07/24/2026
“What Qualities Make a Good Friendship?”
A 2015 article from Psychology Today listed 13 essential traits of good friends: trustworthy, honesty,
dependability, loyalty, ability to trust others, empathy, non-judgmental, “a good listener,” supportive in
good times, supportive in bad times, self-confident, humor, and “fun to be around.” These are important factors to think about because we were made by God to be social creatures. Good friendships sustain, guide, support, and give meaning to our lives. Someone to share the triumphs,
victories, successes, and consolations in difficult times. As well as guidance on important decisions
in life. Regardless of how many friends you have, whatever great qualities that your friends possess, and however close they are to you…I suggest that the most important friendship that we can have is with Jesus Christ. Because all human friendships have limitations and will not last
forever during our earthly life.
This Sunday’s readings teach us not to pursue and put our trust in temporal passing things. From the Old Testament we see King Solomon was given the opportunity to be granted any wish from God. King Solomon decides to pass on honor, wealth, or even military strength. Rather he chooses wisdom which pleases God. Because the Israelites saw wisdom as quality that had its source from
God. The person who had wisdom had an intimate closeness with God. This benefits others because the one with Wisdom was able to bring about harmony, justice, and peace to all of their relationships. In the Gospel, Our Lord speaks in parables reminding us that He wants to share with us His kingdom because of His desire for our friendship. And that His desire for our friendship is
open to everyone and worth seeking and sacrificing for in this life.
If good friendships sustain, guide, support, and give meaning to our lives…then there can be no
greater friendship to have than with Jesus. God is eternal and will not only sustain us in this life but
in the next. God is the source of all wisdom and He will guide and support us in our decisions. And
there can be no deeper love that we can experience than that of God’s love for us to give meaning to our lives. The benefits of our friendship with God are not only eternal but also right now…because God shares His peace and wisdom with us. We therefore share God’s wisdom with others to bring about harmony, justice, and peace to our relationships here on earth. Like all good relationships we need to sacrifice to stay in touch with that person by periodically catching up from time to time. With God we do that by going to mass, confession, adoration, and silent prayer. By allowing God to speak to us through the sacraments and prayer, He will reveal himself to be our best friend. The most trustworthy, honest, dependable, supportive, humorous, and even fun friend we can ever have In Christ,
Fr. Brian T. Connolly