03/01/2023
The Buddha taught in many of his discourses, "The body, whether a body of the past, a body in the present moment, whether it is our own body or someone else's, subtle or gross, whether beautiful or ugly, near or far, is not mine, is not me, is not the self. A practitioner should meditate on this to be able to see the truth concerning a body."
Thich Nhat Hanh. Thundering Silence: Sutra on Knowing the Better Way to Catch a Snake (Kindle Locations 366-368). Kindle Edition.
How can we face people who falsely accuse, reprimand, or slander us? The Buddha suggests we practice the teaching of no-self. When we practice no-self, false accusations, reprimands, and slander cannot hurt us. When we are in touch with and see the nature of no-self, we are always aware of the principle of interdependent co-origination, because interdependent pendent co-origination and no-self are one. All things arise because of their interdependence, and that is why nothing has a separate, independent identity. It is because of our ignorance and hatred that we accuse, reprimand, or slander one another.
Each of us is a product of our family, environment, friends, education, culture, and society. These conditions lead to a certain way of seeing things and a certain way of responding to things. When we see this, we have compassion for everyone, including ourselves. We see that if we want someone to change, we also have to help change his or her family, environment, friends, education, culture, and society.
We are responsible, directly or indirectly, for each person's consciousness and attitudes. When we see the conditions that have led to that person's consciousness and attitudes, we will know how to help that person. We won't feel angry or blame him. On the contrary, we will try to find ways to help him be free from the constrictions of environment and so forth that have produced his consciousness in that way.
Thich Nhat Hanh. Thundering Silence: Sutra on Knowing the Better Way to Catch a Snake (Kindle Locations 530-538). Kindle Edition