09/06/2026
Have you ever stopped reaching out first... just to see what would happen? No angry announcement. No dramatic goodbye. You simply stopped sending the first text. Stopped making the call. Stopped suggesting lunch. Stopped being the one who always asked: “How are you?”
And then... nothing happened.
That silence can teach you something you weren't particularly interested in learning.
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Because sometimes we don't realize how much of a relationship we've been carrying until we set our end down. And suddenly there's nothing pulling from the other side. That hurts.
But before we turn that hurt into: “They never cared about me.” maybe we should leave a little room for what we don't know.
People get overwhelmed. People get distracted. Some people love deeply but initiate terribly. Some assume you're busy. Some are fighting battles they haven't told anybody about.
And yes... sometimes the relationship really has become one-sided.
Both things can be true.
We can give people grace without ignoring what their actions are showing us.
This is where I find Jesus particularly interesting.
He loved people enormously... but He didn't chase everybody. He invited. He welcomed. He called. He made room. But when the rich young man walked away, Mark tells us Jesus loved him... and Jesus let him walk.
“Jesus looked at him and loved him.” — Mark 10:21
I keep coming back to those two things together: He loved him. And He didn't force him to stay.
Maybe love doesn't always mean pursuing harder. Maybe sometimes love leaves the door unlocked... without standing in the doorway begging somebody to come through it.
You can care. You can pray for them. You can remain kind. You can even leave room for the relationship to find its way back someday. But you don't have to manufacture both halves of a connection by yourself.
And perhaps there's a little mirror here, too. Is there someone who's usually the one reaching out to you?
Maybe don't wait for them this time. Send the text. Make the call. Suggest the coffee. Tell them: “Hey. I was thinking about you.”
Relationships shouldn't need a scoreboard.
But every once in a while... it's nice to know somebody walked toward you, too. ❤️