01/28/2014
Good Morning All:
We have received many questions and emails from singles asking questions about finding a mate.
As single believers you should seek God’s direction in finding a mate and follow the Lord’s leading on how to proceed.
It is normal to ask, Is this person I am interested in in line with God’s will? Does he/she Glorify God with their lives?
The absolute most important character to look for in a mate is the fruit of the spirit.
Galatians 5:22-23 -
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. (Galatians 5:22-23 New International Version (NIV)
The Bakers Evangelical Dictionary defines the fruit of the spirit as an active love for God and one's fellowman; a rejoicing in all kinds of circumstances; peacefulness and serenity of character and peacemaking among people; patience and longsuffering with persons, some of whom may not be easy to get along with; kindness toward others; goodness that seeks to aid others; faithfulness and dependability in one's relationships with God and other people; gentleness and meekness in accepting God's will and in dealing with others; and the ability to keep oneself in check and under control in all kinds of circumstances. Paul concludes by observing the obvious: "Against such things as these virtues no law has been enacted.”
Don’t be bamboozled! If you do not see any evidence of good fruit; the person is leading you away from the things of God, do not proceed. This is not someone to pursue.
It is written throughout Scripture what pleases God and how we are to live according to His will. We are commanded to let the light of Christ shine before men thereby bearing the fruit of the spirit which glorifies the Lord. Our thoughts and actions should bring praise to God and led people to Christ.
Don’t let yourself be fooled into actions or decisions that displease Him resulting in sin and consequences lasting from today and far into the future.
Seek God’s plan and purpose for a mate. Trust Him to lead you to the person that is for you.
Deborah & Dannie
