06/08/2026
Do You Know This Person?
There is a terribly hard-to-please member of the church. Have you heard of them? They are divisive and have a negative opinion about anything that isn’t exactly what they want. They don’t have a biblical reason why things should be their way and won’t do anything to help, but they won’t hesitate to let others know what they are thinking.
Their name happens to be the same in every congregation. What is their name?
Everybody.
Do you know them?
“Everybody says…” “Everybody thinks…” “Everybody wants…”
It’s an age-old tactic.
Consider when Daniel’s enemies wanted to see him ousted from his position of influence in Darius’ kingdom. After they concocted the plan, they came before the king with the appeal, “All the governors of the kingdom, the administrators and satraps, the counselors and advisors, have consulted together…” (Dan 6:7, Unless otherwise stated: Scripture is taken from the New King James Version®. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Used by permission. All rights reserved). A unanimous agreement would certainly be convincing for a king, but there was a big problem. It wasn’t true. How do we know? Daniel was the chief governor (vv 2-3). He did not elect to make a proclamation against his own prayers to God.
Why did they do it? Because it was effective. The king, persuaded by “everybody,” made a law that was designed to bring suffering to one of his most faithful servants.
The “everybody says” tactic might work in politics, but it has no place in the church.
At best, saying “everybody says” is an exaggeration. Usually, it is a lie designed to artificially inflate influence. Using it avoids accountability and assertive communication. When this happens, some of God’s most faithful servants often end up suffering because they will patiently endure the fallout. After all, they don’t want to hurt the church. The perpetrators, on the other hand, often get their way. As a result, churches can end up being run by spiritually stunted, passive-aggressive, and manipulative brethren.
What can we do so that everyone else doesn’t suffer from “Everybody’s” influence? Leaders must be examples by communicating kindly, clearly, and directly, and encouraging others to do likewise. If someone comes speaking for “Everybody,” or another malcontent, like “Someone” or “Others,” we must remind them of Matthew 18:15 and advise them to direct the party they are representing to the brother, sister, or brethren who need to be addressed.
Oddly, it is often the case that “Everybody” is difficult to find when transparency is called for. “Someone” who said we should do something is unwilling to do anything, and “Others” who always find problems never give solutions.
Instead of getting all of these fake people involved, take care of things that you should yourself. Do you have a grievance? That is okay. Ask yourself, “Is it a matter of opinion or Scripture?” If it’s your opinion, you’ll need to decide if it is helpful to share. Provided that it is, take ownership of it, discuss it forthrightly, and follow up. If it is an issue of right or wrong, go to the person directly involved and speak with them in love. Keep unity, reconciliation, and progress in mind.
Let’s put “Everybody” out of power in the church and accept Jesus as the head.
Van
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