09/06/2026
Love is Hard
By Deacon Jeff Claar
This Sunday’s readings ask something hard of us. They don’t let us stay comfortable or silent. In the first reading (Ezekiel 33:7-9), God tells the prophet Ezekiel that if he sees evil or sin and says nothing, he shares responsibility for the harm that follows. That is a difficult challenge for any Catholic today. We live in a world where speaking out can feel risky; people misunderstand, react harshly, or accuse us of judging. Yet God’s point is simple: silence never heals. Love sometimes requires courage.
Saint Paul then gives us the heart of that courage: love your neighbor as yourself (Romans 13:8-10). That command sounds gentle, but it is demanding. Loving someone “as myself” means I want their good as much as my own. It means I don’t write people off, I don’t nurse grudges, and I don’t let resentment quietly grow. Paul reminds us that every commandment is fulfilled in this one act of love. If I truly love my neighbor, I will speak truth when needed, forgive when needed, and sacrifice when needed.
Jesus brings it all together in the Gospel (Matthew 18:15-20), when He teaches us how to make peace with someone we disagree with. He doesn’t say, “avoid them” or “talk about them behind their back.” He says go to them directly, gently, privately. Try to restore the relationship. Try again if needed. Bring help if needed. But always aim for reconciliation, not victory.
So how do we live this out this week? Maybe it begins with one honest conversation we’ve been avoiding. Maybe it means gently correcting a harmful comment instead of letting it slide. Maybe it means reaching out to someone we’ve been distant from. Maybe it means choosing love over irritation, mercy over pride, and peace over being right.
The readings challenge us, but they also free us. When we speak truth with love, when we treat others with the dignity we desire for ourselves, and when we seek peace instead of division, Christ stands in the middle of it all. He promises to be present wherever two or three gather in His name. That means reconciliation is never something we should attempt alone.
See you at Mass!