11/01/2022
Day 10 is upon us. I skipped 3 days due to somethings I needed to do and also to give everyone time to catchup. I realize everyone doesn't get to it on the day it's posted and they fall behind. The whole thing is to make sure we get each one done and it need not be everyday. Everyday we should continue to practice what we're learning so that we can see change.
Love is unconditional and Romans says..."God demonstrates his own love towards us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. That is what unconditional Love is. Think about why you love your spouse, most would say they're attractive, good looking, good cook, good provider and things like that. What would happen if these things were gone, would we still love them? The obvious answer would be no because we love qualities that they have. If these qualities ended tomorrow our love would be over. The only way love can last a lifetime it has to be unconditional. The real truth is that lasting love is not determined by the one being loved but rather by the one choosing to love. The Bible calls this Agape Love which is different and if your love is build on Philo or Eros love then your relationship is truly unstable. Yes we need friendship and s*x in our relationships but they are not a solid foundation. They change according to our feelings. We can always rekindle our love but it should not determine our commitment level to our marriage. Agape love isn't based on feelings but on a commitment because it is not selfish and is based on a choice.
Sidebar: this agape love cannot be obtained unless you let God begin to establish and grow his love within us.
Our challenge is to do something out of the ordinary for our spouse. Something that will prove to you and our spouse that we love them based on choice. Try washing the dishes or washing her car. Fix her favorite meal or take her to her favorite restaurant. Do it for the sheer joy of being their partner in marriage.
We can get this Agape love if we don't have it because it's obtainable through God.
Peace Griff