06/20/2026
WHAT MY DAD WASN’T ABLE TO GIVE ME AS A FATHER….
Happy Father’s Day to all the great men out there who have considered their role as a father as an assignment from God, you men who were willing to put aside your own insecurities and brokenness to raise children secure and unbroken. You have been a dad willing to invest.
While we can’t completely take credit for our children’s successes or their failures, we have a part to play in their upbringing, nonetheless. So many men have not really understood how important their role is as a father. You’re not just a provider, but an emotional connector. Studies show children with active, loving fathers experience significant psychological benefits. Boys gain heavily in emotional regulation, healthy stress management, and positive identity building, while girls benefit primarily through self-esteem, resilience against mental health struggles, and the establishment of healthy relationship boundaries. This all comes primarily through the strength of a male. Mothers play a different role.
Being a single mother of a child from birth, I can testify, no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t fulfill the role of the father. It hurt me to my heart, but this was just what was dealt to us, by no decision of my own. He died and was not there to play his role. A women cannot get pregnant on her own and a man cannot get pregnant. It takes 2 with equal responsibilities. That’s how it was created to be.
If you are a father or have an opportunity to be one, by way of adoption or choice, you are most fortunate. You have the beautiful ability to build character, trust, love, self esteem and provision in a child’s life. A male’s presence is essential to help produce a balanced child.
Men are builders, they add more security to a child’s self worth then woman can. It’s a fact!
If you are a single mother reading this, feeling sorry for your child because of a missing dad, don’t!
I’ve been there. God knows how to restore you and your children.
Ultimately, He is the Provider and the Faithful One. He can redeem all things and He will. Your trust in Him makes all the difference!
This post is to reach the fathers who still have a choice to make a difference, no matter how many years have passed. If you have breath and your children are still living, reach out to them, no matter your shame or fear of rejection. And don’t give up on the first attempt if you are not received. I’m touched to tears, when I hear a man address his male child as “son”!
It’s so beautiful to me! A bonding with a father figure who’s all in, is one of the most precious gifts a man can give no matter the age of the child or the father.
I may feel strongly about this because of my own loss of a father young in life. And most, assuredly, because of his lack of emotional investment. As a young teen I craved it, especially once I started dating and became aware how the boys were treated by their fathers and how engaging they were to me. I realized how much I missed out on that aspect.
My father passed early in my life and it was incredibly difficult because I would never have the opportunity to see my prayers realized. He would never be the father I believed and longed for.
Life happens. However, since my father’s death, God has allowed him to come to me 2 times, once in a dream and once in a visitation. These were during struggling times in my life. God sent him to give instruction and break yokes I was under with a love I had never felt from a natural human being.
By sharing this, I open myself up for criticism of those who know not this kind of experience. But I will take that chance, only to share that; what was unable to be done in the natural, was accomplished in the spirit. I can honestly say I know my dad loves me. And somehow, on the other side, he is still connected to my life. This brings me comfort when life is hard and many people cannot be trusted to love fully who are in my life.
Men, don’t wait to die to show up for your children. Realize the importance of your role. No matter what has happened in the past, your children need you and love you, whether they are aware of it or not. If the mother of your child holds you back through hurt of her own, fight for your kids! They feel the difference. Your love is important and they expect you to fight for them. God will help you!
And to all who had not a father who showed up, I pray for you right now, that God will redeem the years of your endurance of an absent father. God has a way of making up for everything that was lost or is broken!
Sending love and prayers on this Father’s Day to all who read this text,
Pastor LaCricia 🙏🏼♥️
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I’ll see you Sunday IN church!
