06/06/2026
LESSON 6 - SPEAKING THE TRUTH IN LOVE
Acts 17:11 - 11 Now, the Berean Jews were of more noble character than those in Thessalonica, for they received the message with great eagerness and examined the Scriptures every day to see if what Paul said was true. (NIV)
Hebrews 5:11-14 - 11 We have much to say about this, but it is hard to make it clear to you because you no longer try to understand. 12 In fact, though by this time you ought to be teachers, you need someone to teach you the elementary truths of God’s word all over again. You need milk, not solid food! 13 Anyone who lives on milk, being still an infant, is not acquainted with the teaching about righteousness. 14 But solid food is for the mature, who by constant use have trained themselves to distinguish good from evil.
1 Peter 3:15, 16 - 15But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect, 16 keeping a clear conscience, so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their slander.
Proverbs 27:17 - 17 Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend. (KJV)
Matthew 28:19, 20 - 19 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”
GETTING STARTED What are some ways that people have spoken “the truth in love” to you? [Your Response Here]
SETTING THE STAGE We all have “blind spots” in our lives where we cannot see—or do not want to believe—the truth about ourselves. Some of our blind spots are caused by our vanity. We refuse to acknowledge the truth about ourselves, even though it is apparent to everyone else in our lives. Some of our blind spots are caused by pride. We convince ourselves that we are knowledgeable or skilled in certain areas when we actually are not. Some of our blind spots are caused by willful ignorance. We do not want to know the truth because we are afraid it might constrain us or ruin our fun. The believers in the city of Corinth had many spiritual blind spots . . . issues that the apostle Paul knew he needed to call to their attention in love so that their vision could be corrected. As previously noted, the apostle wrote the letter we know as 1 Corinthians to point out certain problems in the church, address questions the believers had, and admonish and encourage them to live according to the principles they had been taught. The believers had generally accepted this advice and taken steps to put it into practice. But then . . . opponents of Paul arrived on the scene and called his sincerity, integrity, and motives into question. As a result, many of Paul’s former friends in the Corinthian church were now rejecting him and questioning his authority. Paul was saddened by this reaction—but he did not allow it to deter him. He did not change his approach in ministering to the Corinthians or recant any of his previous statements. Rather, he drafted what is referred to as the “severe” or “sorrowful” letter to point out how the believers had been blinded to the truth. In this section of 2 Corinthians, Paul recounts the joy that he experienced when he learned from his coworker Titus that the believers in the city had taken his letter to heart. As painful as it had been for him to write those words, it appears that it had all been worth it. The believers in Corinth still liked and respected Paul . . . which was a good step toward their reconciliation.
EXPLORING THE TEXT
A Renewed Appeal
(2 Corinthians 7:1–4) 1 Therefore, having these promises, beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God. 2 Open your hearts to us. We have wronged no one, we have corrupted no one, we have cheated no one. 3 I do not say this to condemn; for I have said before that you are in our hearts, to die together and to live together. 4 Great is my boldness of speech toward you, great is my boasting on your behalf. I am filled with comfort. I am exceedingly joyful in all our tribulation.
1. Paul opens this section by reminding the believers of the promises that he has just cited from the Old Testament (see 6:16–18). How should the believers live in light of having received all these promises from God (see verse 1)? [Your Response Here]
2. Paul renews his appeal for the believers to open their hearts to him. What defense does he offer here for his actions? How does Paul describe the intent behind all of the words, sermons, and teachings that he had given to them (see verses 2–4)? [Your Response Here]
Titus’ Report to Paul (2 Corinthians 7:5–7)
5 For indeed, when we came to Macedonia, our bodies had no rest, but we were troubled on every side. Outside were conflicts, inside were fears. 6 Nevertheless God, who comforts the downcast, comforted us by the coming of Titus, 7 and not only by his coming, but also by the consolation with which he was comforted in you, when he told us of your earnest desire, your mourning, your zeal for me, so that I rejoiced even more.
3. Paul now returns to his discussion of the “severe” or “sorrowful” letter that he mentioned writing (see 2:1–11). What was Paul’s situation in Macedonia when he received the report back from Titus on how the Corinthians had received the letter (see verse 5)? [Your Response Here]
4. What effect did Titus say the letter had on the believers? What effect did this news have on the apostle Paul (see verses 6–7)? [Your Response Here]
The Corinthians’ Repentance (2 Corinthians 7:8–12)
8 For even if I made you sorry with my letter, I do not regret it; though I did regret it. For I perceive that the same epistle made you sorry, though only for a while. 9 Now I rejoice, not that you were made sorry, but that your sorrow led to repentance. For you were made sorry in a godly manner, that you might suffer loss from us in nothing. 10 For godly sorrow produces repentance leading to salvation, not to be regretted; but the sorrow of the world produces death. 11 For observe this very thing, that you sorrowed in a godly manner: What diligence it produced in you, what clearing of yourselves, what indignation, what fear, what vehement desire, what zeal, what vindication! In all things you proved yourselves to be clear in this matter. 12 Therefore, although I wrote to you, I did not do it for the sake of him who had done the wrong, nor for the sake of him who suffered wrong, but that our care for you in the sight of God might appear to you.
5. Paul’s “severe letter” had caused a degree of distress on the believers. In spite of this, why did Paul say that he did not regret writing it (see verses 7–10)? [Your Response Here]
6. What did Paul say the believers’ godly sorrow would produce in them (see verses 11–12)?
[Your Response Here]
The Joy of Titus (2 Corinthians 7:13–16)
13 Therefore we have been comforted in your comfort. And we rejoiced exceedingly more for the joy of Titus, because his spirit has been refreshed by you all. 14 For if in anything I have boasted to him about you, I am not ashamed. But as we spoke all things to you in truth, even so our boasting to Titus was found true. 15 And his affections are greater for you as he remembers the obedience of you all, how with fear and trembling you received him. 16 Therefore I rejoice that I have confidence in you in everything.
7. Paul has thus far described his own joy (and relief) at hearing the Corinthians had responded favorably to his “severe letter.” But how did Titus feel after he spent time with the Corinthian believers (see verse 13)? [Your Response Here]
8. Paul had “boasted” to Titus about the church in Corinth—and now they had proved that his high opinion of them was justified. What was it about the believers in Corinth that caused Titus to feel especially affectionate toward them (see verses 14–15)? [Your Response Here]
REVIEWING THE STORY Paul reminded the believers in Corinth of the promises they had received from God and again appealed for them to open their hearts to him. He stated that he had done nothing to deserve their criticism and made it that he didn’t want to condemn them but restore his fellowship with them. Paul then expressed his joy at receiving the good news from Titus that the believers had responded well to his “severe letter.” He recognized that his letter had caused them distress but did not apologize for his words. After all, that sorrow had led to their repentance. He ended the chapter by recalling Titus’s personal love and affection for the Corinthians.
9. What did Paul encourage the Corinthian believers to do (see 2 Corinthians 7:1)? [Your Response Here]
10. What condition was Paul in when he came to Macedonia (see 2 Corinthians 7:5)? [Your Response Here]
11. What is the difference between godly sorrow and the sorrow of the world (see 2 Corinthians 7:10)? [Your Response Here]
12. What did Paul rejoice about concerning the Corinthian Christians (see 2 Corinthians 7:16)? [Your Response Here]
APPLYING THE MESSAGE
13. When was the last time you felt genuine sorrow over something that you did? [Your Response Here]
14. What are some of the positive effects that godly sorrow has produced in your life? [Your Response Here]
REFLECTING ON THE MEANING
Paul told the Corinthian believers, “For even if I made you sorry with my letter, I do not regret it” (2 Corinthians 7:8). After all he had nothing to regret, for he was speaking the truth about them in love. If we follow Paul’s example and likewise speak God’s truth in love, there is a good chance we will have to deal with offended reactions and hurt feelings—just as Paul did. When this occurs, we need to keep the following points in mind.
First, we need to remember we are responsible for the message but not the response. In one of Jesus’ parables, he compared spreading the message of the gospel to a farmer sowing seeds (see Matthew 13:1–9, 18–23). The seed either flourished or failed depending on the ground (people’s hearts) on which it fell. The farmer was not responsible for the outcome—just for sowing the seeds.
Second, we need to remember that popularity is overrated. Generally speaking, the more that we try to please other people in our lives, the less that we will seek to please God. Popularity can alter our perspectives and our priorities. Those who desire it will be tempted to compromise their principles to attain it, while those who have popularity will be tempted to compromise their principles in order to maintain it. For Christians, such compromises can damage our witness and cause us to miss out on God’s plans for our lives. As Jesus put it, “For what profit is it to a man if he gains the whole world, and is himself destroyed or lost?” (Luke 9:25).
Third, we need to remember that godly sorrow is good. Sorrow is often the result of the Holy Spirit’s work in our conscience—our realization that something is wrong. Sorrow is the motivation for us to change and compels us to admit our wrongdoing, ask for forgiveness, and restore our relationship with God. When this occurs in our hearts, what was once painful becomes something joyous.
This is the exact message that Paul wanted the believers in Corinth to understand.
JOURNALING YOUR RESPONSE
What is the hardest thing about speaking the truth in love? [Your Response Here]
Credit:
Jeremiah, David . 2 Corinthians: The Call to Reconciliation (Jeremiah Bible Study Series) (p. 72). Harper Christian Resources. Kindle Edition.