Kai Yuan Temple of Pennsylvania Buddhist Association-美国賓州佛教會開元寺

Kai Yuan Temple of Pennsylvania Buddhist Association-美国賓州佛教會開元寺 美国賓州佛教會開元寺

05/01/2026

佛法开示:借故事说真理

诸位善知识,今日不说深奥理论,且听几个故事。故事里有佛法,佛法里有故事。五千文字,如五百颗念珠,一颗一颗串起来,便是一条解脱之路。愿诸位以心听闻,以心体会。

佛法如蜜,中边皆甜;佛法如月,指月之指。故事是指头,真理是月亮。莫执着指头,要顺着指头看见月亮。

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第一个故事:捧着花的人——放下便得自在

缘起

很久以前,有一个年轻人,名叫无忧。他出生高贵,家财万贯,相貌英俊,妻子贤惠,儿子聪慧。在外人看来,他是世界上最幸福的人。可是,无忧一点也不快乐。

他整天愁眉苦脸,吃不下饭,睡不着觉。朋友问他:“你什么都有,为什么不快乐?”

无忧说:“正因为什么都有,我才害怕失去。我害怕父母老去,害怕妻子离开,害怕儿子生病,害怕家道中落。我害怕的太多了,所以我不快乐。”

朋友说:“那去找佛陀吧。他能解决一切问题。”

无忧听了,立刻动身。

见佛

他来到祇园精舍,见到佛陀安详地坐在树下,如金山般光明巍巍。

无忧顶礼之后,说:“世尊,我心中有千千结,求您为我解开。”

佛陀微笑着说:“你不是第一个来求解脱的人,也不会是最后一个。我问你,你来的时候,路过一片花园,看见了许多花,是吗?”

无忧说:“是的,世尊。花园里开满了鲜花,美极了。”

佛陀说:“那你为什么不摘几朵来供佛呢?”

无忧说:“我本来想摘,但又怕摘了之后,花会凋谢。不摘,花还开在枝头;摘了,它就死了。所以我没有摘。”

佛陀说:“这就是你的问题。你怕花谢,所以不敢摘花;你怕失去,所以不敢拥有。你把手握得紧紧的,以为这样就能留住什么,其实什么也留不住。”

佛陀说完,从地上拾起一朵落花,放在无忧手里:“这朵花,已经离开了枝头,它不再害怕凋谢了。因为它已经接受了无常。”

无忧看着手里的落花,若有所思。

开示

佛陀说:“你害怕失去,是因为你认为那些东西是你的。可是,世间哪一样东西真正是你的?父母是你的吗?他们终会老去。妻子是你的吗?缘分尽时各奔东西。财富是你的吗?来时空空,去时空空。连这个身体,也只是暂借你用几十年,到时要还给大地。”

“你之所以痛苦,是因为你执着‘有’,害怕‘无’。执着生,所以害怕死;执着聚,所以害怕散;执着得,所以害怕失。可是,有生必有死,有聚必有散,有得必有失。这是自然的法则,谁也改变不了。”

“你不需要改变外境,只需要改变观念。花开了,欣赏它的美丽;花谢了,接受它的归宿。人来,欢喜;人走,祝福。得到,感恩;失去,放下。这样,无论外境如何变化,你的内心都能安然。”

无忧问:“可是世尊,说起来容易,做起来难。怎样才能做到放下呢?”

佛陀说:“我教你一个方法。你回去之后,每天早晚各花十分钟,安静坐下,闭上眼睛,观察自己的呼吸。当害怕的念头生起时,不要排斥它,也不要跟着它,只是看着它。你会发现,害怕只是一个小小的念头,来无影去无踪。你看它看得久了,它就自己消失了。”

“同时,你要常常思维:一切法无常,一切法无我。身体会老,财富会用尽,聚散本无常。我不是这些,这些也不是我。我只是因缘和合的一个过客。”

“修行就像种花。你不能揠苗助长,也不能放任不管。你需要每天浇水、施肥、除草,然后静静地等待。某一天,花自然就开了。放下,也是这样。每天练习,每天观察,某一天,你突然就放下了。”

无忧听了,欢喜而去。

他依教奉行,每天观呼吸,思维无常。三年后,他再次拜访佛陀,已经是一个容光焕发、自在安详的人。

佛陀问他:“还害怕吗?”

无忧笑着说:“不怕了。因为我知道,没有什么可失去的。”

故事的真义

这个故事告诉我们:放下不是放弃,而是不再执着。你依然可以拥有,只是内心不抓取。就像手捧沙子,松松地捧着,很多沙子存留;紧紧地握着,沙子反而流失得快。

世间万物,皆是如此。你越执着,越痛苦;越放下,越自在。

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第二个故事:毒箭与医病——不要浪费时间在无用的问题上

缘起

佛陀时代,有一个比丘名叫摩罗鸠。这个人很聪明,但聪明反被聪明误。他整天思考一些形而上学的问题:世界是永恒的,还是不永恒的?世界是有边的,还是无边的?生命和身体是同一个,还是不同的?如来死后是存在,还是不存在?

这些问题像毒箭一样扎在他心里。他吃不下饭,睡不着觉,修行也修不进去。他越想越烦,越烦越想,陷入了死循环。

有一天,他实在忍不住了,去找佛陀:“世尊,如果您不回答我这些问题,我就还俗,不跟您学了!”

比喻

佛陀平静地看着他,说:“摩罗鸠,我跟你讲个故事。”

“有一个人,被毒箭射中了。他的家人赶紧要请医生来救他。可是这个人说:‘等一下!我要先弄清楚:射我的人是男人还是女人?是高种姓还是低种姓?是哪个村子的?他用的是什么弓?弓弦是什么材料做的?箭杆是什么木头?箭羽是什么鸟的羽毛?箭头是什么金属?这些问题不搞清楚,我就不拔箭治疗。’”

“摩罗鸠,你说这个人会怎么样?”

摩罗鸠说:“世尊,在他搞清楚这些问题之前,他早就毒发身亡了。”

佛陀说:“正是如此。摩罗鸠,我没有说世界是永恒的还是有边的,也没有说如来死后存在还是不存在。因为这些问题对解脱生死毫无帮助。不管世界是永恒还是不永恒,人间都有生老病死,都有苦需要解脱。不管如来死后存在还是不存在,你现在都需要断除贪嗔痴。”

“我教的是什么?我教导苦、苦的原因、苦的熄灭、灭苦的方法。就像医生只关心如何拔箭解毒,不关心射箭的人是男是女。你只需要知道:四圣谛能让你解脱。至于那些形而上学的问题,不是你不能知道,而是你现在不需要知道。等你解脱了,自然就知道了。现在把时间花在这些问题上,就像中毒的人研究箭的来源一样,只会浪费生命。”

开示

佛陀接着说:“摩罗鸠,修行人最忌讳的就是‘戏论’——没有意义的空谈。你一天到晚想世界有没有边际,生死如何相续,这些问题想一万年也不会有答案。因为答案不在头脑里,在你的实修中。”

“你把时间花在打妄想上,别人已经把心修好了。等你把问题想明白,头发都白了,牙齿都掉了,死亡已经到了门口,你还是一无所有。”

“修行就像渡河。你站在此岸,彼岸是涅槃。你要做的事,是赶快找船、找船夫,渡过河去。而不是站在岸边研究:河有多深?水从哪里来?河里的鱼是什么品种?等你研究完,天都黑了,你还在原地。”

摩罗鸠听了,惭愧地低下了头:“世尊,我明白了。我一直在问‘箭从哪里来’,却忘了自己中了毒箭。我一直在研究‘河有多深’,却忘了自己需要渡河。从今以后,我不再戏论,专心修行。”

从此,摩罗鸠不再问那些无用的问题,一心修习四念处。不久之后,他证得了阿罗汉果,解脱了一切烦恼。那时,他不需要再问“如来死后存在还是不存在”了,因为他已经亲证了不生不灭的境界。

故事的真义

这个故事告诉我们:修行不是研究哲学。很多学佛的人,把佛法当作知识来研究,谈玄说妙,引经据典,说起来头头是道,可是一遇到境界,一点也用不上。这就是“说食不饱”——光说食物的名字,永远填不饱肚子。

佛法是要实践的。你不需要搞清楚所有理论才开始修行。就像你不需要懂得飞机的制造原理才能坐飞机。你只需要知道:有苦,苦有因,苦能灭,有灭苦的方法。然后,依教奉行,一步步走下去。

不要浪费时间在无意义的妄想和争论上。世界的边际在哪里?先解决自己内心的边际——贪嗔痴。如来死后怎样?先管好自己活着的时候怎样。

修行,从脚下开始,从当下开始。

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第三个故事:抓住蛇的智慧——如何正确理解佛法

缘起

有一个年轻比丘,名叫善观。他很聪明,记忆力非常好,听了佛陀讲经,一遍就能背诵。他因此而骄傲,到处跟人辩论。

有一次,佛陀讲了《究竟涅槃经》,经中说:“一切法无我,诸法皆空。”善观听了,记住了。他回到自己的住处,开始思维:“既然一切法无我,那杀人也没有罪过了,因为没有人被杀,也没有人杀人。既然诸法皆空,那造业也没有果报了,因为业也是空的。”

他想通了这一点,大喜过望。从此,他行为放纵,不再持戒。吃饭时挑三拣四,本来过午不食,他饿了就吃。见到女人,也不避嫌,还跟人说:“你也是空,我也是空,空对空,有什么好怕的?”

其他比丘看不下去了,去报告佛陀。

比喻

佛陀把善观叫来,问他:“善观,听说你认为‘一切法无我’就是什么都不用管了?”

善观说:“是的,世尊。既然是空,那善恶也是空,持戒犯戒也是空,何必执着?”

佛陀说:“善观,我跟你讲个故事。”

“有一个人,想学抓蛇。他找到一个老师,老师教他:‘抓蛇的时候,要用夹子夹住蛇头,不能用手直接抓,否则会被咬。’这个人听完,心想:‘我知道了。’于是他跑到野外,看到一条毒蛇,直接用手去抓。蛇回头咬了他一口,他中毒倒地,差点死了。”

“善观,这个人为什么被咬?”

善观说:“因为他没有用正确的方法抓蛇。”

佛陀说:“正是。同样的道理,佛法就像一条蛇。理解得对,抓住蛇头,不但不会被咬,还能从中获益——蛇毒可以入药,救了很多人。理解得不对,抓住蛇尾,蛇回头咬你,反而害了自己。”

“你说‘一切法无我’,这没错。但你只理解了文字,没有理解真义。‘一切法无我’是说没有一个独立的、恒常的‘我’,但不是说没有因果。就像虽然梦里没有真实的‘我’,但如果你在梦里杀人,还是会害怕被抓。虽然梦是假的,但梦中的感受是真实的。”

“你说‘诸法皆空’,空的是自性,不是断灭。因果不空,业力不空。你放纵自己,造下恶业,将来果报现前,谁能代替你受?”

开示

佛陀接着说:“善观,佛法有‘二谛’——世俗谛和胜义谛。世俗谛说:有因果、有善恶、有六道轮回。胜义谛说:一切法无自性,毕竟空。这两个不但不矛盾,而且互相依存。”

“不理解世俗谛,就不能理解胜义谛。不遵守世俗谛的因果法则,就不可能证得胜义谛的空性。就像不学会游水,就谈不上‘游泳时不要执着水’。你连水都不会游,谈什么执着不执着?”

“我常跟你们说:‘先持戒,后修定,再修慧。’不能颠倒。你倒过来了,空谈智慧,不要戒律,就像不会游水的人跳进大海,只有死路一条。”

“见地要高,行持要稳。见地上要知道‘一切法空’,行持上要‘谨慎因果’。”这就是‘高高山顶立,深深海底行’。”

善观听了,羞愧难当,跪在地上忏悔:“世尊,我错了。我误解了空义,放纵自己,真是该死。”

佛陀慈悲地说:“知错能改,善莫大焉。回去好好持戒,从基础做起。空性的道理,不是你现在的境界能谈的。先把心修清净了,空性自然现前。”

善观从此谦虚好学,脚踏实地地修行。十年后,他成为了一个真正的善知识,不但自己解脱了,还度了很多人。

故事的真义

这个故事告诉我们:佛法不能错解,更不能拿来做放纵的借口。“空”不是没有,“无我”不是没有因果。恰恰相反,正因为一切法空,所以因果才成立——因为没有一个固定的“我”在受报,但业力相续,如环无端。

很多人学佛,学偏了。一说“放下”,就什么都不干了;一说“随缘”,就变成随便了;一说“空”,就否定一切了。这是进入“断灭空”,比不学佛还糟糕。

正确的态度是:理上知道空,事上谨慎因果。不执着有,也不堕入空,行于中道。

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第四个故事:调琴弦——修行的中道

缘起

佛陀时代,有一个比丘名叫亿耳。他出生在富裕家庭,从小娇生惯养,身体瘦弱。出家后,他很用功,修得很精进。他在坟地里打坐,不分昼夜地经行(来回走动着修行),脚底磨破了,流了很多血,他也不管。

可是,越用功,他越烦恼。他的心不但没有平静下来,反而越来越躁动。他变得很沮丧,心想:“我这么用功都没有效果,看来我不是修行的料。不如还俗回家,至少还能布施供养,做一些有用的事。”

亿耳起了这个念头,就想去向佛陀告别,然后还俗。

比喻

佛陀有他心通,知道亿耳的想法。他等亿耳来到面前,没有直接说话,而是先问他:“亿耳,你在家时不是会弹琴吗?”

亿耳说:“是的,世尊。我琴弹得很好。”

佛陀问:“那你告诉我,琴弦太紧的时候,能弹出好听的声音吗?”

亿耳说:“不能,世尊。琴弦太紧,声音刺耳,而且容易断。”

佛陀问:“琴弦太松的时候呢?”

亿耳说:“也不能。琴弦太松,根本弹不出声音。”

佛陀问:“那什么情况下才能弹出好听的声音?”

亿耳说:“不紧不松,恰到好处。”

佛陀说:“修行也是如此。亿耳,你太精进了。精进是好,但过度精进,就像琴弦太紧,心会烦躁,反而不能入定。你连日打坐,昼夜经行,身体受不了,心也受不了。这不是修行,这是折磨自己。”

“但也不能太懈怠。太懈怠就像琴弦太松,弹不出声音,修行不会有进步。所以,修行的要诀在于‘中道’——不紧不松,不急不缓,恰到好处。”

开示

佛陀接着说:“你现在需要调整。首先,你要照顾好身体。身体是修行的工具,工具坏了,还怎么修行?适当休息,适当吃饭,让身体恢复元气。”

“其次,你要调整心态。不要急于求成。修行不是百米冲刺,是马拉松。你一开始就拼命跑,后面就跑不动了。要像细水长流,不紧不慢,才能走远。”

“第三,你要找到适合自己的方法。有人适合经行,有人适合打坐,有人适合念佛,有人适合诵经。你不能看到别人怎么修,就跟着怎么修。要找到契自己根基的方法。”

“最后,你要放下‘求效果’的心。你太想赶快开悟了,这个‘想’本身就是障碍。修行就像种树,你只管浇水施肥,不要每天扒开土看根有没有长。老是这样看,根反而长不好。耐心等待,时节因缘到了,自然开花结果。”

亿耳听了,如梦初醒。他回去之后,调整了修行的节奏:该坐的时候坐,该行的时候行,该吃的时候吃,该睡的时候睡。不再急于求成,只是老老实实用功。

不久之后,他的心渐渐平静下来。有一天,他在经行时,忽然豁然大悟,证得了阿罗汉果。他高兴地去向佛陀报告:“世尊,我懂了。以前我抓得太紧,反而抓不住;现在我不松不紧,反而得到了。”

佛陀笑着说:“果然如此。佛法不在紧处,也不在松处,在中道处。”

故事的真义

这个故事告诉我们:修行要中道,不能走极端。太苦太紧,身体受不了,心也受不了;太乐太松,容易放逸堕落。佛陀最初六年苦行,日食一麻一麦,饿得皮包骨,也没有成道。后来接受了牧羊女的乳糜,恢复体力,在菩提树下静坐,才成道的。

所以,修行不是自虐,也不是放纵。照顾好身体,但不能贪图享受;精进用功,但不能急于求成。找到适合自己节奏,不急不缓,步步踏实。

记住:琴弦不紧不松,才能弹出妙音;修行不急不缓,才能契入佛心。

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第五个故事:丑女成道——佛性平等,心净则佛

缘起

佛陀时代,舍卫城有一个女子,名叫纯陀。她长得非常丑陋:身体粗糙,皮肤像树皮,头发像枯草,眼睛斜视,鼻子塌陷,嘴巴歪斜,浑身散发恶臭。任何人看到她,都会吓得跑开。

她的父母嫌她丢人,把她关在屋里,不许出门。到了出嫁的年龄,没有人愿意娶她。父母只好花钱找了一个贫穷的男子,强迫他娶了纯陀。

那个男子也很厌恶她,用铁链把她锁在柴房里,每天只给她一餐饭,从不跟她说话。纯陀痛苦极了,想死又死不了。

有一天,她听说佛陀来到舍卫城,慈悲为怀,任何人只要见了佛陀,就能得到安慰。纯陀心想:“我这么丑陋的人,佛陀会愿意见我吗?我身上这么臭,会污染精舍吗?”她犹豫了很久,最后实在受不了痛苦,决定去试一试。

见佛

纯陀趁丈夫出门,偷偷溜出家门,低着头,沿着墙根,一路跑到祇园精舍。她不敢从大门进,怕被人嘲笑,就绕到后面,翻墙进去。

精舍里的人正在听佛陀说法。纯陀悄悄躲在一根柱子后面,不敢抬头,不敢出声,只是偷偷地流泪。

佛陀法眼观察,知道纯陀来了,就故意停下说法,说:“那位躲在柱子后面的女子,你过来。”

纯陀吓坏了,以为佛陀要当众羞辱她。她浑身发抖,不敢动。

佛陀慈悲地说:“不要怕。在这里,没有人会嫌弃你。来,到前面来。”

纯陀战战兢兢地走到前面,跪在地上,头不敢抬。

佛陀说:“纯陀,抬起头来。”

纯陀慢慢抬起头,泪眼模糊地看着佛陀。奇怪的事情发生了——她看着佛陀庄严的相好,慈悲的目光,心中的痛苦、自卑、委屈、怨恨,一下子消融了大半。她不再颤抖了。

开示

佛陀说:“纯陀,你知道你为什么这么丑陋吗?”

纯陀说:“我不知道,世尊。可能是上辈子做了什么坏事吧。”

佛陀说:“是的。过去世,你是一个长者的女儿,长得非常漂亮。你因此很骄傲,看不起别人。有一位辟支佛(独觉圣者)长相不好,你当众嘲笑他:‘你看这个丑陋的和尚,像只癞蛤蟆!’辟支佛没有生气,默默地离开了。但你因这个恶口,五百世中相貌丑陋,受苦无量。”

纯陀听了,痛哭流涕:“世尊,我错了!我不该以貌取人,不该嘲笑圣者。我知错了!”

佛陀说:“知错能改,善莫大焉。纯陀,我问你:你现在还嫌弃自己吗?”

纯陀说:“不敢了,世尊。我现在知道,美丑都是业力所感,不是自己能决定的。”

佛陀说:“很好。我再问你:心美,还是貌美重要?”

纯陀说:“心美重要。心美,才有真正的美丽。”

佛陀说:“正是如此。我再告诉你:佛性没有美丑。一切众生,不论美丑、贫富、贵贱,都有佛性。你的佛性和我的佛性,没有差别。你现在需要做的,不是在意自己的相貌,而是开发自己的佛性。”

随后,佛陀为纯陀开示了因果、持戒、布施、禅定等法门。纯陀听得法喜充满,如饮甘露。她当下皈依了三宝,受了五戒。

转变

纯陀回到家中,丈夫大怒:“你偷跑出去,丢我的脸!”说着就要打她。纯陀没有生气,平静地说:“我以前对不起你,让你受苦了。从今以后,我会好好照顾你,报答你的恩情。”

丈夫愣了一下,从来没有听她说过这么温柔的话。他放下手,没再打她。

纯陀从此精进修行,每天念佛、拜佛、诵经、打坐。她的心一天天清净,烦恼一天天减少。奇妙的事情发生了——她的相貌也开始变了:皮肤变得光滑,头发变得黑亮,眼睛恢复端正,鼻子挺起来,嘴巴正了,身上的臭味消失了,反而散发出淡淡的清香。

丈夫发现了这个变化,大吃一惊:“你……你怎么变漂亮了?”

纯陀说:“我的心变了,相也随着变了。”她把佛法告诉了丈夫。

丈夫也被感化了,从此不再虐待她,夫妻相敬如宾,一起修行。

后来,纯陀证得了初果须陀洹,成为了佛陀著名的“丑陋而证果”的弟子。

故事的真义

这个故事告诉我们两个重要的道理。

第一,相由心生。我们的相貌,是过去业力的显现,也是现在心念的反映。心善,相就善;心恶,相就恶;心清净,相就清净;心慈悲,相就慈悲。所以,不要抱怨自己长得不好看,去修心,心好了,相自然会变。

第二,佛性平等。不管你现在是什么样子——美丑、贫富、愚智、贵贱——你的佛性和佛陀的佛性没有差别。佛性不因为你丑就减少,不因为你美就增加。每个人都有成佛的可能。问题只在于:你愿不愿意去开发?

不要自卑,不要自弃。丑女纯陀能成道,你为什么不能?

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第六个故事:调御丈夫——佛陀的最后一课

缘起

佛陀晚年,有一个名叫遮罗的年轻人来看他。这个人是外道信徒,不相信佛法。他来见佛陀,不是为了学习,而是为了辩论。他要证明佛法不如他的信仰。

他一见到佛陀,就说:“瞿昙(直呼佛陀的姓),我不相信你。你的法有什么了不起?你能让我信服吗?”

佛陀的弟子们很生气,想赶他走。佛陀制止了弟子们,平静地对遮罗说:“可以。你问吧。”

问答

遮罗说:“很多人到你这里来,你说法给他们听,他们也听懂了,但他们并没有成道。这说明你的法没有用。”

佛陀说:“遮罗,我跟你讲个故事。”

“有一个农夫,带着几头牛去田里耕作。他的牛不听话,有的往左跑,有的往右跑,有的站着不动。农夫有高超的驯牛技术,他用鞭子轻轻地抽打不听话的牛,让它们回到正路上。过了一会儿,所有的牛都乖乖地在田里耕作。”

“遮罗,我问你:农夫有没有办法让牛自己觉悟?有没有办法让牛一夜之间就变成听话的牛?”

遮罗说:“不能。牛是畜生,愚痴得很。农夫只能一次次地引导,不能替牛开悟。”

佛陀说:“正是。我就是那个农夫。你们就是牛。我讲法给你们听,就像农夫用鞭子指引牛。我能做的是指路,走路要靠你们自己。有些牛走得快,有些走得慢,有些走两步退三步,有些根本不走。这不是农夫的问题,是牛的问题。”

“你问我为什么有人听了法不成道?我问你:你去学校上课,同一个老师教的,为什么有人考一百分,有人考零分?”

遮罗说:“因为有人用功,有人不用功。”

佛陀说:“那就对了。佛法也是一样。我把解脱的方法告诉你们,你们不照做,不精进,却怪我法不灵?遮罗,法没有问题,是人有问题。”

遮罗沉默了。

再问

过了一会儿,遮罗又问:“瞿昙,你说你是一切智人,那你为什么不是万能的?你能不能让所有人一下子就成佛?”

佛陀说:“遮罗,我不是万能的。佛有三不能:第一,不能替众生转业;第二,不能度无缘之人;第三,不能把成佛塞给别人。我能做的是说法,能不能得度,要看你们自己。”

“就像医生,医术再高明,病人不肯吃药,医生也没有办法。就像父母,再爱孩子,孩子不读书,父母也不能替孩子考试。就像老师,教得再好,学生不肯学,老师也不可能把知识灌进学生的脑子里。”

“遮罗,你明白了吗?解脱在自己。佛只是指路人。”

遮罗又问:“那你说你是‘调御丈夫’,善于调伏众生。你怎么调伏我?”

佛陀说:“调伏不是强迫,是引导。你不相信佛法,我不强迫你信。但你能不能暂时放下自己的成见,听我说几句?”

遮罗说:“好吧,你说。”

开示

佛陀说:“遮罗,我问你几个简单的问题。你有没有苦?”

遮罗说:“有。我当然有苦。”

佛陀问:“你想不想离苦?”

遮罗说:“当然想。谁不想?”

佛陀问:“如果有离开痛苦的方法,你愿不愿意尝试?”

遮罗说:“如果有效,我愿意。”

佛陀说:“那就好。我不需要你马上相信我的全部教法。你只需要做一个小实验:从今天起,每天花十分钟,安静坐下,观察自己的呼吸。坚持一个月。一个月后,如果你觉得没有益处,你可以继续不信。如果你觉得有益处,我们再谈。”

遮罗想了想,说:“这个实验不难,我试试。”

一个月后,遮罗回来了。他的态度完全变了。他对佛陀说:“瞿昙,我服了。这一个月的呼吸观,让我的心平静了很多,以前容易生气的事,现在不那么容易生气了。这确实有益处。请你继续教我。”

佛陀笑了。从此,遮罗成为了佛陀的弟子,后来也证得了阿罗汉果。

故事的真义

这个故事告诉我们:佛陀不是神,是老师。他不是用神力帮我们消业、给我们福报,而是教导我们离苦得乐的方法。路他要指,但走路要靠自己。

修行是自己的事,别人替代不了。就像吃饭,别人不能替你吃;就像生病,别人不能替你吃药。解脱也是这样,佛菩萨只能引导,能不能到达目的地,全靠自己。

不要依赖佛菩萨替你做主,要自己做主。不要抱怨法不灵,要问自己有没有老实修行。不要等待奇迹,要从当下做起。

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结语:故事背后的真相

诸位善知识,六个故事讲完了。故事是指头,真理是月亮。愿诸位顺着指头,看见月亮。

最后,再把这六个故事的真义串起来:

第一个故事:放下执着,才能自在。手捧沙子,松而不紧,才能留住更多。人生也是一样。

第二个故事:不要浪费时间在无意义的妄想上。你是中箭的人,要赶快拔箭治疗,不是研究箭从哪里来。

第三个故事:佛法不能错解。空不是没有,无我不是断灭。理上知道空,事上谨慎因果。不执有,不堕空。

第四个故事:修行要中道。不紧不松,不急不缓。琴弦太紧会断,太松无声。修行也是这样。

第五个故事:相由心生,佛性平等。不要自卑,不要自弃。丑女能成道,你也能。

第六个故事:佛陀是老师,不是神。路他要指,走路靠自己。不要依赖,要自立。

六个故事,六颗念珠。串在一起,就是一串解脱的念珠。愿诸位常常提起,常常思维,常常实践。

佛法不在远处,就在你的心中。佛性不在别处,就是你听法时那个明明了了的心。

不要向外找,不要向未来找,回头即是。

愿以此功德,普及于一切。
我等与众生,皆共成佛道。

南无本师释迦牟尼佛!

04/30/2026

Dharma Talk: A Complete Guide from Delusion to Awakening

Good spiritual friends, listen with a pure mind. These four thousand words, each one pointing toward truth, may you cherish this condition of connection. Listen attentively, reflect well, and contemplate it with care.

The Dharma is like a great ocean—only faith can enter it. The Dharma is like a high mountain—only wisdom can ascend it. Today's talk does not indulge in profound obscurities or chase after names and forms. Instead, it addresses the most practical issues on the path of practice, providing a complete overview from entry to depth, from theory to practice. May this talk become a bright lamp on your spiritual journey.

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Volume One: Why We Need the Dharma—Understanding the Truth of Life

Section 1: The Norm of Life—We All Suffer Without Knowing It

When Buddhism speaks of "suffering," it is not pessimism but facing reality. Ask yourself: Is there suffering in life? Birth, aging, illness, death—who can avoid them? Parting from what we love—those we cherish will eventually leave. Meeting what we hate—the people we dislike invariably appear. Not getting what we seek—what we want always seems out of reach. The five aggregates blazing fiercely—body and mind are in constant turmoil.

Some say, "I am very happy, I have no suffering." But consider carefully: What is worldly happiness? When hungry, eating is happiness; after full, eating more is pain. When cold, wearing clothes is happiness; when overheated, more clothes are torment. When in love, sweetness is happiness; when heartbroken, there is suffering. Happiness, in essence, is merely a temporary relief of suffering—not true, lasting peace. It is like dewdrops on a lotus leaf—scattered by the slightest breeze. It is like honey on a blade's edge—sweet on the tongue, but the tongue is cut.

When the Buddha first turned the Dharma wheel, he spoke of the Truth of Suffering, then the Truth of the Cause of Suffering—the origin of suffering. Where does suffering come from? It comes from "aggregation"—the gathering of greed, hatred, and delusion. Greed is attachment to pleasant circumstances. Hatred is aversion to painful circumstances. Delusion is ignorance of the truth. These three poisons are the root of suffering. And the root of the three poisons is "self-attachment"—the belief in an independent, permanent "self." This "self" is the foundation of all afflictions.

Section 2: Impermanence and No-Self—The Buddha's Fundamental Observation of the World

What the Buddha realized under the Bodhi tree was the "Law of Dependent Origination." It states: When this exists, that exists; when this ceases, that ceases. When this arises, that arises; when this perishes, that perishes. All things arise from the coming together of causes and conditions, and cease when those conditions disperse. No phenomenon can exist independently. No phenomenon can remain unchanged forever.

"Impermanence" means all phenomena are changing moment to moment. Your body is undergoing metabolism every second. Your thoughts flow like a waterfall, thought after thought without stopping. You think the "self" of yesterday is the same as the "self" of today, but in truth, the you of yesterday and the you of today are already different. It is simply that the change is so subtle that you mistakenly believe nothing has changed. Like looking at a candle flame—the flame a moment ago and the flame now are already different, yet you call it "the same candle."

"No-self" means there is no eternal, unchanging soul or self-entity. What we usually consider the "self" is a temporary combination of the five aggregates: form (body), feeling (sensations), perception (ideas), mental formations (volition), and consciousness. All five aggregates are changing. Which one is you? If the body is you, do you disappear when the body decays? If feelings are you, do you disappear when your mood changes? Clearly not. The "self" is merely a label, a concept, without independent self-nature.

Understanding impermanence and no-self is not meant to make people pessimistic, but to free them from attachment. You suffer because you mistake the impermanent for eternal, the selfless for having a self. Once you see through this, attachment naturally falls away.

Section 3: Cause and Effect Are Infallible—The Basic Principle of How Life Operates

Some ask, "If there is no self, then who creates karma? Who experiences its results?" This is a good question. No-self does not mean there is no cause and effect. It means that no "self" experiences cause and effect, yet the functioning of cause and effect is utterly precise. Just as when fire burns, if you put your hand in, it will be burned. There is no need for a "self" to be burned—the burning happens naturally.

Buddhism speaks of "karma"—action. Actions of body, speech, and mind—wholesome, unwholesome, and neutral. Each type of action produces corresponding results. Plant melons, harvest melons; plant beans, harvest beans. Wholesome actions bring wholesome results. Unwholesome actions bring unwholesome results. It is not that there is no retribution—simply that the time has not yet come. This is not a mysterious punishment but a natural law. Plant thorns, and you will not harvest roses. Help others, and others will help you. Cause and effect can be seen everywhere in daily life.

Understanding cause and effect, we become careful with our actions, actively creating wholesome karma and avoiding unwholesome karma. This is the starting point of practice.

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Volume Two: The Stages of Practice—Three Steps from Ordinary Being to Sage

Section 4: Precepts—The Foundation of Practice

Precepts are not bo***ge but protection. Just as a courtyard has a wall—not to imprison you but to protect you from wild animals outside. Precepts are the wall of the mind.

The most basic are the Five Precepts:

· Not killing: Respect all life. Not only refraining from killing humans, but also not mistreating animals. Cultivate compassion, beginning with refraining from killing.
· Not stealing: Respect others' property. Do not take ill-gotten gains, do not take advantage. Cultivate integrity.
· Not engaging in sexual misconduct: Respect others' feelings and marriages. Maintain purity in emotional relationships. Cultivate responsibility.
· Not lying: Align words with actions. Do not lie, slander, curse, or engage in frivolous speech. Cultivate honesty and faith.
· Not consuming intoxicants: Maintain a clear mind, not doing things that cause confusion. Cultivate awareness.

The benefits of observing precepts: First, a clear conscience and inner stability. Second, not creating negative conditions, reducing obstacles. Third, laying the foundation for concentration and wisdom. Precepts are like the earth—all merits grow from them.

Section 5: Concentration—Training the Mind

After observing precepts, the mind becomes relatively pure but still lacks strength. Like water—when not stirred, it naturally settles, but the slightest wind raises ripples again. Cultivating concentration means allowing the mind to settle completely and gain the power of self-mastery.

There are many methods for cultivating concentration. Here is the simplest and most practical: "Anapanasati"—mindfulness of breathing.

Find a quiet place. Sit cross-legged or upright, with the body straight. Close your eyes. Place your attention on the tip of your nose or your abdomen, feeling the breath as it enters and exits. Do not control your breathing deliberately—breathe naturally. Know each inhalation, know each exhalation. To help with focus, count numbers: inhale–exhale, count 1; inhale–exhale, count 2; count from 1 to 10, then repeat. If you lose count, start again from 1.

At first, you will find your mind jumping around like a monkey, utterly unable to settle. This is normal. Do not be frustrated, do not blame yourself. Gently bring your attention back. Like training a calf—when it runs off, lead it back. Practice daily, even if only for ten minutes.

As concentration gradually increases, five factors of meditation appear: applied thought (directing the mind to the object), sustained thought (the mind staying), rapture (physical and mental lightness), joy (rapture concretized), and one-pointedness (complete focus). At this stage, the mind gains strength and is no longer easily turned by external circumstances.

The merits of cultivating concentration: First, physical health and充沛 energy. Second, focus in work and increased efficiency. Third, emotional stability, less fluctuation. Fourth, creating the preliminary conditions for wisdom. But remember, concentration is not the goal, only a tool. Liberation depends on wisdom.

Section 6: Wisdom—The Eye of Liberation

Precepts and concentration are shared with worldly paths—non-Buddhists can also cultivate them. The unique characteristic of Buddhism is "wisdom"—prajna wisdom. Prajna is not intelligence or cleverness, but the ability to see directly the true nature of all phenomena.

Where does wisdom come from? Three paths: wisdom from listening, wisdom from reflection, and wisdom from cultivation.

Wisdom from listening: Draw near to good spiritual friends and listen to the correct Dharma. The Dharma is vast and profound—practicing blindly on your own can easily lead you astray. You need guidance from those who have walked the path. Reading sutras, listening to teachings, and consulting good spiritual friends all constitute wisdom from listening. It is like looking at a map—knowing which way to go.

Wisdom from reflection: Take the Dharma you have heard and repeatedly reflect, discern, and verify it within your own mind. Neither accept everything nor reject everything. Use reason and experience to validate it. Wisdom from reflection is like studying the route based on the map—understanding each step.

Wisdom from cultivation: Apply what you have gained from listening and reflection to actual contemplation. In every moment, use the eye of wisdom to observe the phenomena of body and mind. Wisdom from cultivation is like walking the path yourself, placing one foot after another, until you reach the destination. Others say water is sweet, but nothing compares to drinking it yourself. The Dharma must be personally verified.

The core of wisdom from cultivation is "contemplation"—contemplating the five aggregates, contemplating impermanence, contemplating no-self. Specific methods:

In daily life, at all times and places, observe the changes of body and mind. When walking, know "I am walking," observing the sensations of movement in the body. When angry, know "I am angry," without suppressing or venting, just watching the emotion arise, stay, and disappear. When a thought arises, know "a thought has arisen," without following or rejecting it, just knowing.

The Great Discourse on the Establishing of Mindfulness provides a systematic method of contemplation: contemplate the body as impure, contemplate feelings as suffering, contemplate mind as impermanent, contemplate phenomena as not-self. The Four Establishments of Mindfulness are the direct path to liberation. As long as you contemplate truthfully, wisdom will naturally arise. When you thoroughly see that the five aggregates are empty and all dharmas are without self, that moment is seeing the path—the first stage of sainthood, Stream-Enterer. From then on, the chain of birth and death begins to break.

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Volume Three: Practice in Daily Life—Awakening Without Leaving the World

Many mistakenly believe that practice means shaving the head, leaving home, and retreating to the mountains. This is a great error. The Dharma is "in the world, without leaving the world, one awakens." You can practice at home, at work, in every relationship.

Section 7: Practicing Within the Family

The family is the most direct training ground. Between husband and wife, between parents and children, everywhere there are tests.

How to practice? First, cultivate gratitude. Do not take your family's efforts for granted. Your spouse's labors for the family, your parents' nurturing kindness, your children's innocent loveliness—constantly give rise to gratitude. Second, cultivate tolerance. Friction is inevitable among family members. Do not nitpick, do not bring up old grievances. Learn to tolerate others' faults, because you yourself are not perfect. Third, cultivate giving. Do not only think about taking. Consider "what can I do for my family?" Cook a meal, say a warm word, give a hug—all of these are practice.

It is well said: "The family is the best training ground; family members are the closest dharma companions." Turning your family into a pure land is genuine practice.

Section 8: Practicing at Work

Work occupies most of our waking hours. If work is not practice, then your practice time is too little.

How to practice Buddhism at work? First, regard work as an opportunity to serve sentient beings. If you are a doctor, treat illnesses well. If you teach, educate diligently. If you sweep the streets, keep them clean. No matter your profession, you are contributing to society. Work with a mind that benefits others, and work itself becomes generosity. Second, cultivate focus at work. Do not be lazy, do not be perfunctory. Do each task wholeheartedly. This is the practice of "living in the present moment." Third, cultivate patience at work. When encountering unfair or unreasonable situations, do not explode in anger immediately. Learn to control your emotions and handle things rationally. Patience is not weakness but inner strength.

A Zen master said, "Chopping wood and carrying water—that is the wondrous path." Work is chopping wood and carrying water. Lifting awareness within work is the wondrous path.

Section 9: Practicing in Relationships

Human beings cannot exist in isolation. Interactions with others are the best opportunities for practice.

Cultivate loving-kindness: May all beings be happy. When interacting with others, always hold wholesome intentions—do not envy, harm, or be indifferent. When you see others happy, rejoice in their joy. When you see others suffering, aspire to help.

Cultivate compassion: May all beings be free from suffering. Seeing others' pain, feel it as your own, and do your best to help. Even a smile or a word of comfort is an expression of compassion.

Cultivate sympathetic joy: When seeing others succeed or do wholesome deeds, genuinely be happy for them. Do not envy or feel bitter. The merit of sympathetic joy is as great as that of the doer, and it comes more easily.

Cultivate equanimity: After doing your best, do not be attached to the outcome. Help if you can; if not, let it go. This is not indifference but wisdom—knowing that all things have causes and conditions, and forcing them is impossible.

Section 10: Practicing in Adversity

Adversity is the touchstone of practice. Anyone can pretend to be a sage in favorable circumstances. Only in adversity do we know the depth of our practice.

When adversity comes, remember these four sentences:

First: "This is not punishment, but a test." The Dharma is the law of cause and effect. Adversity is the result of past unwholesome karma and also the examination of your current mind-training. Can you remain peaceful? Can you avoid giving rise to hatred?

Second: "This too shall pass." No matter how difficult the adversity, it is impermanent. It came, and it will go. Do not magnify the pain. Do not imagine that it will never pass. In fact, haven't all the difficulties you experienced in the past passed?

Third: "This is my good spiritual friend." Adversity has come to teach you. It teaches you humility—you thought you were so capable, but adversity shows you otherwise. It teaches you to let go—the things you cling to tightly, adversity will loosen your grip. It teaches you strength—each time you walk through adversity, you emerge stronger.

Fourth: "I can change my perspective." Half a glass of water: the pessimist says "only half left," the optimist says "still half full." You cannot change external circumstances, but you can change your inner attitude. Shift one thought, and hell becomes heaven.

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Volume Four: Bodhicitta—The Soul of Mahayana Buddhism

Theravada Buddhism seeks personal liberation. Mahayana Buddhism seeks to liberate all beings universally. The difference lies in "Bodhicitta."

Section 11: What Is Bodhicitta

Bodhicitta, from Sanskrit, is the mind that aspires "for the benefit of all sentient beings, I wish to attain supreme Buddhahood." This has two aspects: seeking Buddhahood above, and liberating beings below. On one hand, you cultivate to become a Buddha yourself. On the other hand, you become a Buddha in order to better help sentient beings.

Bodhicitta is the foundation of Mahayana Buddhism. Without Bodhicitta, any Dharma door you practice will only yield worldly fruits—at best, rebirth in heaven to enjoy pleasures—but cannot lead to Buddhahood. With Bodhicitta, even a single recitation of the Buddha's name or a small act becomes a seed for Buddhahood. Bodhicitta is like a wish-fulfilling jewel, transforming everything into merit.

Why must we generate Bodhicitta? From the principle, all beings are originally one body. Your suffering is my suffering; your liberation is my liberation. From the emotional perspective, all beings have at one time been my mother, showing me immeasurable kindness. If I do not save them, who will? From the practical perspective, seeking only self-benefit makes the mind too small to correspond with the boundless Dharma realm. Buddhahood requires infinite mind capacity, and Bodhicitta is the key to opening that capacity.

Section 12: How to Cultivate Bodhicitta

Traditionally, there are two methods:

The Sevenfold Cause and Effect:

1. Recognizing all beings as mothers: Recognize that all sentient beings have at one time been your mother. From the perspective of beginningless rebirth, this is a fact.
2. Remembering their kindness: Recall the kindness of your mother—giving birth, raising, teaching, protecting. Extend this gratitude to all beings.
3. Wishing to repay that kindness: Aspire to repay the kindness of all mother-like beings. The best way to repay is to help them leave samsara and attain peace.
4. Loving-kindness: May all beings have happiness and the causes of happiness.
5. Compassion: May all beings be free from suffering and the causes of suffering.
6. The exceptional resolve: Generate the sense of responsibility—"I alone will take this on."
7. Bodhicitta: For the benefit of all beings, I aspire to attain Buddhahood.

Exchanging Self and Others:
Exchange yourself with others. Give your happiness to others; take their suffering upon yourself. Specific practice: When inhaling, visualize the suffering, obscurations, and negative karma of all beings as black smoke, entering and dissolving into your heart. When exhaling, visualize all your merits, blessings, and happiness as white light, radiating out to all beings. This practice powerfully breaks self-attachment and increases compassion.

This is not accomplished in one session. It requires long-term, repeated cultivation. Aspire daily: "May I become a Buddha and liberate all beings." Dedicate after each wholesome act: "With this merit, I dedicate it to all beings, that together we may attain Buddhahood."

Section 13: The Bodhisattva's Practice—The Six Perfections

Having generated Bodhicitta, one must walk the Bodhisattva path. The main content of the Bodhisattva path is the "Six Perfections": generosity, morality, patience, diligence, meditation, and wisdom. The Six Perfections are also called the "Six Paramitas," meaning "six ways to reach the other shore."

Generosity: Giving wealth, giving the Dharma, and giving fearlessness. Help others with material goods, guide them with the Dharma, and comfort them with care. Generosity counteracts greed and increases merit.

Morality: The Bodhisattva precepts are broader than the monastic precepts. They include restraining from unwholesome actions, cultivating wholesome actions, and benefiting beings. Not only refrain from doing bad, but also do good, and further, benefit sentient beings.

Patience: Patience with those who harm you—not retaliating when hurt. Patience enduring suffering—bearing natural and physical pain. Patience contemplating the Dharma—not fearing or being startled by profound teachings. Patience counteracts anger and increases compassion.

Diligence: Vigorous perseverance in wholesome actions. Not reckless effort, but consistent perseverance. Diligence counteracts laziness and increases merit.

Meditation: Training the mind to focus, not being turned by external circumstances. With deep meditative strength, one can freely direct the mind's power.

Wisdom: The wisdom that sees emptiness. Wisdom is like the eyes; the other five perfections are like the feet. Without eyes, the feet will go the wrong way. The six perfections take wisdom as their guide.

When practicing the six perfections, also maintain the "threefold purity"—no self who does the action, no object of the action, and no action itself. No attachment, no claiming of credit, acting with conditions.

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Volume Five: Life, Death, and the Pure Land—The Final Refuge

Section 14: Facing Death Squarely

Death is something every person must face. Avoiding it will not make it disappear. The Dharma teaches us to face death squarely and prepare for it.

From the Dharma perspective, death is merely the end of this particular life, not total annihilation. It is like changing clothes—taking off old clothes and putting on new ones. Your karma will lead you to your next life—human, heavenly, animal, hungry ghost, or hell realm. Therefore, death is not frightening. What is frightening is where you go after death.

Most people, while living, act as if they will never die. When dying, they feel as if they have never truly lived. This is the most tragic thing. Practitioners are different. Practitioners know that they will die one day, so they do not waste their lives. Practitioners, at the time of death, because they have practiced regularly and have a grounding in their minds, can face it calmly.

Master Yinguang wrote a large character "Death" and pasted it by his bed as a reminder to himself. This is not pessimism but the utmost optimism—because you know you will die, you cherish every day and practice diligently.

Section 15: The Pure Land Dharma Door—The Most Reliable Refuge

For beings in the Dharma-Ending Age, the Pure Land Dharma Door is most compatible with our capacities. The Pure Land teaching says: Amitabha Buddha made forty-eight great vows and built the Land of Ultimate Bliss. As long as sentient beings have faith, aspiration, and practice, they can be reborn there, never regress, and attain Buddhahood in one lifetime. A three-year-old child can practice it; an eighty-year-old elder can also practice it. It does not require deep learning or arduous retreats in the mountains. Only true faith, sincere aspiration, and earnest practice are needed.

Faith: Believe that the Land of Ultimate Bliss exists. Believe in Amitabha Buddha. Believe that you can go there.

Aspiration: Be willing to leave this Sahā world. Be willing to be reborn in the Land of Ultimate Bliss. This is not逃避—it is to quickly become a Buddha and return to save beings.

Practice: Recite "Namo Amitabha Buddha" single-mindedly. Whether walking, standing, sitting, or lying down, do not leave this Buddha-name.

The Pure Land method seems simple but is actually profound. One recitation of the Buddha-name contains precepts, concentration, and wisdom. When you recite to the point of one-mindedness, that is concentration. When you recite to the point where both reciter and recited are emptied, that is wisdom. An ancient worthy said, "Of ten thousand who practice, ten thousand will be reborn." The key is whether you truly have faith, truly have aspiration, and truly practice.

Section 16: Reborn While Still Alive—The Pure Land Is Right Here

The sublime quality of the Pure Land method is that it is not only about rebirth after death, but "rebirth while still alive." What does "rebirth while still alive" mean? It means seeing the Pure Land in this very life, finding peace of mind in this very life.

If your mind is pure, the present moment is the Pure Land. The Vimalakirti Sutra says, "When the mind is pure, the Buddha-land is pure." There is no need to wait for death. Rebirth is not going to another place, but the mind resonating with the Buddha. When you recite to the point of one-mindedness, with afflictions not arising and compassion filling you, you are already at the gate of the Pure Land.

Therefore, do not place your hopes only on the moment of death. From today onward, treat every day as the Pure Land to be cultivated. When the mind is pure, the land is pure. When the mind is at peace, all beings are at peace.

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Conclusion: Begin to Act

Good spiritual friends, these four thousand words now come to an end. No matter how much is said, it is less than doing a little.

The Dharma is not knowledge—it is practice. Knowing without doing is the same as not knowing. Having listened today, please begin with one small thing: From today, recite the Buddha-name for ten minutes each morning and evening. From today, when angry, count three breaths before speaking. From today, say one more warm word to your family members. These small things are practice.

Practice has no shortcuts—only persistence. Dripping water wears away stone, not because the water is powerful, but because of the power of persistence. If you improve a little every day, after ten years you will be transformed.

Finally, I offer these four lines:

This precious human life, now obtained, is hard to obtain.
The rare Dharma, now heard, is hard to hear.
If I do not liberate this body in this life,
In what life will I liberate this body?

May all of you: deeply believe in cause and effect, strictly uphold the precepts, diligently recite the Buddha-name, and seek rebirth in the Pure Land. Dedicate this merit to all beings in the Dharma realm, that together we may be reborn in the Western Land of Ultimate Bliss and together attain supreme Buddhahood.

Namo Amitabha Buddha!

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