09/29/2021
I hear from many of you who are ready to give up, ready to compromise on things that matter deeply to you in dating. For many of you and my beloved single friends, it currently feels as thought it will be impossible to find a man they won’t have to compromise on these things for.
I will never forget one conversation I had with a woman when I was in Australia. She said the man she was very seriously dating did not want to have children, and she had a deep desire for this. She told me she was on the brink of compromising and agreeing to marry and never have children because she just didn’t think she would ever find anyone else. I told her with great love that compromising on something that mattered this deeply to her would be one of the worst decisions she could ever make in her life. I still believe that. And I don’t know what she chose.
I say this with a heart of total compassion, love, and constant prayer for revival in dating and relationships…the things that matter most to you? Your desire for children? Your faith? Your desire to never use contraception? Your desire to save physical intimacy for marriage? Do not compromise on them because you are afraid you will never find anyone else. Do not compromise on what matters most to you, no matter how much it may seem like a man you don’t have to compromise for will never walk into your life.
It is not worth it.
He is not worth it.
It will never be worth it.
Do not give up and say, “Whatever.” Continue to stand firm in what matters most to you when you consider the lifetime commitment of marriage. I have only ever met women who regret doing otherwise.
