13/01/2023
Elder my girlfriend is insisting on us having a white wedding, of which I only have money for Lobola, I am a bit stressed any advice?
*Answer*
- This is a common situation which is faced by many young people in relationships, so here is some practical advice on this situation
1️⃣ *Be open with her about your financial situation*- As a couple that is planning on getting married it's very important *that you are knowledgeable of your partner's financial situation*
- Unfortunately some guys like to keep thier financial situation in secret, the problem with this is musikana will be working *on assumptions achifunga kuti you can afford yet usingakwanise*
- It's very important to be very transparent panyaya dzemari because these are foundational issues to the success of your marriage, so kubudirana pachena kunokosha
- So speak to her in a loving and considerate manner so that she understands kuti kusada this wedding is not a choice but it's because of circumstances not of your choosing
2️⃣ *Find time to discuss your married life plans* - It's also important to find time yekuonesana what are your expectations and zvodiwa in your married life.
- Kune zvimwe zvisingagone kutizika like you need a place to stay ,food to eat , a bed to sleep on etc
- These things need money and kuonesana about the life after the wedding kunobatsira kuti mose muite sober up and make rational decisions
- Oftentimes people tend to focus on the wedding because Havana kunyatsotora time to have financial plans and budgeting for the married life , *mukuronga nemukuonesana imomo ndomunobuda common understanding panyaya dzemari*
3️⃣ *Explore other cheaper versions of weddings* - There are many types of weddings , some which are cheaper Examples include the *verse pass/ night wedding* yemanheru there you will eliminate the food costs and that of hiring two separate Venues
# The court wedding - There you eliminate the food , transport and venue costs
# Kunobatanidzwa kuConfrence or kumba , this is also a cheaper alternative inobvisa food , venue costs etc
- The simple point is do your research and try to find something cheaper which you can budget for don't live beyond your means
4️⃣ *Avoid the Temptation of Debt*- Sometimes in situations like this the pressure yekuda kukwereta inouya but remember kupinda in a *marriage with a debt will only complicate things more*
- It's better to live within your means than kuda kufadza vanhu nemari yamusina
- Variko vamwe vanotemba kuti we will cover the debt nemari yezvipo but know this kuti zvipo is not something you control and is very uncertain panyaya dzemari hapade kushanda nema assumption munonyura
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