07/01/2026
At the beginning of the 1960’s, Fr. Seraphim Rose predicted what the s*xual revolution would mean for those who went through it and those who come after. He says,
“In the ‘free world’ a great exploitive force is that of ‘s*x.’ It seems to be today a vast, impersonal power that holds men in its jaws, leading them on not only to reproduce their kind but - thanks to the many devices for ‘exploiting’ this power more efficiently - to indulge this impersonal force for its own sake. Some may object that ‘s*x’ is indeed a very ‘personal’ thing, but nothing could be further from the truth. Like all other human impulses, the s*xual instinct may be subordinated to the power of personality and attain its proper place as an expression of married, chaste love; but only the most naive romanticist could affirm that such is the ‘s*x’ that is exalted today. S*x as pleasure, as an expression of man’s freedom to do as he pleases: this is what it means to be contemporary man. Marriage, [when] banished from the Church, has become a mere license for s*xual activity; s*x has become the basis of marriage, another case of the ‘lower’ usurping the role of the higher. The easy divorce laws make of marriage as practiced by most moderns merely a kind of legalized promiscuity.
“Promiscuity is indeed the rule. S*x is good, wholesome, free, say the moderns, use it freely with whomever you please. This attitude is revealed in the face of contemporary man: that blank, greedy, faceless, totally outward face, hungry for ‘experience’ of any sort, ready to exploit - let us not deny the evidence of those horrible faces - who devour anyone and everyone with whom they come in contact. How different, how utterly foreign and incomprehensible to contemporary man, is the face of the Christian ascetic, who by striving to master instead of indulge the passions reveals an inwardness undreamed of by the moderns. These moderns think they are being ‘realistic’ when they frankly admit their slavery to s*xual impulses; well, of course, they are being ‘realistic’ since such slavery is indeed true of weak men, men who will not strive for anything higher than the obvious - but they are surely indulging in the wildest fancies when they think that by doing this they become ‘free.’ ‘S*xual freedom’: this coupling of words that represent totally incompatible realities (since ‘s*x’ as practiced today is slavery) is but another instance of that modern incompetence to do anything but follow one’s passions and accept whatever vulgar slogan justifies this aim” (Fr. Seraphim Rose: His Life and Works, 151-152).
Here, Fr. Seraphim’s diagnosis of the sickness of the modern world is even more true today than when he wrote it, especially with so much easier access to po*******hy, a hook up culture that is fueled by dating apps, and non-monogamy that is championed as a permanent lifestyle choice or orientation. But the prognosis is also the same - Christian asceticism centered on the life of the Holy Orthodox Church: prayer, fasting, alms-giving, confession, godly relationships with a spiritual father, godparents, and brothers and sisters in Christ; keeping the commandments. These are the things that help us to become persons as we encounter God and then personalize every aspect of our lives - including s*x and s*xuality. May God have mercy on us!