22/05/2026
I’m from Windhoek, and for 12 years I have been married and it’s 5yrs now in ministry my husband was ordained a pastor I’ve just been behind him organizing the women’s fellowship, Lately though it feels like my chest has been heavy all the time. It started with humors since last year . He’s been helping one of the members a lot and I heard humors of him going out with the lady.” I told myself, “No, that’s not my husband. He helps everyone. That’s just his heart. But then The lady herself started talking. To other people that my husband understands her like no one else. He’s been there for her. He even dropped her home last week very late because she shopped a lot of items which she needed assistance .Each time i think of it feels very heavy . Am not at peace
I confronted my husband several times . And you know what he says? is it wrong to do something for a sister in the church who is serving? Is it wrong to be kind?” And in that moment I felt so disheartened. Because yes, kindness is good. But I’m his wife. And I’m hearing things. And he’s getting defensive every time instead of making me feel safe.
Now I’m here wondering should I go and confront her? Tell her to stop talking? Or would that just make it worse? Would people say I’m jealous, that I’m causing division? I don’t want to destroy anyone’s name. I love this church. But I also can’t keep pretending I’m okay when I feel unseen in my own home.The truth is, I don’t even know if anything is happening between them. But the rumors are real, the hurt is real, and the boundaries are not there. And when I asked him, he made it sound like I was wrong for even being concerned. So what should I do? Because I love my husband, but I also need to protect my marriage, my children, and the name of this ministry. I don’t want to act out of anger. I want to act out of wisdom. But right now, I just feel stuck and hurt.
From ~ Anonymous