Marriage is filled with many ups and downs. When choosing your mate, you don't always consider every aspect of the individual. After you are married you will learn things that you never knew about the person you have chosen to share your life with. Some of which you may or may not feel that you can live with. Many of those things can be worked out with the proper care and guidance of an unbiased m
ediator. Adultery can be forgiven, but that makes marriage even harder work for the couple. If you decide to forgive, you have to let it go. Don't let it keep hitting you in the face every day. If it was committed with someone familiar, throw that person out of your lives together. Having that person around will only cause pain and heartache to the one person you chose to love and honor for as long as you both shall live. It will cause pain to the adulterer with his or her memory of hurting their mate, and it will cause pain to the innocent with the thoughts of betrayal portrayed by the adulterous act between two people he or she had trusted so much. Abuse is not something to take lightly. Nor are abusive behaviors something anyone should have to live with. If it happens once and the abusive party seeks help and forgiveness, by all means forgive him or her. If it has become a habit and a ritual, get out and save yourself while you can. One day your mate will go too far and you will be someone we read about in the paper or hear about on the news. Don't become a statistic, run while you are able!
