. The rise of toxic feminism which blurrs gender boundaries and distinction. The male chauvinism and toxic machismo. The Godlessness of the generation makes it hard for something as holy as marriage to survive.

Cheating begins in the mind and the heart, this is where it should be terminated. The actions are never stronger than the thoughts. It grows through the stages. It begins like harmless friendship but remember even marriage is nothing but friendship plus s*x. When your heart starts getting fonder of someone that you even miss them or think of them when you are away from them, watch out, the chain reaction is beginning. When a person uses sweet words to you always and are deliberately trying to give themselves off as nice and caring, take note the process is initializing. It goes from nice words and cool jokes to trying to make you feel good and cherished by sneaky touches. From some dodgy high fives top gentle tap on the hand and pats on the shoulder. Holding of hands grows to hugging, then some horse play until bedroom gymnastics. It is always made to look innocent to avoid confrontation so that you are not sure until you have fallen prey. The trap lies in trying hard not to hate the person's feelings, that is the excuse for the compromise until the deed is done. Any responsible person who cares for his marriage would withdraw immediately and challenge upfront.

When you find yourself caring too much and wanting to be involved in the life of this other person. Take a step back you are falling for it! When you find yourself creating systems of secrets around your relationship with that person know for sure you have fallen for it and you have taken things a notch higher. You are actually growing bolder and ready for the act. The next thing you will find yourself beginning to notice and exaggerate your spouse's flaw so as to justify yourself in doing what you are subconsciously planning to do. The person grows in appeal and your spouse fades into the background. This is called affair fog. Your judgement gets clouded and weak this other person becomes your idol and your partner a demon. At this stage you get bold and can take risk for this other person. You react cheeky when asked about your relationship with that person. You start having planned meetings and appointment you cover up with lies. Booom zvaendwa, the fire has reached the heart. Affairs are addictive because they feel like they are a solution to your marital woes yet on the contrary they are usually the last nail on the coffin. Others actually get in an affair in order to end a relationship they are struggling to end while others get in one in order to keep a bad relationship that they don't want to lose. Strange but true. They call it spicing it up. The reason people like they side chicks and c***s is because they are spices the meal is already there but once the meal is gone spices are not good enough. What I mean is it's easy to ignore the flaws of a side person because you already have a main person. The side people tend to be over glorified than they deserve. They are overrated until you by lose the main person you won't notice their inadequacies because the presence of the main person was covering up that for them.

Even animals would rather tear each other apart than share their partners. That tells you the call of nature is faithfulness. Animals that do not have any meaningful civilization and intelligence would kill or die before they watch their partner get intimate with a stranger. Very few marriages can survive cheating. If they must it takes a lot. In the case of cheating prevention is a million times better than cure. Forgiveness is the cure but so is divorce in such a case.

16/12/2023

HOME REMEDIES 13

Joh 2:3 And when they ran out of wine, the mother of Jesus said to Him, "THEY HAVE NO WINE."

The above marriage almost failed the day it began. Jesus values marriage so much that His first miracle was at the wedding at Cana. The groom was wise enough to invite Jesus to his wedding. It is important that we invite Jesus in our marriages in case one day our wine runs out. The wine of joy and fun can run out, the wine of romance can run out and of course the wine of resources can run out too. This man's marriage was starting with an attack of lack and poverty, but thank God Jesus was there. Home economics can become a challenge in many marriages.

It's a good thing to know how to deal with money in a marriage. Many marital problems stem from monetary problems. The bible says he who doesn't take care of his family is worse than a unbeliever. God expect every men to be a provider. The verse clearly says he and not she, implying that men should provide. The bible also says a good man leaves an inheritance for his children's children. So the definition of a good man is not about being a cool nice gentleman but it's about your command of wealth. We don't have too many good men in church, ladies shout Hallelujah!!!! Kkkkk.

As men we have a huge task before us, taking care of our children is not the mark, the minimum is your grandchildren. Bill gates once said, that you were born poor is not your fault but dying poor is your fault. Curtis Jackson sang get rich or die trying. A wiseman once said money does not come where it's needed, it comes where it's multiplied. Don't just need money look for a way to multiply it.

It's not a secret women cherish men who spoil and pamper them. Our wives want to be taken on holiday to Honolulu. Besides hustling we must learn to budget, save and to strategize financially. I recommend a book titled The richest man in Babylon and another titled Rich dad poor dad. The bible says money answers all things. So when there is no money questions abound. The bible also says money is a defense. So, lack of money is an offense.

Money does not grow on trees it grows on ideas. It's not that you don't have money, you just don't have an idea. So get busy thinking. Most people are not lazy to work but they are lazy to think. The best way to know how to get money is to study how you lose money because each time you are losing money it's someone taking the money from you.

Decide how much of your income do you spend and how much do you save. Decide how much do you invest and where to invest it. This should be everyone's prayer point, that God must give you a financial strategy like he gave Jacob. Jacob used a stick to multiply his goats because it was his God given idea.

16/12/2023

HOME REMEDIES 12

Pro 21:9 It is better to dwell in a corner of a HOUSE TOP, than in a house shared with a CONTENTIOUS WOMAN.

The wise Solomon advised men to stay away from a contentious woman. A contentious woman refers to a nagging, argumentative, always picking up fights, verbally abusive wife. Verbal abuse is a major ailment in marriages. Take note the verse refers to women but this diseases exists even among men, although admittedly it is prevalent among women. Both men and women can be contentious, that is a fact, and the effects are equally damaging if not worse when it's a man doing it.

There is world wide condemnation for physical abuse and there is even legal punishment for it. Unfortunately the worst abuse is dicey and often ignored, verbal abuse can be more harmful than physical abuse. Verbal abuse inflicts emotional wounds, that is, it cripples the soul. Verbal abuse breaks the spirit of the victim, it is capable of killing the self image of the person and changing the person's character. It can breed depression and plant violence in the heart of the abused.

When speaking with our spouses let us select words. Never use words that belittle your spouse. Never use words that anger your spouse. Never use words that shame your spouse. Never use words that are insulting to your partner. Never use words that are disrespectful to your spouse. Never use words that are rough to your spouse. Never talk bad about your partner's family in anger.

Marriages are initiated by words in courtship and are definitely ended by words in divorce. Words bind us together and words can separate us. You have two ears and one mouth so that you hear twice as much as you speak. If you put more effort in hearing your partner you will know exactly how to answer. The need to be heard can be a snag to communication. The desire to hear is the gateway to understanding and the aide to communication. We always lose our partners to people who connect better with them in a way or two. So do your best to be the best communicator your partner ever met.

16/12/2023

HOME REMEDIES 11

Gen 3:12 Then the man said, "The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I ate."

The first shaking of Adam's marriage was because of three things. One , the presence of sin. Sin alone has a way of introducing all kinds of demons in your life and by extension into your marriage. If sin abounds in a home doors are open for attack to your marriage from different sources and angles. Holiness must be the standard in your home.

Secondly Adam felt that God was responsible for him marrying eve and not himself. It's a challenge when one spouse feels he or she is in the marriage because of circumstances beyond his or her control. Marriage ought to be by choice, if it didn't come by choice, at anytime you must be able to take responsibility of how your marriage began. Have no regrets about the foundation of your marriage. Be at peace with your past in order to find your future in that marriage.

Lastly Adam's marriage was shaken by blame game. Adam wanted to blame Eve for his sin. As adults we own our actions, whether we planned it or we were misled. Blaming each other pits the two of you as enemies fighting from opposing corners instead of being a team.

11/12/2023

HOME REMEDIES 10

Pro 5:19 As a loving deer and a graceful doe, LET her breasts SATISFY you at all times; and always be ENRAPTURED WITH HER LOVE.

In the previous series we zeroed in on the quantity of coitus in your marriage but now we are tuning in our microscope to the quality of the coitus you are having. Poor quality can be as bad a poor quantity. Make up your mind to make your bed sessions quality. Aim at making it as satisfying as possible.

As far as these matters are concerned every men can learn from Solomon, who married hundreds of wives and divorced none. Solomon said in the above verse let your wife's breasts SATISFY you. The principle here is be content with whatever shape or size she has. This includes every other part of her body and equally applies to the man's body, as a woman let his body satisfy you.
No body shaming must exist amongst couples.

Appreciating your partner's body parts as they are is healthy for your romantic walk. Of course they are parts that exercise and diet can change, if you needed them changed discuss it lovingly without putting undue pressure. As for parts that can never be changed embrace them as they are, appreciate them. We are living in days when make up artists are doing wonders with people's appearance, that can come in handy. Gym for gents can do the trick in some areas. Grooming and personal hygiene is important. Investing in quality bathing kit, perfumes, soaps and lotions. These can make you look more desirable. People put a lot of effort in beautifying themselves when going out instead of putting more effort when they are home with the one person they should impress most.

The scripture said LET her breast satisfy you. The word LET means allow. That means they are only able to satisfy you if you allow them. Many people complain that they spouses don't satisfy them in bed because they don't realize it takes them to allow first. For your own information all the flavor you get during intimacy is not coming from your partner but from you. It's only that you have allowed your partner to reach for where it is hidden in you and awaken it. That's why people ma******te because they know the taste is actually locked inside themselves. If you are not satisfied chances are you are holding back in one way or the other.

Tell your partner exactly where he or she must reach for. You may do so in words or by action, even physically directing to the exact spots. Reject any thoughts of despising the body of your partner. That thought will lock your ability to flow together with your partner to satisfaction.

Watching po*******hy and ma********on can be a hindrance to your partner's body satisfying you. Comparing your next with your ex can cause lack of satisfaction. Watching p**n can make you have unrealistic expectations that can never be met. P**n stars are acting, they exaggerate and pretend to be enjoying exceedingly, plus some of the stunts they do take training and their organs are sometimes altered for the purpose of movie making.Accept what you have and adventurously discover how best to use it. Kill the dullness and boredom of rigidly sticking to one way of doing things. No one is supposed to satisfy you, you are to allow yourself to get satisfy; it's a conscious effort you make.

Once you start having frequent satisfying s*x. Like clockwork you will find that you will be ENRAPTURED with love for one another. Satisfying s*x is a refuelling station of love for marriages.

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11/12/2023

HOME REMEDIES 9

Gen 30:16 When Jacob came out of the field in the evening, Leah went out to meet him and said, "You must come in to me, FOR I HAVE SURELY HIRED YOU WITH MY SON'S MANDRAKES." And he lay with her that night.

The above is an unbelievable story. Jacob had two wives Leah and Rachel, he so loved Rachel over Leah, that most of the time he was with Rachel. It happened that Rachel saw Leah's son with mandrakes and asked for them. When Leah heard it she said to Rachel you can't have my husband and my son's mandrakes too. Because Rachel wanted the mandrakes so much she loaned Jacob to Leah for that night. Imagine how bad the situation must have been for Leah. S*xlessness is one of the diseases in marriages. Once the marriage becomes s*xless it turns tasteless.

How can you allow your wife to get so desperate to the point of hiring you in order to have s*x with you. S*x is a blessing meant to be enjoyed within the preserve of marriage only. Even nature testifies to this in that most animals can not have it anytime they wish but only at God given times called heat seasons/ mating seasons.

There are many reasons why a marriage can become s*xless. Some of which are the presence of side chicks and side c***s. Deep inner hurts caused by spouse. Loss of libido and affection towards your partner. Sickness , witchcraft and hormonal issues. Notwithstanding all these you must make it a goal that in your marriage s*x is a habit. The frequency of your intimacy as a couple can be a tracker of the health of your marriage.

Being intimate helps you with closeness and bonding as a couple, the same way breastfeeding helps in bonding between mother and child. Absence of it weakens the bond.

Napoleon hill in his book think and grow rich spoke of how intimacy can unlock one's genius and bring out your creativity. It is a natural stress reliever, it also carries healing abilities. It helps with giving sound sleep hence increases chances of having what is known in science as random eye movement (REM) sleep and dreaming, which is a spiritual portal for inspiration and creativity. It increases neuroplastic activities.

Lost chemistry between couples can be reignited by going on dates, picnic, outings just the two of you. Playing sports together, finding common ground. Going for couples conferences together and maybe even counseling sessions. Visiting holiday resorts, spoiling each other with gifts. Being creatively romantic deliberately, plan and strategies to surprise your partner with a new romantic stunt. Try out new ways of being intimate, break the norm. You could even try it out in a different environment or place.

If the cause is witchcraft, thank God you are a Christian. As a believer you already have power over witchcraft, pray against it. A couple that prays together stays together. You have a prayer point already so get busy in a prayer of agreement with your partner. Exercise your faith, refuse to be under such a spell. You could approach your pastor for assistance.

If it's libido issues, there is plenty of information on how to reverse such do your research. Just to help you with some of it, you need to change your diet. If you are a man avoid sugar, infact if you are past 35 make sure you cut by half your sugar intake, you will thank me later. In a few months you will discover the difference. Even if you are younger you will still realize the difference, it's even better early than late. There are foods recommended for s*xual health research on them. For both men and women exercise and weight loss is recommended. Good sleep patterns assist the body make the hormones needed. It would interest you that there are hormonal boosting supplements which are known to assist even women long past menopause enjoy their bedrooms. Pelvic floor exercises and kegel exercises come in handy for men.

Never allow Satan quench the fire in your bedroom. God Himself said don't even let prayer and fasting takeaway the fire of your bedroom. It's acceptable by God that you reduce your fasting days to service your partner. A healthy bedroom helps chase the temptation of s*xual immorality.

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11/12/2023

HOME REMEDIES 8

Gen 30:1 Now when Rachel saw that she bore Jacob no children, Rachel envied her sister, and said to Jacob, "GIVE ME CHILDREN, OR ELSE I DIE!"

Here we meet the painful cry of Rachel to her husband. She was barren and could not have children. The issue of childlessness is a challenge to some homes. Knowing how to handle it is a necessary remedy to such homes. The storyline of childlessness is very common in scripture, the good thing is that all the bible stories end with the couple receiving a miracle baby. I join any family going through this challenge in faith, that their story too will end in a testimony.

As in Rachel's story above barrenness can be tormenting psychologically. Thoughts of why me? What did I do to deserve this? Frequent your mind. The mockery from others, in certain cases the cultural and religious stereotyping and labeling can be hurtful. The pressure from family members, friends and peers. The pressure of seeing your peers' children. Rachel grew jealousy of her sister because she had children. It can feel like a competition or even like you are less of a man or a woman when you can't have children like others. These are pains that you carry secretly in your heart. It gets worse if the pressure comes from your spouse. Like we hear Rachel say to Jacob, give me children or l die. Notice Rachel is the one that is barren but she is crying to Jacob. Childlessness can cause fingerpointing and blaming each other.

You don't have to put pressure on your partner even if you know he is the cause. For your own information he is already in hurting about it more than you. The partner who is the cause hurts the most and needs to be comforted than to be condemned. Hannah's husband used to give her double what she gave peninah as consolation. Extra kindness would go a long way. Protect and defend your partner like Hannah's husband did, do allow your partner to feel less or to feel judged. Hannah's husband said to her; am I not more than seven sons to you. He stretched himself so much to compensate for seven sons. He didn't threaten to leave her but rather stretched himself and expanded his responsibility towards her.

Abraham the friend of God had the same challenge. This problem is not a sign that God has forsaken you. Abraham the friend of God and the father of faith faced it for more than twenty five years. It doesn't mean you are weak spiritually or God Loves you less, no.

As great as Abraham was it took it's toll on him until his wife told him to sleep with her maid. There was no peace at home until Sarah had to sacrifice her joy for the peace of the home. On a human level there are solutions to this. Sarah thought of adopting Hagar's son. Hagar became something like what we now call a surrogate mother.

Medical science today has many types of solutions to this like adoption, IVF etc. Consulting extensively with medical professionals could help. I know the challenge is most people are too shy to seek help and end up not getting any. I approve medical solutions but I preach divine solutions, so allow me to revert back to scriptures.

Isaac the son of Abraham faced the same issue, that shows you this can be demomic. Rachel and Rebecca both sisters at first were barren, that shows it can be genetic. Chilion and Mahlon the sons of Naomi, the husbands of Ruth and Oppah died without children to show that it's not only woman who can cause childlessness; Ruth went on to have a child with Boaz after her husband's death. Hannah the bible says God had shut her womb, it shows it can be spiritual.There are many possible causes but you are not the cause so stop blaming yourself. Abraham dealt with it using faith and patience. His son Isaac, on the other hand used prayer instead. The bible says Isaac prayed for his wife Rebecca to give birth. So you can support your partner by praying together over it. Fast and pray together until Satan surrenders. That was the case between Zachariah and Elizabeth the parents of John the Baptist.

Never forsake your partner because they can't give you children, it's God who gives children, not a man and not a woman. Learn from Abraham's story the child he found by his means brought trouble and pain, and almost robbed him of his blessings. Don't visit demonic altars, don't cheat on your God given spouse. Anything that the Devil gives you is always at a price you can't afford. God is faithful if you remain faithful to Him He will do it for you. The bible says the fruit of the womb is his reward. Notice there is a difference between a reward and a gift. He will soon reward your faithfulness. Even if you get a child by some other means remember you can't keep the child without God's help. David had a child with another man's wife and the child died even though David fasted three days and three nights for the child to live.

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11/12/2023

HOME REMEDIES 7

Mat 19:8 He said to them, "Moses, because of the HARDNESS OF YOUR HEARTS, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.

Divorce was never part of the plan of God for any marriage but God had to permit it because of the hardness of people's hearts. A hardened heart spells disaster to any marriage. A hardened heart is one that lacks empathy and sympathy. Empathy is putting yourself if someone's shoes. You can't treat your partner perpetually without regard for how they feel. You can't love someone are hurt them without remorse. Hardened hearts are selfish hearts. You can't put your interests ahead of your partner's forever and always. Love sacrifices.

A hardened heart doesn't repent and doesn't say sorry. You can't be offending your partner always and keep on moving like everything is okay. A hardened heart is cold and insensitive to others' pain. A hardened heart is deaf to the cries of others. A hardened heart is a proud heart. Many divorced because no one could swallow his pride and says I am sorry. When everyone insists on his way, parting ways is inevitable. Honestly ask yourself how many times did you give up your ways to accommodate your partner's way. I mean in things that matter not valueless issues. While God hates divorce He hated hardened hearts more therefore He granted divorce because of it.

Hearts can be hardened by unforgiveness and constantly dwelling on your partner's short comings and weaknesses. Frequent reviewing of the faults and offences of your partner. Repeated discussions of errors of your spouse. Listening to too much of the voice of those who are negative about your partner and your marriage can harden your heart against your spouse.

11/12/2023

HOME REMEDIES 6

1Pe 3:7 Likewise you husbands, dwell with them with UNDERSTANDING, giving HONOR to the wife, as to the WEAKER vessel, and as being heirs together of the GRACE OF LIFE, that your PRAYERS MAY NOT BE HINDERED.

Marriages birthed out of understanding will outlast marriages born out of love alone. All the people that have divorced were once in love, and at certain times they are still in love but they divorced because they can't understand each other. Don't just dwell in love, strive to dwell in understanding. Communication is therefore central to the survival of any marriage. Invest in communicating your feelings to your spouse. Make it easy for your partner to understand you while you make an effort to understand him or her too. If you are a man research about women in general and your partner in particular. If you are a woman research the reverse. It sounds unimportant but trust me I have never met some one who doesn't need to do the said research. I recommend a book called men are from mars and women are from Venus. We are strangers from different planets, it takes a lot of effort for us to understand each other. Take note of every complaint your partner has of you and try and meditate over it, in your spare time. You will become a better lover in time.

Ignoring your partner's complaints creates an emotional gap between you that can become the grave of your marriage if allowed to grow. Divorce doesn't happen in a day it's a process, for some it is fast yet for others it's slow. It is a process of hearts drifting away from each other. The wise always check for these gaps and deliberately make effort to close them from time to time. Take inventory of your romance with your partner, check if you still connect and flow emotionally. Are you guys still an item? Get to know what your spouse likes and do it, but most importantly know what she doesn't like and avoid it.

The verse is addressed to men as the head of the home that they should understand women that they are weaker vessels. It's not weakness as in cheap vessels but fragile and handle with care type vessel. As men a tendency is among us to be heavy handed on our wives forgetting that they break easily emotionally. A broken vessel loses its contents, we are surprised where went her sweetness, we forget it leaked because we broke her vessel with our words and actions. Remember to treat her with kindness always.

Handle with care, treat her special. Peter said give her honor. While you are her head don't use that to dishonor her and treat her like your inferior subordinate she is your helper. When she is wrong correct her lovingly and with respect. Adam did not propose to Eve, he just exclaimed 'This is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh.' With those words he won her over. Women love to be appreciated and praised. They respond to flatteries more than facts. You could correct them better with flatteries than blunt truth. Because they love being appreciated by men they hate being criticized by men. They can take criticism from anywhere but when it's from men it crushes them. Honor is their love language, anyone who honors them wins their heart. They were created to be admired and adored that's why they go the extra mile to adorn themselves with jewelries and cosmetics.

Understand also that you are heirs of the same grace of life with your partner. Whatever grace God bestowed on your partner you become a shareholder to it by marriage. You are part and parcel of their pilgrimage on earth, sharing in their successes and failures, victories and losses. The health of your marriage affects your walk with God in a big way. People will go to Hell literally because of their marriages. Your marriage can spoil your relationship with Christ. Peter said your prayers can be hindered by toxicity in your marriage. Toxic marriages are a stronghold stronger than the prince of Persia. They can stop new testament prayers. Jesus laid down the principle first, when he said if you want to bring a offering and you remember you have an issue with someone, leave the offering and go sort out your difference with the person before you can come and offer your sacrifice. 't just love your partner, understand them