08/31/2026
God has designed our closest relationships to be one of the primary ways he sanctifies us as his people. They are like mirrors—showing us who we really are. And they are like furnaces—refining the sin and brokenness that exists in our hearts. The people God has placed closest to us are one of God’s favorite means of making us more like him. God uses these relationships for your good and for his glory.
As you can see, first our passage deals with children. In verses 1-3, Paul gives us two commands and two reasons for keeping those commands. First, the commands. Command #1—verse 1: Children, obey your parents in the Lord… (6:1a). Command #2 verse 2, quoting the fifth commandment: “Honor your father and mother…” (6:2a). Obey and honor. Those are the commands. Now the reasons why. Reason #1—verse 1: for this is right (6:1b). And reason #2—verse 3, still quoting the fifth commandment: “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land” (6:3).
According to the Old Testament, God is to be honored because he is weighty and worthy. But God also commands his people to honor their parents, because that is a way that they can honor him. Because a parent’s responsibility is so awesome, Paul gives them—specifically father —an additional command. When Paul writes to fathers, he urges them: don’t abuse your power and authority. 6:4. Your power and authority, fathers, though real—it should be used to serve your children, not abuse them. It should be used for their discipline and instruction, not your selfish ambition.
📸: Catherine Wood