09/01/2026
"From the Pulpit" from Pastor Kent
Many people who have experienced the benefits of steady participation in church feel sadness when their children or grandchildren do not make church, or another faith community, a priority in their lives.
Adults must make their own decisions. Shame, guilt, and manipulation rarely draw anyone closer to God or the church. We can pray for those we love, remain genuinely interested in their lives, and tell our stories without trying to control theirs. We can help them understand why church has mattered to us. In a changing world, here are a few things I want our children to know about church.
Church reminds us that life is about more than productivity. Much of life asks what we can accomplish, earn, or achieve. Church asks deeper questions: Who are we becoming? What do we love? What is worthy of our lives?
Church also gives us a community we did not choose. It is natural to gather with people “like us.” A healthy church brings together people of different ages, experiences, and backgrounds. It teaches us to know and care for people beyond our usual circles.
Church helps us practice hope. Faith does not protect us from suffering, but it gives us stories, prayers, practices, and companions that help us face life without surrendering to despair. It also gives us a moral and spiritual compass amid conflicting messages about what we should desire and what makes a successful life.
Church invites us into something larger than ourselves. It offers opportunities to serve, welcome strangers, care for creation, challenge injustice, and notice people society overlooks. Sacred rhythms like worship, Communion, Baptism, Advent, Lent, Easter, weddings, and funerals remind us that our lives belong to a larger story.
We should also be honest about the church’s failures. Our children may have witnessed hypocrisy, exclusion, political manipulation, judgment, or resistance to necessary change. We do not need to defend everything associated with Christianity. We can listen seriously and acknowledge where the church has failed.
Perhaps the most helpful thing we can say is not, “You ought to go to church,” but, “I want you to understand why church has mattered to me. I hope you find a community that helps you grow in faith, hope, and love. If you ever want to talk about that journey, I promise to listen.”
Article from the Pantagraph August 21, 2026 "From the Pulpit"
Kent King Nobles is one of the pastors at First United Methodist Church and Morningstar UMC, both in Normal. You can email comments to him at [email protected]