06/08/2022
It became evident after our last photo shoot that our group needed some freedom in the area of body image. Lately, I’ve been in prayer about the clutter that needs to go from the team in order for us to better serve the women God has called us to serve. I was surprised to see just how much we were struggling in the area of body shame. To be honest, I sort of thought it didn’t matter spiritually. God has been showing me I was very wrong.
When I told the group we were starting Jess Connolly’s study on Breaking Free From Body Shame, Tammy called me. She said, “I’m going to come to the Bible study but I surely don’t need to break free from any body shame.”
There are no truer words.
At the photo shoot, woman after woman walked up for her turn and quickly pointed out the parts of her that she loathed. She warned us of the size of those parts. She told us what wasn’t working in her outfit. You could hear the words, “ugly, too big, fat, horrible, and disgusting.” Some of them would barely even come in front of the camera. When it was Tammy’s turn, she did what she always does. She walked right up and lit up the entire place with her confidence and self love. She posed this way and that. She told us how good she looked. How much she loved herself. She never once said one negative thing about what we were seeing.
Every time Tam comes over she walks in with that million dollar smile and just shines. She will support you and cheer for you like no one I’ve ever seen. She will make you laugh until your stomach and your face hurt. She will speak life over you and love you up like only she can. And you will never, not ever, hear her say anything critical or negative about her body or anyone else’s. It is the most refreshing thing to experience.
And because Tammy has never once mentioned her thigh size, I’ve never once thought about it. Because she’s never once talked about how much she hates the size of her waist or her jeans, I’ve never once thought about them. Because she’s never made her body the negative focus, all I’ve ever really noticed are the wonderful things about her soul and her spirit that make her who she is. And, in my opinion, whatever is carrying that is beautiful regardless.
Her response to how she views herself is always, “When God made Adam, He called him good. When God made woman, He called her very good. I’m very good.” She’s convinced that if God named her being very good then that’s what she is. And because that’s what she wholeheartedly believes, that’s what shines and oozes out of her no matter what situation she is in.
She lives in absolute freedom.
It leaves you awestruck.
It’s inspiring.
It’s something I want for myself and for every woman I meet more than I can tell you.
What would happen if we could strip off the weight of body shame? Of poor body image? Of self hatred? What kind of freedom would the women of God experience? How much distraction would fall away? What would that lack of clutter leave room for? Would there be less judging, criticizing, competing?
I’m convinced that if we all choose to believe what God speaks over our bodies:
very good,
temples of His Spirit,
vessels for His work,
We would serve ourselves, others, and our God a whole lot better.
We would be a lot less bound.
We would look a lot more like Tam.
Man I want that.
We are looking forward to sharing with you guys what we learn in this study. Where it takes us. And what we lose along the way. What if losing 10 pounds isn’t the blessing? What if losing all the shame is?
He called us very good. Let’s believe it.
Ashley Burke