FWC Couples Minstry

06/04/2026

Even yourselves. Do not give into the lies and doubts from the dark.

Your marriage is a union forged by God! He has sealed your covenant and joined you as one. Let not anyone separate what God brought together. Fight for unity!

Fighting for unity means protecting yourselves from division and divisive people. This is especially true if you're going through a hard time.

Always remember: you can still be unified during disagreement.

Selena and I recently went through a rough patch (months long)—we felt like we were constantly arguing, unhappy, and anxious. We struggled to figure out what the issue was, and to be honest.. we still don't know. However, our times of disagreement never trumped our unity. We could both fight FOR each other through the disagreements because we knew without a shadow of a doubt that we were unified in our goal: closeness and reconciliation... and longevity. Neither of us thought twice about sticking together.

Our unity has been forged through the years—how can a short season of disagreement destroy all that God has built in that time? I'm happy to say we're on the other side of it now (whew!), and it feels incredible. We're more unified than ever.

Fight for your unity, fight for your marriage, and fight for what God has joined together.

Stay fierce,
Ryan

06/03/2026

What'd you pull out of the jar for this month?

05/31/2026

Next couples night out is June 26th. Pot luck theme is macho bar. Please let us know food items you will bring so we don't have duplicates.

05/29/2026

We hope to see you guys tonight men should be excited with all the meats

05/23/2026

The evil one will distract us our speed us up you have to make each other a priority

We live in a time when being busy is worn as a badge of honor. Do more to make more, to accomplish more, to BECOME more. But why? At what cost? If we're not careful, culture's propensity for more (just because more is always better, right?) can distract us from what's truly important, namely, your family.

If you're too busy to spend quality time with your family, you're too busy. This includes your spouse, your children, and those you share gospel community with.

I'd like to ask a few questions for your humble consideration.

1) Are you too busy to spend consistent, meaningful time with your spouse?
2) Are you too busy to disciple others and/or be discipled yourself? In other words, is growing in your faith a regular part of your weekly rhythms?
3) If you have kids, are you so busy about the business of work and life that you easily lose patience with them or are quick to dismiss them so you can "get on with" everything else? Note, we are not perfect in this, and it's painful even to ask.
4) Is what you're busy doing worth the FULL price you're paying in relationships?
If you're reading this, it can easily just make you feel terrible about your priorities. This is true for me (Ryan), even as I write these words. That's not why I'm writing this.

I'm writing this to hopefully get you to lift your gaze just a little bit. To remind you to look upward to Jesus more than you look downward at your watch or phone. I'm writing this to give you (and myself) permission to live a smaller, slower life because Jesus is far bigger, far more precious, and far more active than we ever could be.

Psalm 90:12 says "So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom." Numbering your days starts with realizing your God-given limits. You need rest. You need limited productivity. You need to spend time connecting and reconnecting with those you love most.

I hope this helps someone. And I hope it gives you a sweet sense of freedom. Remember to look up more than you look down. Remember your limits, and that's a good thing. Then live wisely as you keep the most important things in the most important places in your schedule.

Stay fierce,
Ryan

05/23/2026

Next couples night out is May 29th food theme is all the meats you don't want to miss out on this one we've got a great craft.

05/23/2026

As a Christian we should forgive each other all the time for the little things and the big if you're having troubles learning how to forgive reach out to us and we can set you up with the 70 x 7 class that is taught at our church

Forgiveness isn't easy. Anyone who's been truly hurt will agree. In fact, many who have walked the path of forgiveness in their marriage will tell you that it's a journey, and you often start it without fully knowing where you'll finish. It takes grit and guts to start down the path, and even more to finish. But as always, you can have hope in Christ.
As followers of Jesus, we're taught to "forgive each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you." (Eph 4:32, see also Col 3:13) Here's the catch: there's nothing in there about it being an easy process. Forgiveness is messy, it takes time, and it takes work.
Perhaps that's why Dr. Chapman said it's a commitment and not a feeling?
God's command to forgive is for our own good. Harboring bitterness and unforgiveness is like poison. It kills you from the inside out over time. Forgiveness in light of God's forgiveness, however, is always the cure.
Does forgiving mean you immediately trust again? No. Trust takes time to rebuild. Does forgiveness mean you stop feeling pain at times? Not necessarily. Healing takes time and help from outside counsel. Does forgiving your spouse mean you're committed to reconciling as far as it's up to you? Yes, it does. But that's why it's a commitment. True reconciliation isn't a quick fix. It takes dedication, communication, work, rebuilding trust, and plenty of time.
Whatever you've dealt with, and whatever you're currently dealing with, we urge you to hope in Christ. Look to him and behold the gift of forgiveness you've received when you are in him. He, of all men, has every right to feel wronged and to hold our wrongs against us, yet he freely forgives. He forgives, he loves, and he accepts because of his merit, not yours. Let that sink in.
If you're feeling hurt, sad, or hopeless right now, our hope is that you'd know that forgiveness is possible though it may not feel like it at times. Trust God as you forgive. It's a journey, and at times the path may feel unclear—you won't always feel it—but your destination is sure.
Stay the course and trust your Guide; he is faithful to bring you to the other side.
Stay fierce,
Ryan & Selena

05/20/2026

05/07/2026

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Something to do together

Make Your Own Suncatcher

05/03/2026

WIVES, GOD NEVER ASKED YOU...
..to carry the spiritual provision of the home..to initiate the healing process on your own..to be the one always going first in humility..to operate like the spiritual leader because “someone has to”..to hold the emotional, mental, and covenantal weight of the marriage

HERE’S WHAT HE IS ASKING OF YOU:
..to walk in wisdom (Proverbs 14:1)..to speak words of repentance (Luke 6:45)..to pair righteous works with your faith (James 2:26)..to adorn yourself with gentleness and quiet strength (1 Peter 3:4)..to build your house in wisdom, not foolishly tear it down (Pro 14:1)..to obey the Spirit, even if your spouse doesn’t yet obey Him (Rom 12:18)

Many wives are exhausted because they’re trying to wear a mantle God never gave them…and are neglecting the one He did.

You weren’t called to lead your husband into wholeness,
so stop striving in roles that aren’t yours...and start sowing in the areas He has entrusted to you.

“She who is truly a daughter of Sarah… does what is right without being frightened by any fear.” —1 Peter 3:6 AMP

Wives, there is a righteous and an unrighteous way to stand for your marriage.

One leads to peace.
The other leads to striving, confusion, and constant contention.

👉🏽 Comment “I WILL STAND” if you are ready to lay down what was never yours to carry and pick up the mantle God actually graced you for.