06/01/2025
Why exactly is it that pastors' kids (PKs) need prayer? What makes them so special? Actually, nothing. They are just like all their peers—the same weaknesses, the same proclivity to sin, and made in the image of God, too. All in all, PKs are a pretty normal bunch.
And there you have it, the reason they need prayer: they're normal. Yet when you put normal people in uniquely challenging circumstances, things get difficult, and growing up in a family wherein the father's vocation is full-time ministry is definitely uniquely difficult.
A pastor's family often functions as the "first family" of the church, setting the bar in all things spiritual and moral. They are the exemplars of ministry and life. They're always being observed, and with that comes expectations. The church expects certain behaviors and personas from their leaders' families.
So you can see why it is that a pastor's kid could use some extra prayer. Growing up is a challenge all by itself—learning, growing, hormones, identity crises, unrequited love, sports heartbreak, relational drama, school, spiritual life, siblings, parents, and more. Now imagine doing all that while a church watches, expecting you to be a good little Christian. Where can a PK hide? Where can she hide her mistakes and her insecurities? More deeply, where can she connect with Jesus deeply and genuinely, not as just another expectation?
Most people in the church love the pastor's family. They have no intention of adding to the pressure or pain of PKs, so what can they do to ease the burden? More than anything, the church can pray.
the church know that we are normal🤍💜