Freedom from the Bondage of Pornography

Freedom from the Bondage of Pornography I was a prisoner to po*******hy and lust.. 20 years ago Christ Forgiveness and Grace Set Me Free I What is said here, stays here. for additional info.

We meet every Thursday morning for a Men's Accountability Group. We meet at my home @ 8602 Oakdale Drive ,Woodway, Texas 76712 we start @ 6:30AM and go until 7:30AM. Men can take off their masks and be themselves. We give love and support, not condemnation.Go to purefreedomministry.org. If you want help, don't delay. check out our web page @ www.purefreedomministry.org.

12/06/2021

MEN'S THURSDAY MORNING PO*******HY ADDICTION RECOVERY GROUP.

I HAVE BEEN PRAYING FOR YOU THAT YOU HAVE BEEN WALKING IN SEXUAL PURITY.

CONTINUE TO PRAY FOR CHARLES V. HE HAD SURGERY ON HIS JAW AND MOUTH AT M. D. ANDERSON AND IS HOME AND IN MUCH PAIN, KEVIN IS AT M. D. ANDERSON AND STRUGGLING WITH CANCER., TERRY N.IS NOW GOING TO REHAB AND EVENTUALLY WILL HAVE A PROSTHETIC FITTED. BEAU IS STRUGGLING WITH CANCER AND FELL AND IS IN A WHEELCHAIR. PLEASE PRAY FOR EACH OF THEM,

Our next meeting is this Thursday. we will be reading from our new book study guide: THE ROAD TO GRACE: BY Mike Genung (Finding True Freedom from the Bo***ge of Sexual Addiction). Please read chapter 4 this week, so that when you come to our next meeting we can discuss it. (THE FATAL TRAGEDY pg 43-57) I am sure you will enjoy this new book because in many ways it sounds like the life we use to live in when we were caught up in Sexual Sin. It gives us a Christian game plan to break free indeed.

Our new book costs only $15.00 I only have 2 copies left, first come first serve, after that you will need to order your own copy on line which will take some time to get.

(If you would like to include and additional donation, it would be appreciated. I seldom if ever ask you guys for money. Remember this is (OUR) ministry not my ministry! Our expenses to operate and pay for advertising continue you to rise. THANKS.


IF YOUR NOT ALREADY INVOLVED, YOU NEED TO FIND A SPIRIT FILLED CHURCH THAT PREACHES ABOUT JESUS CHRIST. We can't accomplish anything worthwhile in life, unless God is the Center our Life, Church is a very important part of the recovery process.

WE MEET EVERY WEEK INSIDE MY DEN. SO WALK RIGHT THROUGH THE FRONT DOOR. PLEASE DON'T RING THE BELL.

Some of you have been missing our meetings, and that is a sure way to fall back into your Po*******hy Addiction. Satan loves it when you become comfortable and before you know it, WHAM. Don't give Satan that opportunity. (ALL) Men Need Accountability!

Recent Statistics show that 70% of (ALL) Men Struggle with Addiction to Internet Po*******hy), some more than others. it won't go away on it's own, you need to ask for, and get help.

Over the past 20 years we have averaged a 95% success factor, week after week of men who attend our meetings in their walk of Sexual Purity. (The other 5% keep falling back into Sin, because they love their Sin more than they want to be Set Free. It's that simple!

Men need to realize that its OK not to be OK. Your not a FREAK!

DON'T FEEL ALONE. (66% OF CHRISTIAN MEN ALSO STRUGGLE WITH A PO*******HY ADDICTION!) GET HELP NOW, BEFORE ITS TOO LATE!

Here at Pure Freedom Ministry we don't expect perfection, their was only one perfect person JESUS. Here we offer love and support, not condemnation, you are not judged. That's GODS job!

WE DO HOLD YOU ACCOUNTABLE WEEKLY FOR YOUR ACTIONS.

Looking forward to seeing you,

we start sharply at 6:30 AM @ my home at 8602 Oakdale Drive, Woodway, Texas 76712 . If you have any questions call me Terry @ 254-751-9360.

you will be in my prayers;
Terry

UPDATE ON MY THROAT CANCER.

PLEASE CONTINUE TO KEEP ME IN YOUR PRAYERS,. I'VE BEEN DOING OTHER ALTERNATIVE THERAPIES. I WANT QUALITY OF LIFE NOT QUANTITY OF LIFE.

I AM IN GREAT SPIRITS, STAYING ACTIVE , HAVE LOST 28 POUNDS,AND HAVE TAKEN 3 INCHES OFF OF MY WAIST. I AM OFF ALL OF MY DIABETIC MEDICINES, AND HAVE GONE TO THE KETO CANCER DIET. I AM A FIGHTER AND CANCER WILL NOT WHIP ME!
I TURNED 82, AND MY GOAL WAS THAT ( I WOULD BE CANCER FREE ). PLEASE KEEP ME IN YOUR PRAYERS THAT I HAVE COMPLETE HEALING.

(MY LAST PET SCAN RESULTS WERE NOT WHAT I EXPECTED, MY TUMOR HAS GROWN.)

I MET WITH THE VA ONCOLOGIST. HE RECOMMENDED BOTH RADIATION AND CHEMO. I MET WITH BAYLOR SCOTT & WHITE IN WACO AND I AM NOT COMFORTABLE WITH THIS SINCE THEIR ARE SO MANY SIDE EFFECTS INVOLVED. PULLING ALL MY BOTTOM TEETH, INSERTING A FEEDING TUBE AND WHO KNOWS WHAT ELSE. PRAY I HAVE BEEN PRAYING TO GOD FOR THE RIGHT DECISION TO MAKE.? I HAVE NOT LOST FAITH, MY GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE ME OR FORSAKE ME, AND HIS PLANS WHATEVER THEY WILL BE, ARE MUCH BETTER THAN MINE.

GOD SAYS IN HIS WORD, THAT BY MY STRIPES, (YOU ARE HEALED.)
I'M STANDING ON THE PROMISES OF GOD! iSAIAH 53:5

THIS CAN AND WILL ONLY HAPPEN WITH GOD'S INTERVENTION.
( THEN ALL THE GLORY WILL GO TO GOD AS HIS MIRACLE)


HAVE A BLESSED DAY. GOD AND I LOVE YOU.

Terry
Your brother in Christ


Terry Ermoian
Pure Freedom Ministry,Inc.
8602 Oakdale Drive
Woodway,Texas 76712
Executive/Director
1-254-751-9360

[email protected] E Mail

purefreedomministry.org New web Page

oCDft8Mq0cQ On You Tube Cut and paste to go to the site.

www.followjesustofreedom.com 60 day on line program with mentor support.

www.settingcaptiivesfree.com-2.0 60 day on-line program

The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim liberty to the captives and recovery of sight to the blind, to set at liberty those who are oppressed. Luke 4:18

HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO ALL, I HAVE BEEN TRULY BLESSED! I WANT TO GIVE SPECIAL THANKSGIVING TO GOD AND TO ALL THE PEOPLE W...
11/25/2021

HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO ALL, I HAVE BEEN TRULY BLESSED!

I WANT TO GIVE SPECIAL THANKSGIVING TO GOD AND TO ALL THE PEOPLE WHO LIFTED ME UP AND CHALLENGED ME TO STAY THE COURSE OVER THE PAST 20 YEARS OF PURE FREEDOM MINISTRY. WITHOUT THE SUPPORT, LOVE AND ENCOURAGEMENT OF MY WIFE, MY FAMILY, OUR BOARD OF DIRECTORS AND THE MULTITUDES OF FRIENDS AND STUDENTS BOTH PAST AND PRESENT, I PROBABLY WOULD HAVE THROW IN THE TOWEL A LONG TIME AGO.
IT HAS BEEN TO SAY THE LEAST, A REAL CHALLENGE. AND MANY TIMES I HAVE FELT LIKE A TROUT SWIMMING UPSTEAM WONDERING IF WE WERE EVEN MAKING A DIFFERENCE ?

IN RETROSPECT, LOOKING BACK OVER WHAT OUR MINISTRY HAS ACCOMPLISHED IN HELPING MEN WHO WERE STRUGGLING WITH THEIR (SECRET SIN OF PO*******HY) I REALIZE MY JOURNEY HAS BEEN WELL WORTH THE EFFORT.

IF YOU STRUGGLE WITH ADDICTION TO INTERNET PO*******HY
I WANT YOU TO KNOW, THAT HELP IS JUST A CLICK AWAY.

(DON'T FEEL ALONE) SINCE 66% OF CHRISTIAN MEN, ALSO HAVE THIS PROBLEM. GET HELP NOW ! WWW.PUREFREEDOMMINISTRY.ORG.

PUREFREEDOMMINISTRY.ORG

Hope you have been walking in Purity. Thank you George for teaching for me last week while we were on vacation. I reall...
06/14/2021

Hope you have been walking in Purity. Thank you George for teaching for me last week while we were on vacation. I really needed the break. George is always their to help out and follow up weekly on our guys. KUDO"S
Thursday morning we will be studying a new chapter in our Book: Walking in Truth in a World Full of Lies, By Steve Gallagher.
SATAN'S THIRD GREATEST LIE, (THE KNOWLEDGE OF TRUTH COMES THROUGH OSMOSIS)
Studying God Word is mandatory if you ever expect to grow in Christ. Studying the Bible is the only way of knowing the Truth.
Everywhere you look their are signs of the end times. How fitting that our lesson this week will be: There is only one place where we can go and are guaranteed to find the Truth. And that is in THE BIBLE. You must read it, study it, believe it and then let the Holy Spirit guide you into Truth. Please read this weeks chapter ahead of time so we can discuss it. We live in a world full of lies and deceit, only Gods Word will teach us the truth. and the Truth will set you FREE. You will not learn it though osmosis!

Recent Statistics 70% of ALL men also struggle with addiction to Internet Po*******hy, and it won't go away on it's own, you need to get help. We were blessed to average 16 men at our meetings on Thursday mornings plus 6 call ins. Out of the 22 men, Out of the 22 men we average a 95% success factor, week after week.Iron sharpens Iron. Men need other men for accountability. It flat works. for the past 20 years 95% of the men who attend our meetings weekly walk in sexual purity, week after week. (the other 5% keep falling back into Sin, because they love their Sin more than wanting to be set Free. It's that simple!)

Men need to realize that its OK not to be OK. Here at Pure Freedom Ministry we offer love and support, not condemnation, and you are not judged. That's GODS job.

What we have been studying lately, just might be the most important information we have ever held over the past 20 years.

We have new men attending our meetings each week. So please come and support them. The reason is simple, more men are finding out they are addicted to p**n and want help. Current statistics show that 7 out of 10 men are already addicted. Are you one of Them?
No man has ever beaten this problem on their own! but you already have learned that. You need to be here so that the new men can hear your personal testimonial stories of victory from your po*******hy addiction, this will give them hope that their is light at the end of the tunnel. (Remember how discouraged you were when you first started coming to our meetings!) Some of our guys have been coming for over 10 years.

For you new guys, we are a bunch of Christian men who struggle just like you guys do, but we want to get rid of this crap from our lives. We want to be held accountable by other brothers in Christ. Here at Pure Freedom Ministry we teach what the Truth really is, and what the Bible says about these things. We are not another Men's Bible study, we deal with real issues that men struggle with and use the Bible as our source of information for the Truth. We no longer listen or believe what we read on the Internet ,Social Media, see on TV or read in the newspapers. Most of this stuff is junk, and is a bunch of false advertising and misinformation.

Nothing we could talk about could be more timely or important than the subjects were learning about, especially if you ever want to get totally free from your addiction. Go to our web page @ www.purefreedomministry.org. and read at the bottom of it, anyone of the 8 testimonial letters from men just like yourself and see how they achieved victory over their addiction.

Does it work? well over the past 20 years well over 7,000 men can attest to it success and they have been set FREE indeed.

We have been practicing Social Distancing so their is no excused why some of you can't start coming back. You need to be here and be held accountable by other brothers in Christ.

As parents and Spiritual leaders of your family you need to hold yourself accountable.
your children are watching everything your doing, they will mimic what they see?

If you have never been to one of our Men's Accountability meetings, now is the time to come. All information is on our web site. www.purefreedomministry.org. We meet at my home every Thursday morning from 6:30 AM SHARP until 7:30 AM. What is said here, stays here. Iron sharpens Iron and men need other men for Accountability, especially with a delicate subject like Po*******hy Addiction is discussed..

Hope to see you Thursday morning; (SET YOUR ALARM CLOCKS).

You are in my prayers;
Terry

I HAVE ORDERED AND GOT IN 30 COPIES OF OUR NEW STUDY GUIDE BOOK: GOD'S RECOVERY PLAN. (THE BIBLICAL PATH TO FREEDOM) BY MICHAEL WREN. THEY ARE 10.00 EACH FIRST COME FIRST SERVE. IF YOU ORDER ON LINE IT WILL COST YOU ABOUT 15.00 I ONLY HAVE 7 BOOKS LEFT. We will be starting the new book in a few weeks.


Terry Ermoian
Pure Freedom Ministry,Inc.
8602 Oakdale Drive
Woodway,Texas 76712
Executive/Director
1-254-751-9360

[email protected] E Mail

purefreedomministry.org New web Page

oCDft8Mq0cQ On You Tube Cut and paste to go to the site.

www.followjesustofreedom.com 60 day on line program with mentor support.

www.settingcaptiivesfree.com-2.0 60 day on-line program

The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim liberty to the captives and recovery of sight to the blind, to set at liberty those who are oppressed. Luke 4:18

Great ExpectationsLet's live each day filled with joy and great expectations.In the message "Careful Thought To Our Ways...
05/13/2021

Great Expectations

Let's live each day filled with joy and great expectations.
In the message "Careful Thought To Our Ways" we saw how God is the Director of our steps and how we must carefully (and prayerfully) develop goals and plans which glorify His name. And though our true goal should always be to fully release our life to God and worship Him for all eternity, each day we walk this earth can be filled with a wonderful excitement as we live for Him.

Paul was confined in Rome when he wrote his letter to the Philippians. He didn't know whether he would be set free or executed, but he knew Jesus Christ as his Lord and Savior. Paul had seen God's hand at work and fully understood His love and power. He had completely turned his life over to God and now lived with an excitement at how God would use him to accomplish His plan.

Philippians 1:20
"I eagerly expect and hope that I will in no way be ashamed, but will have sufficient courage so that now as always Christ will be exalted in my body whether by life or by death."

There were times when Paul's situation appeared dismal and without hope, but he had already seen how God was using ALL things to His glory; "It has become clear throughout the whole palace guard and to everyone else that I am in chains for Christ" (Philippians 1:13). Paul's hardship had made it possible for the whole palace guard to hear the gospel message and had encouraged others to "speak the word of God more courageously and fearlessly" (Philippians 1:14). Though his circumstances were difficult and often painful, Paul had learned the true joy of being a vessel through whom God could work!

As we follow Jesus we must develop a view which is not constrained by what we see; "For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal" (2 Corinthians 4:18). He is ALWAYS at work, and always inviting us to join by His side. As we develop an eternal view of this world, we see every situation as working toward His good. As we continue to be transformed into the image of Christ, our trials become a wonderful time of growth, and the interruptions in our plans become exciting God-directed opportunities for ministry.

We spend so much time trying to create our future happiness that we miss the true joy God has for us today. He is calling us to know Him better and love Him more; to experience His love and share His love with others. He has a wonderful and exciting plan for us TODAY! "He is our God and we are the people of His pasture" (Psalm 95:7).

Let's begin each day with a wondrous anticipation: "I can't wait to see what God has for me today!" God has an amazing plan for our life! Let's develop a view which looks and longs for opportunities to draw near, to love Him, and to serve. Let's live each day filled with joy and great expectations.

Have a Christ Centered Day!

Steve Troxel
God's Daily Word Ministries
**** Reading Plan ****

Apr 15 Joshua 11:1-12:24; Luke 17:11-37; Psalm 84:1-12; Proverbs 13:5-6
Apr 16 Joshua 13:1-14:15; Luke 18:1-17; Psalm 85:1-13; Proverbs 13:7-8
Apr 17 Joshua 15:1-63; Luke 18:18-43; Psalm 86:1-17; Proverbs 13:9-10
Apr 18 Joshua 16:1-18:28; Luke 19:1-27; Psalm 87:1-7; Proverbs 13:11

MEN'S THURSDAY MORNING ACCOUNTABILITY MEETING Good morning , Hope your had a great week and are walking in Purity. Thurs...
05/10/2021

MEN'S THURSDAY MORNING ACCOUNTABILITY MEETING
Good morning , Hope your had a great week and are walking in Purity. Thursday morning we will be studying a new chapter in our Book: Walking in Truth in a World Full of Lies, By Steve Gallagher. THE DEATH OF A NATION there is only one place where we can go and are guaranteed to find the Truth. And that is in THE BIBLE. You must read it, study it, believe it and then let the Holy Spirit guide you into Truth. Please read this chapter ahead of time this week, so we can discuss it. We live in a world full of lies and deceit, only Gods Word will teach us the truth. and the Truth will set you FREE.


Recent Statistics 70% of ALL men also struggle with addiction to Internet Po*******hy, and it won't go away on it's own, you need to get help. We were blessed to have 12 men at our meeting last Thursday. Iron sharpens Iron. Men need other men for accountability. It works. for the past 20 years 95% of the men who attend our meetings weekly walk in sexual purity, week after week. (the other 5% keep falling back into Sin, because they love their Sin more than wanting to be set Free. It's that simple!)

Men need to realize that its OK not to be OK. Here at Pure freedom Ministry we offer love and support, not condemnation, and you are not judged. That's GODS job. ALL the men who attended our meeting last week 12 of them, plus 8 men called in and Praise God ALL were walking in Sexual Purity the week before. Congratulation That's 100%, Accountability Flat Works.

What we have been studying lately, just might be the most important information we have ever held over the past 20 years.

We have new men attending our meetings each week. So please come and support them. The reason is simple, more men are finding out they are addicted to p**n and want help. Current statistics show that 7 out of 10 men are already addicted. Are you one of Them?
No man has ever beaten this problem on their own! but you already have learned that. You need to be here so that the new men can hear your personal testimonial stories of victory from your po*******hy addiction, this will give them hope that their is light at the end of the tunnel. (Remember how discouraged you were when you first started coming to our meetings!) Some of our guys have been coming for over 10 years.

For you new guys, we are a bunch of Christian men who struggle just like you guys do, but we want to get rid of this crap from our lives. We want to be held accountable by other brothers in Christ. Here at Pure Freedom Ministry we teach what the Truth really is, and what the Bible says about these things. We are not another Men's Bible study, we deal with real issues that men struggle with and use the Bible as our source of information for the Truth. We no longer listen or believe what we read on the Internet ,Social Media, see on TV or read in the newspapers. Most of this stuff is junk, and is a bunch of false advertising and misinformation.

Nothing we could talk about could be more timely or important than the subjects were learning about, especially if you ever want to get totally free from your addiction. Go to our web page @ www.purefreedomministry.org. and read at the bottom of it, anyone of the 8 testimonial letters from men just like yourself and see how they achieved victory over their addiction.

Does it work? well over the past 20 years well over 7,000 men can attest to it success and they have been set FREE indeed.

We have been practicing Social Distancing so their is no excused why some of you can't start coming back. You need to be here and be held accountable by other brothers in Christ.

As parents and Spiritual leaders of your family you need to hold yourself accountable.
your children are watching everything your doing, they will mimic what they see?

If you have never been to one of our Men's Accountability meetings, now is the time to come. All information is on our web site. www.purefreedomministry.org. We meet at my home every Thursday morning from 6:30 AM SHARP until 7:30 AM. What is said here, stays here. Iron sharpens Iron and men need other men for Accountability, especially with a delicate subject like Po*******hy Addiction is discussed..

Hope to see you Thursday morning; (SET YOUR ALARM CLOCKS).

You are in my prayers;
Terry

I HAVE ORDERED AND GOT IN 30 COPIES OF OUR NEW STUDY GUIDE BOOK: GOD'S RECOVERY PLAN. (THE BIBLICAL PATH TO FREEDOM) BY MICHAEL WREN. THEY ARE 10.00 EACH\, FIRST COME FIRST SERVE. IF YOU ORDER ON LINE IT WILL COST YOU ABOUT 15.00






Terry Ermoian
Pure Freedom Ministry,Inc.

8602 Oakdale Drive

Woodway,Texas 76712
Executive/Director
1-254-751-9360



[email protected] E Mail

purefreedomministry.org New web Page

oCDft8Mq0cQ On You Tube Cut and paste to go to the site.


www.followjesustofreedom.com 60 day on line program with mentor support.



www.settingcaptiivesfree.com-2.0 60 day on-line program



The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim liberty to the captives and recovery of sight to the blind, to set at liberty those who are oppressed. Luke 4:18

Marital Roles: 3 Things To KnowYour marital roles have less influence over who cooks dinner or takes out the trash. They...
05/09/2021

Marital Roles: 3 Things To Know
Your marital roles have less influence over who cooks dinner or takes out the trash. They serve to shape the way you serve your marriage and home.

By Lisa Lakey
As a young wife and a new Christian, I had a completely warped idea of what “marital roles” meant. I couldn’t shake the thought of some 1950s homemaker as the “ideal Christian wife.” Mop the floors, make the beds, put the casserole in the oven promptly at five. Bonus points if I did it in heels, right?

Wrong.

For starters, other than while on maternity leave or finishing my degree, I’ve always worked. I only mop on a semi-regular basis (don’t judge me). And most importantly, I wear Converse far more than stilettos.

My biggest misconception? I assumed our marital roles of husband and wife had more to do with who cooks dinner or takes out the trash than how we each serve our marriage and home.

And all these misconceptions did was create the breeding ground for resentment toward my husband—and toward a God I didn’t think saw me for who I was.

Three things to know about marital roles
I’m not the only one who’s suffered from a marital-role identity crisis. Two of FamilyLife’s most read and searched for articles are centered around what defines a husband’s and wife’s role in marriage (I encourage you to read both). And rightfully so. It’s a common struggle and hot-button issue in this world. Especially right now, after more than a year of everyone working, schooling, and DIY-ing from home dropped an excess of new daily tasks on the kitchen table (check out these stats on the perceived burden).

But within those marital definitions God provides, there are personalities, giftings, history, quirks, and weaknesses shaping how those roles look within the four walls of your home—a unique marital DNA.

If you’re like I was, struggling to balance just who God made you to be alongside the ways He would have you serve your spouse, read these three things to know about marital roles.

1. Know how God defines a husband and wife.
Wives, God called us “helper” to our husbands (Genesis 2:18), to respect—esteem and honor— our men and to submit (calm down, ladies) to their leadership (Ephesians 5:22-24). Husbands, you’re called to sacrificially love, lead (do not hear “boss”/dominate), and cherish your wives—the same way Christ does for us (See 1 Corinthians 11:3 and Ephesians 5:25-30). And that’s just the tip of the iceberg, friends. Because all those beautiful Scriptures about how to treat one another as humans? They’re meant for marriage, too.

Looking back on those early years, I see how I inadvertently added my own commentary to a lot of things.

Scripture: “Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him” (Genesis 2:18).

Lisa’s Commentary, First Edition: Helper, noun—1. a woman who can anticipate her husband’s every need and provide it before he even knows it. 2. An over-zealous wife who often hinders her husband’s growth by “helping.” See also: Savior complex.

Maybe your own faux-commentary states the “helper” doesn’t pursue her own God-given dreams or does the bulk of the household chores. Or maybe it says the leader makes all the important decisions. But nowhere does God’s Word say this.

Both men and women were created equally loved and valued by God. Please do not let anyone convince you otherwise. These marital roles were designed to complement, not control.

Yet … some people do manipulate these roles to their own ends. If you are in an abusive relationship (whether physical, verbal, mental, or spiritual) know that God does not condone behavior that destroys a family or a person. (Wondering if this is you? Read more.)

2. Know your individual giftings and how those help fulfill your marital roles.
My husband and I could not be more different. He’s the extrovert, I’m the introvert. I curl up with a good book at the end of the day, while he prefers a movie where everyone gets blown up. He likes ketchup, I like mustard.

And that’s just surface stuff, y’all. My husband is also the official negotiator of our home. When we’re getting a raw deal by the insurance company or my introverted-ness has reached its limits, he steps in and handles situations like a pro. He both protects and cares for me and I feel loved and led. His natural gifting in this area serves me well.

I, on the other hand, am a peacemaker (where my Enneagram Nines at?!). When done in a non-pushy way, I help my husband bring peace into his relationships with his kids, family, and workplace by helping him see all sides to a situation.

Whether you’re gifted with mad negotiation tactics, being a natural encourager, or even ninja organizational skills, God created those in You to do His good work (Ephesians 2:10). Use them to serve your spouse and home.

What if your gifting is, say, as a woman in leadership? Proverbs 31 is all about a strong Christian woman who’s killing it, buying fields and owning a business (verses 16-18). But she uses those gifts to empower her husband to lead, too (verse 23)—toward his marital role.

365 DEVOTIONS FOR YOUR MARRIAGE ON THE DAYS YOU FEEL LIKE IT (AND ONES YOU DON’T).
3. Know the healthy balance in your home.
Nowhere in the Bible does it say the wife vacuums regularly while the husband takes out the trash. Yet it seems when people often discuss marital roles, dishes and toilet scrubbing are divisive issues. But your roles were meant to serve each other and God through these relationships. Not arguing over who last cleaned the litter box (Read “Who Does the Chores?”).

My husband bathes the dog because I hate it. I wash the laundry because I’m nitpicky about it. He covers all landscaping and gardening because I kill plants. But that’s what works for us in this particular season.

But if one of us feels slighted and doesn’t mention it? That opens the door to bitterness and resentment. And those have no place here.

I’m not saying to turn it into some math equation, tally board, or shoot for a 50/50 marriage (in fact, do none of this—marriage is not a competition). But mutual serving so our spouses can feel loved, cherished, and valued? That’s a trophy in itself.

So talk about what a healthy balance looks like in your home. Who has the time and skills to cook? What chore does your spouse despise that you can cover? And if you have kids, make sure they are chipping in, too.

Marital roles are all about loving and serving well
The new-wife days are behind me now. I still try to overhelp my husband far too often, so maybe I’m still learning there. And I sometimes still feel a little tension in my shoulders when I read the word “submission.” I’m a rather independent girl. But God’s working through that in me, too.

But I have learned this … if you really want to best serve your spouse and fulfill your marital roles, consider John 15:5-9: “I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing … By this my Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit and so prove to be my disciples. As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Abide in my love.”

I can’t do any of this on my own. Not the helping, certainly not the loving. I recently heard a quote that hit me straight in the heart. I wrote it on a sticky note and posted it on the fridge: “Don’t focus on the loving. Focus on the Source of Love.” When I make sure to abide in Christ, the loving will flow out from that relationship into my marriage and role I’m serving in.

“Giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ” (Ephesians 5:20-21).

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Lisa Lakey is the managing editor of digital content for FamilyLife. Before joining the ministry in 2017, she was a freelance writer covering parenting and Southern culture. She and her husband, Josh, have been married since 2004. Lisa and Josh live in Benton, Arkansas, with their two children, Ella and Max.

THE CROSS AND PEACE…peace with God…Romans 5:1Before man can ever know peace, and in particular peace with God, the two s...
05/06/2021

THE CROSS AND PEACE

…peace with God…
Romans 5:1

Before man can ever know peace, and in particular peace with God, the two sides must be dealt with. Man is at enmity with God, and God’s wrath is upon man. Something has to happen on God’s side, and the message of the cross is that this has happened. When our Lord died upon the cross, He was fulfilling every demand of God’s holy law. The righteousness and the justice and the holiness of God were fully satisfied. God poured out His wrath upon sin in the body of His own Son. Christ’s soul was made an offering for sin, and all the demands of God on His holiness were satisfied there. And, thank God, it works on our side also. We have a feeling that God is against us. We think of God as some great ogre or monster waiting to pounce upon us and to punish us; we feel that He hates us and that He is against us and spoiling our lives. We do not want to be bothered by Him and want to go our own way.

Then the moment comes when we look at that cross and see that God sent His only begotten, dearly loved Son into this world in order that He might go to the cross. It was God who sent Him to it. “God was in Christ, reconciling the world unto himself….” It was God who “laid on him the iniquity of us all.” It was God who smote Him and struck Him and gave Him the punishment that we deserved. As you look at the cross, I say again, our whole attitude toward God, and our whole opinion of God, changes completely. There we see that God is love and full of mercy and of compassion, that God loves us with an everlasting love. So you see that by the cross, God’s wrath is satisfied and appeased, and our folly and our rebellion are taken away, and God and man are brought together, and our peace is made with God.

A Thought to Ponder
By the cross God and man are brought together.

From The Cross, pp. 182-183.

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