06/05/2026
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Dear young Pastor,
Allow me to share a little experience I have had with my wife. I'm sharing this with you because I have seen how some of my sons have become a mess in life and Ministry because of marrying an incompatible woman.
Me and my beautiful wife have been married for 38years now. My marriage has never been on hold, never been on break, nor slow down it has been peacefully crushing on a supersonic speed by God's Grace.
My wife and I were both serving God together at a local Church. We were both in the Choir. We were just brothers and sisters and I actually never knew she would be my wife one day. One thing that has made us move together this far in this journey is that my beautiful wife was already committed to service. She loved the Lord like no man's business!
My wife would walk through the rains to come and attend choir lessons, she'd walk through the rains to come and attend youth meetings. She was sold out completely and gradually I started seeing something, my eyes began to open and behold I started making future plans even before I approached her. I told God, if not her then nobody, and I meant what I said.
What's beauty if at all your partner isn't serving God with you? What's beauty if at all your relationship is beautiful in public but you regret choosing someone secretly? Marriage is a partnership, and one thing you partner with the person you marry are your interests. What's beauty when two different people are going the same direction?
When I was looking for a wife, I had my non-negotiables and one of them was "Service". A beautiful woman who is just idle in church was a huge red flag for me. She can't sing, she can't usher, she can't do protocal, she can't clean chairs, she can't even sweep the church and on top of that she comes late to church my son RUN FOR LIFE!!!
Every time it's offering time in Church, my wife always gave, I was very much observant. She'd pay up her youth monthly subscriptions, cell contributions she was always upto date with her payments, I knew from that moment, this woman is not greedy, she's not stingy, she's a perfect girl I needed to marry. Some people you love and fall for, you've never seen them around an offering basket in church, a woman that can't give God can't take care of your home, well that's my ideology and philosophy. I saw her commitment even in giving, I knew for sure that this one will be a faithful wife.
Lastly umukashi wandi Takwete Ichibeleshi nabalumendo at church? When it's time to go home, quickly shed leave church, no escorts and not that she was not social, she was just deliberate about her life and made everyone know their boundaries including myself.
Lastly, my wife always had a book in church, in those days diaries weren't that common, so she had a book and when the pastor is preaching my wife was always writing and taking notes.
My wife's name is "MERCY" and everytime I'm praying I'd go on my knees and cry to God for MERCY, it was only God who knew which MERCY my heart was crying for.
I will share my part 2 story with you later.
God bless you and marry well.
I love you son.
