07/11/2026
Friends,
I can't resist a bouncing ball.
I hadn't slept a wink on the flight to Oslo, but after my daughter and I had dinner at the mall, this cybersecurity student gave me a second wind. He was good. I thought he must play on a team, but no, he says, he just plays. He let me beat him 3-2 — at 2-2 he started taking wildly unreasonable shots from downtown.
They know how to have fun with sport in Norway. There's a word for it: idrettsglede — the joy of sport. Years ago my nephew told me that here they don’t keep score in sports until the kids are thirteen. Play first, keep it fun, and the winning takes care of itself. And it does — look at the Winter Olympic medal tables, and now the football team led by Erling Haaland.
Haaland competes ferociously. He puts in the hard yards. He suffers in training. But when you watch him, you can feel it's all built on top of a love of the game. The suffering is something you do for love.
Zen is like this too.
I hope you love the practice. I hope you find lighthearted fun in the sangha and delight in the dharma. I hope you find wonder in zazen. It looks so dull from the outside, but as you get closer and closer to the world of zero, it gets so interesting.
And yes, you'll have to suffer. If you're serious about the practice, you'll sit when you don't feel like sitting. You'll meet the parts of yourself you'd rather not meet: the petty ones, the frightened and frightening ones. Losing the self is genuinely hard, it just is.
One of my favorite Zen books, the cartoon book Unsui, says that nowhere in the Buddhist world is there a yoking of the deadly serious with lightness and humor as in Zen. I do love that mixture.
The joy in Zen isn't an ultimate reward, handed over after years of suffering. It's mixed in all along the way. You go through hardship, I hope, because you love the practice. Maybe as much as Haaland loves football — whether he wins or loses.
In a couple of hours I'll be in downtown Oslo watching Haaland play. Tens of thousands of us will be nervous. I'm sure he will be too.
And I'm sure that at times, he'll be having fun.
Koshin