09/06/2026
Greetings!
It is almost Labor Day and it is certainly time to stop and honor all the laborers who built the world economy. And we honor, in particular, the hard working Americans who have made this country great. And though the supervisors, etc., are important too, the vast group of regular workers make it all work. My Dad was a steelworker. I take my hat off to my Dad and all of the Laborers! God bless every one of them.
Matthew 18:15-20
Family Affair
I have for you both good news and bad news this morning.
The good news is that all who believe are all going to heaven.
The bad news is ~ we are all traveling there together
The bad news is further that none of is perfect, none of us is all that easy to get along with all the time, and most of us won't get perfect or always easy to get along with during the journey. Somehow we have to learn to make the trip together.
At the last supper when Jesus gave his blessing to his church, in his final prayer before he faced crucifixion, he called for unity as he spoke these words in John 17:
I ask not only on behalf of these, but also on behalf of those who will believe in me through their words--that’s us--that they may all be one. As you, Father, are in me and I am in you, may they also be in us, so that the world may believe that you have sent me.
The church is important to God—so important that it is called the “body of Christ.” We have been put here to continue the work of Jesus and to bring glory to God in the doing. And as it is important that all of the parts of our human bodies function together, it is vital that all the parts of the Church body function in harmony.
Our people get along very well, but occasionally, there is among Christians, a problem.
From time to time there is a difference of opinion.
Now and then Christians disagree about a doctrine—or how to carry out one of the functions of the Church—should baptism be by pouring or immersion—is Christ’s presence in the Lord’s Supper real or figurative?
The liberals face off against the conservatives—and vice versa.
There are disagreements as to how we can reach out into our community.
Or sometimes, the bone of contention is the which hymn to sing on Sunday morning.
And once in a while, church members get angry at each other—and even angry with the pastor. There might even be a rumor circulate—or a bit of gossiping.
You would think that, in the church, all would be sweetness and light, wouldn't you!
And there is sweetness and light--lots of it--people with smiles on their faces talking happily together--people looking out for each other in various ways.
But churches are made up of people—and as people, we have differences in backgrounds—in ideas—in thinking processes—differences which inevitably lead to disagreements and even anger.
And occasionally we need to interact with other churches who might not agree with our ways of doing things.
For these reasons, we need to be prepared—we need to know what to do when these times arrive—how to keep the family—the family of God--all going the same direction.
This is what Paul was writing to the Roman church about—and this is what Matthew gives us Jesus’ instructions about this morning.
Jesus tells us exactly how to handle these breaks in the harmonious life of the church that God intended us to enjoy—the life we need to show to the world.
So—what do we do when our friend hurts our feelings?
When a brother or sister in the Lord appears to have cheated us—or lied to us?
Do we stay at home a few Sundays and figure the whole thing will blow over? Look the other way and pretend nothing is wrong while all the time feeling ill toward that person?
Jesus says no—do not try to overlook something that is eating at you.
No, confront the problem—the conflict—the hurt—confront it head-on.
Now, Jesus is not suggesting you go up to the person and begin screaming in their face. He doesn’t want us to win—but he doesn’t want us to lose either. He wants us to reconcile.
STEP 1
If we feel that someone has wronged us, the first thing we should do is to immediately put our complaint into words. Talk to the person.
The worst thing we can do about a wrong is to hold it all inside and brood about it. That can poison the whole mind and life, until we can think of nothing else but our personal injury—our hurt—the injustice.
Go see that individual—in person. Do not put the problem into writing. Don’t write a letter. Don’t send an email.
It is so easy for the written word to be misread and misunderstood—there is no tone of voice.
This advice, by the way, is not only valuable for resolving differences within our church family, but the first rule to follow in working out problems between us and our “at home” family—and our friends.
If you are hurt by someone
--and if you think that it is serious enough for you to brood over
--serious enough that you find yourself wanting to mention it to others
--then you must try to heal this breach –this split that has now opened up between the two of you.
Seek out the person and talk to them—calmly—about the problem.
And do it right away. It takes a while for a good feeling to grow into heartfelt affection—but a hurt turns to anger and anger to resentment in short order.
This is not easy. We tend to feel the persons should come to us.
And—most of us really don’t like confrontation.
It is far easier to walk the other way and fume.
But—the other person may not even know he/she has hurt you. Have you ever had the experience of finding out you had hurt someone’s feelings and you had had no idea?
STEP 2
If this private meeting does not right the wrong, Jesus says to take some wise person or persons with you and try again.
If there are ill feelings, a couple of gracious and kind people along might change the whole atmosphere. They should not take sides, but rather help the two to look at the situation a little differently—perhaps reaching a compromise. It might help each one to see themselves as others are seeing them.
The requirement for two or three witnesses comes from Torah law stated in Deuteronomy 19 and was given to protect people against unfair accusations. It is echoed in 1 Timothy 5:19: "Don't receive an accusation against an elder, except at the word of two or three witnesses."
These are to be witnesses to verify that the intervention took place and followed proper procedure. The goal is not to fix blame but rather to remove the sin and to restore the sinner.
STEP 3
If that still fails, and the hard feelings remain, we must take our personal troubles to the Christian fellowship.
It is here in this part of the reading that there are misunderstandings.
Jesus did not intend this instruction to mean that we should drag the person before the whole group and accuse and berate them. This would contradict everything he has taught.
And folks, scripture does not contradict itself.
Our interpretation of scripture contradicts itself.
We are to take the problem to the CHRISTIAN fellowship—and that could just mean a small group gathered for discussion and prayer. The parties involved are not to be judged in the light of a book of law—or rules and regulations--but in the light of love.
It is in an atmosphere of Christian prayer, Christian love and Christian fellowship that personal relationships may be made right again.
We, as Christians, are to seek to judge everything in the prayerful light of love.
STEP 4
Now if all this fails to resolve the conflict—Jesus says to treat this offender as a pagan and a tax-collector.
At first reading, one could well interpret this to mean to ostracize the person—exclude him or her—declare them to be hopeless.
But let us stop for just a minute—Jesus never set limits to human forgiveness.
Consider who is writing these words—Matthew—a tax collector.
And the one who spoke them is the one of whom it was said,
“Now the tax collectors and sinners were drawing near to him.” And the people murmured against Jesus saying, “This man receives sinners and eats with them.”
• At Jesus birth, the first to show up at Bethlehem to see him were the Magi—Gentiles—pagans-- from the East.
• One of the first healings, also recorded in the gospel of Matthew, was the healing of a servant of a pagan army officer.
• Jesus went to eat dinner with Zacchaeus—the tax collector.
• And—again—there was Matthew—Jesus chose Matthew to be his disciple while he was a tax collector.
If we are going to be with Jesus—then we must be among the people he chose to be with—sinners, pagans, and tax collectors.
And when Jesus speaks of these folks, he always does so with sympathy and gentleness.
It would seem more likely that what Jesus is saying was something like this:
“When you have done all this, when you have given the sinners every chance, and when they remain stubborn, you may think that they are no better than tax-collectors, or even godless pagans.
“But these are not hopeless. My experience is that they too, have a heart to be touched; and there are many of them, like Matthew and Zacchaeus, who have become my best friends.
Even if the stubborn sinners are like tax-collectors or pagans, you may still win them, as I have done.”
It is not a cry to final judgment—it is a challenge to win them with the love which can touch even the hardest heart.
The tax collectors and unbelievers become our mission field.
Jesus Christ has found no one hopeless—and neither must we.
Discipline is not a popular concept these days. We have a live-and-let-live attitude that is uncomfortable with the idea that anyone has a right--much less a responsibility--to discipline anyone else.
But the early church understood the deadly consequences of tolerating sin. Not only would it lessen the chances that the sinner might repent, but it would also tarnish the reputation of the church itself--and affect the ability of the church to bring in new people.
Jesus is addressing the church here, remember, even though the church, at this point, is but a group of Christians who would gather to worship, to pray, to fellowship, and to help each other survive in a hostile world, Jesus was laying the ground work for the church today.
NUMBERS
Jesus says there is strength in the prayer of the group—but this prayer is to be for the common good.
Then, he clarifies once and for all that the numbers game is not important.
“Where two or three are gathered in his name, he is there in the midst of them.”
Our world is so number conscious. It doesn’t seem to matter to some just what is going on in the gathering of people—as long as the number is larger and larger.
One of the larger churches in my area advertised last year on a billboard the number of souls that had come to know Christ in their church that year. It seemed so impersonal—especially in light of the fact that scripture tells us that the angels rejoice when just one soul decides to follow Jesus. Just one soul.
Jesus is not a slave to numbers. Where two or more are gathered, we have a church.
Jesus is as much present in the little congregation as in the great mass meeting. He is just a much present at the Prayer Meeting or the Bible Study Group with a handful of people as in the crowded arena.
He is as much present when your family sits down to take a few minutes and worship together.
Wherever faithful hearts meet, however few they may be, Jesus is there.
CLOSE
Hang onto the goal—reconciliation. Be reconciled one to the other. Love each other. Put that love first. Pray for your enemies—but pray for your friends too. Go to the person and work out your differences.
Then God will bless you—and God will bless the cause of Christ—and God will bless your congregation. Amen.
PRAYER
Gracious and merciful God -- each one of us here today struggles to do what is right, but we find it hard - especially when it comes to how other people have hurt us or hurt those whom we love.
Help us today to make a break through - bring to mind the old resentments that we have – the old grievances - the old wounds that haunt us - and help us to forgive them and those involved--as you forgive us through the blood of Christ Jesus.
Father, we pray for those people who are caught in the ancient eye for an eye cycle of vengeance; for those who are ill in spirit, soul or body because of the lack of forgiveness in their lives; for those burdened with resentment and anger.
Hear, we pray, our prayers for the special people suffering—in need of healing-- and the problems that lie upon our hearts this day -- We hold before you these who are in need (insert your prayer list).
We hold before you our world - and especially those people and places affected by the fires and flooding which plague our world. We pray for both those who are victims and those who work to bring recovery.
We pray too this day for those who lost loved ones in the horrible 9/11 disaster and we earnestly pray that such may never happen again.
And we thank you for the laborers who daily keep our country going forward.
Lord - we thank you and we praise you for hearing our prayers and for coming unto us to be our savior and our guide - our brother and our friend. We bring our prayers to you in the name of Jesus Christ.
~ AMEN