27/08/2026
THREE THINGS I STOPPED DOING
1. I DON’T FORCE MYSELF ON PEOPLE ANYMORE
At first, I used to think that because we exchanged contacts, there should always be communication. So I would usually text people just to hear from them and keep the friendship going.
But I decided to stop texting first and see who would also remember to check on me. I realized something: only a few people reached out to ask if everything was okay.
Then I understood that I had been forcing myself into relationships where I was not truly valued.
2. I HAVE STOPPED GIVING MY ATTENTION TO UNGRATEFUL PEOPLE
In ministry, if you are not careful, ungrateful people can drain your energy and stress you.
Some people only reach out when they need something from you. You help them, support them, pray for them, and stand with them but once their problem is solved, they disappear until they need you again.
I have learned that not everyone deserves unlimited access to my time, energy, and attention. I will continue to help people, but I will also learn to recognize when a relationship is one-sided.
3. I HAVE STOPPED EXPLAINING MYSELF TO EVERYONE
I used to feel the need to explain my decisions, my silence, my actions, and even my intentions to people who had already chosen to misunderstand me.
But I have learned that peace is more valuable than proving a point.
Not everyone needs an explanation. Sometimes, silence is wisdom. Sometimes, distance is necessary. And sometimes, the best response is simply to keep moving forward and let your life speak for you.
GROWING UP TEACHES YOU THAT NOT EVERYONE YOU MEET IS MEANT TO STAY, NOT EVERYONE WHO CALLS YOU A FRIEND IS A FRIEND, AND NOT EVERYONE WHO NEEDS YOU VALUES YOU..
Refuse to be Used..