03/15/2025
Ten Guidelines for Successful Parenting in the West
Raising our children is a huge responsibility but it can also be the cause of perpetual reward. Allah says, âO you who believe, save yourselves and your families from a FireâŚâ, and â 20hose who believed and their progeny followed them in belief, we will join them with their progenyâŚ(in Jannah)â
Here are some principles that will help us in bringing up our children successfully inshaAllah:
1-Teach your children to have Taqwa (Fear of Allah) and Muraqabah (Knowing that Allah is constantly watching). This can be done by instilling a sense of morality and that if we do something wrong, even if no one sees us, Allah still sees us.
2-Remind them to always check their intentions. Whenever they do anything, they should ask themselves, âIs Allah pleased with this?â
3-Show them the importance of Tazkiyyah, or purifying our hearts. Sit down with them and teach them the morning and evening adhkaar. Teach them the virtues of humility, pardoning, empathy, and avoiding anger, hatred, and greed.
4-Be a good role model for them. Also, make sure they have a mentor, someone they can look up to and feel comfortable asking questions to and seek their advice.
5-Learn the Names of Allah and teach them to your children with their meanings.
6-Erase the stains of worldly desires from their heart. Remind them about the Hereafter, and the temporary nature of this world.
7-Impart in them the importance of referring to the Qurâan and Sunnah for all of our affairs, and praying Istikhara, asking Allahâs guidance and help. âSeek Allahâs help and donât be weak.â
8-Show them the importance of lawful sustenance. Only eat halal and remind them that money earned from haram will have no Barakah.
9-Reduce their access and consumption of social media. Connect them to the Masjid, righteous friends, and involve them in socially and physically beneficial activities.
10-Pray for them, nurture them, and never make dua against them. Ask Allah for their hidayah and to cause the hereafter to be a priority in their lives.