3Rivers Christian Counseling

06/01/2026

"Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me." (Matthew 10:37, ESV)

05/19/2026

ANGER
Perpetual patterns of anger reveal what you bow to:

If comfort is your God, inconvenience makes you angry.

If control is your God,
Change makes you angry.

If pride is your God,
Correction makes you angry.

If politics is your God,
Truth makes you angry.

You don't get angry over things you've surrendered.
You get angry over things you're protecting.

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05/05/2026

A Deeper Look: The Melancholy Temperament
Those with a melancholy temperament often feel deeply, and because of that, they may struggle more with unforgiveness. Their sensitivity can lead to lingering hurt and a desire for justice or even revenge.

Inclusion (Relationships & Belonging)
Unforgiveness may stem from:
- Betrayal or exposed trust
- Criticism or disapproval
- Being embarrassed or humiliated
- Long-standing family conflicts

Control (Power & Decision-Making)
Triggers may include:
-Being deceived or manipulated
-Feeling controlled by others
-Rejection of ideas or leadership

Affection (Love & Deep Connection)
Pain may come from:
-Infidelity
-Rejected love or affection
-Deep personal violations, such as abuse

In each of these areas, the temptation is the same: to hold onto the hurt rather than release it.

Conclusion: Forgiveness is not a feeling. It is a decision.
Unforgiveness binds. Forgiveness frees.

To forgive is to walk in obedience, reflect Christ’s character, and protect your own heart from destruction.

We must move from darkness into light.
We must release revenge to God.
We must choose forgiveness.
Because forgiveness is freedom.

--Dr. Phyllis Arno

04/26/2026

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