06/03/2026
Created for Growth
Recently my house has been hit (for the fourth time) with the thing every home with kids experiences at least once...growing pains.
I'm sure all cases of growing pains are the same; they show up as soon as it's bedtime. Currently, it's Hallie, our youngest daughter's turn with the bedtime leg pains. As soon as I get her tucked in and get back downstairs I hear, "Mommm my legs hurt!" I go back upstairs, put a weighted blanket on her (I'm sure there is no evidence backing this actually helps, but I sure do try to convince her it does) and rub her legs.
And every time, I end up telling her the same thing that I've said three times before: “It’s okay. Your body is growing.”
The other night while I sat there with her, it hit me how true that is in so many areas of life. Growth almost always comes with some discomfort. Not just physically, but spiritually, emotionally, and mentally too.
I wish growth looked a little more exciting sometimes. Like one breakthrough moment where suddenly you feel confident and capable and mature. But most real growth doesn’t happen like that. Most of the time it looks slow and stretching and uncomfortable. It looks like learning as you go. It looks like taking a deep breath and doing the thing anyway. It looks like trusting God before you feel ready.
The last couple of years have stretched me in ways I didn’t expect. There have been opportunities and responsibilities that honestly felt bigger than I thought I could handle and hiding under a weighted blanket sounded like a much better option. More than once, I’ve thought, I don’t know if I can actually do this. And if I’m being real, I don’t naturally enjoy being stretched. I like staying in lanes where I already feel confident.
But God has this way of calling us into places that require us to depend on Him instead of ourselves.
When I look back over my life, almost every season where I’ve grown the most started with fear, insecurity, or me wondering if God accidentally overestimated me. But on the other side of those seasons, I can always see His faithfulness. Not because I suddenly became amazing overnight, but because He kept growing me little by little.
Truthfully, I think we expect growth to feel more dramatic than it usually does. Most of the time it’s pretty ordinary. It’s showing up again. Trying again. Taking the step even while you still feel nervous.
One of the sweetest reminders of that lately has been watching that same daughter, Hallie work so hard at school. Our daughter Hallie has dyslexia and learning can be a challenge for her. Every quarter when progress reports come home, we celebrate growth. Not perfection. Growth.
Sometimes the improvement feels huge. Sometimes it’s smaller than we hoped for. But every report has shown movement forward. Watching her has reminded me that growth is still worth celebrating even when you haven’t fully arrived yet.
We don’t look at our kids and say, “Well, you’re not completely where you need to be, so none of this matters.” We celebrate every step forward because growth takes courage. It takes perseverance. It takes continuing when things feel difficult. I think God probably sees us the same way more often than we realize.
Maybe your growth this year has looked spiritual. Maybe emotional. Maybe you’re learning to set boundaries. Maybe you’re healing from something painful. Maybe you’re learning how to trust God again. Maybe you’re still carrying grief and somehow still getting up every morning and moving forward anyway. All of it counts and all of it deserves to be recognized and celebrated.
Philippians 1:6 says, “And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.”
God isn’t frustrated by the process the way we are. He understands that growth takes time. Faith grows over time. Strength grows over time. People grow over time. And sometimes the uncomfortable stretching you’re feeling right now might actually be evidence that God is still growing something in you.
We were created for growth, even when it’s slow, uncomfortable, and comes with a few growing pains along the way.
Kellie Owens