09/08/2026
9-8-26 TUESDAY Proverbs 23
Proverbs 23. Remember Proverbs 22.29 from yesterday’s reading? “A man who is diligent (works hard and excels) in his business will stand before kings.” Well, Proverbs 23 starts with a warning to that successful man or woman when they ARE hobnobbing with the rich and powerful, not to let pride redirect their eyes from God and onto the glory, gold and girls, or guys as the case may be, of the world [v.5]. V.2 says you have got to get yourself under control, even if it means holding a knife to your own throat! (Can anyone say ‘hyperbole’?)
Vs.6-7 warn, in those uppity, elite circles, a person is seldom as he seems. They will w**e you and dine you, flatter and cajole you, till you have been caught in their web, have lost your self-respect, your good name, and have become an expendable pawn in their game of thrones. V.7 says, “They will be so nice to you, cater to your every whim, but don’t believe this ploy for their hearts are not for your good, ‘for as a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” And after you have fallen for their line, your new self will make you so sick you will (v.8) vomit all those sweet, but toxic words, you have swallowed.
Vs.10-11 say, “Even if you have the power to do so, don’t cheat, don’t steal from the unsuspecting or the weak, because God, their protector and avenger, is neither weak nor ignorant.”
Vs.13-14 are full of wisdom, yet from my vantage point, and funny, too. “Go ahead and beat that rotten kid. It won’t kill him (though he will try to make you believe it is); in fact, it will save him, both here AND hereafter!” Note that you are not to slap a child in the face or ever use your hand to hit him. You are to use a “rod of correction.” Your touch, your hand, should never convey anything to your child but love. And NEVER s***k your child in anger! And vs.15-16 (and vs.24-25) are the blessed results of loving correction and discipline. When you hear your children speak and live truth, how blessed your life feels.
I am so thankful for my godly parents. Our home was a haven of peace. But it was not a place where we I can remember us saying, “I love you” to each other. We all knew that we did love each other, of course, and I loved pleasing my parents. I got a lot of positive feedback from them for my obedience and my achievements, but I wish my folks had been better at verbalizing ‘I love you;’ and I wish I’d said it a lot to them when I was growing up. I determined when I got married that my wife and my children would hear “I love you” from me every single day.
There are a couple of times with my dad that are especially dear to me. One was when He was preaching a revival at Avoca Baptist Church and I was leading the music. After I had sung a special, he got up to preach, and said, “That boy never gave us any trouble.” That was his way of saying, “I love that boy.” Years later, my Dad’s youngest brother, Uncle Dutch, died. My dad was already 80 something so Dutch was in his mid to late 70’s. Uncle Dutch’s neighbor lady, a widow, wanted to have a huge limb that hung low over her patio, removed. When Uncle Dutch found out she had hired a guy to come cut that big limb off and what he was going to charge her, he told her to save her money; he’d be right back and cut that limb off for her. I am privileged to know some great old guys just like that.
Well, back came Uncle Dutch with his stepladder and chain saw. The limb was just shy of a foot in diameter and it stuck out over the neighbor lady’s patio about fifteen feet. My uncle set up his ladder, started his chain saw, climbed the ladder and started cutting the limb, which was about face high. When the limb dropped it dropped right down the side of his stepladder knocking him over backward, slapping his head down on the concrete. He never regained consciousness and died a few hours later in the hospital.
One of the great things about owning my own business was being able to get away when I needed to, so I told my Daddy I would drive him to Kansas so he could preach his little brother’s funeral. On the way we talked and talked about God and the Bible. My Dad was an adherent to the Socratic Teaching Method. As we drove, Daddy asked me question after question, and as I answered them, I could see vs.15-16 coming to life in our car. I could tell he was well pleased with me when my “lips spoke right things.” But I would not just answer his questions, I would expound and connect other passages with the ones he brought up and ask him questions. And I loved hearing his answers. As a little kid with ADHD it was hard for me to sit still and listen to a sermon in church. But even when I was very young, what I really liked was on certain Sunday nights, my Dad would let people ask questions. Us kids were allowed to go out and play kick-the-can or chase, but several times, on question night, I told my friends I wanted to stay in the sanctuary and listen to Dad’s answers. After we had been talking for hours, my Dad said, “Well, you know more than I ever taught you.” And that was his way of saying, “I am glad to be your Dad; I love you, Son.” But I would have liked to hear him say that, and I surely wished I had said, ‘I love you, Daddy, and I have always been thankful to be your boy.”
In vs.17-18, the teacher says, stay close to God all your days and do life His way. Don’t get your eyes on Hollywood and think maybe you are somehow missing out, because none of that is real, but there really is a hereafter (‘end’ in KJV vv.18) with heavenly rewards.
Vs.19-21: All of us know people, maybe even in our immediate families, who have lost everything because of addiction to alcohol or drugs. And, thankfully, most of us also know folks who lost everything, yet got it all back when they came to Jesus, and quit drinking and/or drugging. As a youth director I had two such men come and share their experiences with our youth group. Both men, in relating how they started drinking, said, “I never planned to become an alcoholic.”
After they were through and I thanked them for being so real with the kids, and I said to my youth group, “Did you hear what they said?” After several wrong answers, I said, “They both said, ‘I didn’t plan…’ Paul tells us we are not ignorant of the devil’s devices; we know he is out to get us; so to win, we have to have a game plan.” And I gave my youth group the same plans I gave to my own children: “Decide now, if you are with friends and they bring out some alcohol or drugs, don’t talk about it, get out of the house or get out of the car, and get as far away from them as you can. The National Institute on Alcohol Abuse says 21% of all the people who ever take that first drink of alcohol become ‘psychologically dependent’…feel they need alcohol to get through the day.”
V.19 says “be wise: guide your heart.” One of the most foolish things…and you hear it on TV all the time…a girl has a boyfriend who wants to be intimate, and instead of talking with her mom or dad or her pastor, she asks one of her teen friends who is just as ignorant as she is, “How do I know I am ready?”
And her friend will say (and sometimes on those stupid TV shows the mother will say), “Just follow your heart.” Proverbs 28.26 is going to tell us that the person who follows his heart is a fool! “For your heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked [Jeremiah 17.9]!” This proverb says YOU have to guide your heart with wisdom. Why? Because your heart wants to go wandering off after wickedness. Where do we get wisdom? From God’s word. Mom, Dad, Pastor, “My boyfriend wants to be intimate, how do I know I’m ready?”
“God says, you know you are ready after you have said your vows and been legally pronounced husband and wife!” And “God says, get away from him immediately; he is the devil’s ploy to destroy you. If you mess up with him you may well miss the wonder-full life God has planned for you, and make life in general much harder for yourself and for those you love.”
From early on I wanted to have a godly, peaceful, home like the one I grew up in, so I made a promise to myself that I would not kiss a girl until I knew her well enough to know several things: that she was committed to and loved God, that she would be a good faithful wife, and that she wanted to be a mother, and that she would be a good mama. See, I knew if I kissed a girl before I could objectively evaluate those three things, I would not be able to do so afterward, after it got physical. I dated several very nice young ladies in college, but as I spent time with them and got to know them something would happen and I would just know she’s not the one. So, even those I dated several times I didn’t kiss them.
I met Jennifer, my wife-to-be, at a Big Country Baptist Association Area youth rally. Later, I became the youth and music minister at FBC in Munday where the Jennifer Guess was the church organist. We went on mission trips together, did VBS together, and of course worked on the weekly worship service music together. Our first date was to see The Ten Commandment with Charlton Heston at the Rule Drive-in Movie Theater. All the way home … we held hands. When I had known Miss Guess for two years, and had dated her for more than six months, I was finally sure that if I kissed her, and our relationship progressed to marriage, that would be a very good thing, a God thing. So, on Jennifer’s 17th birthday we shared our first kiss. A little over a year later, when she was just three days out of high school, we were married, and have been enjoying wedded bliss for more than 50 years. She is my one and only, the only woman I have ever kissed on the lips. Life is GOOD!
V.23 says, “Buy the truth, and sell it not.” Value what God says above everything, and never sell out for less! You don’t want to be like Esau, who sold his birthright for the momentary pleasure and satisfaction of a bowl of beans! How many times over the next 50 years do you think Esau kicked himself for being so obtuse?
Vs.27-35 combine warnings and examples of alcohol and drug abuse and the sexual sin that often accompanies them. “Don’t look at the w**e when it is red and swirls beautifully in the goblet…look at what it does to people. You will come to in a gutter, robbed, beat half to death, and you can’t remember how you got there.” Or v.33 which says in effect, ‘Under the influence, a guy goes to bed at 2 with a 10 but wakes up hung over at 10 with a 2.” The only alcohol I have ever had in my life was a sip of w**e at a Lord Supper Service at a Lutheran church in Jerusalem.
Right after Jennifer and I got married, we were both in college and I was a part-time music and youth director at Avoca Baptist Church. But my new little wife was afraid we were going to be living in poverty, so I got a full-time job as the night auditor and desk clerk at the new Holiday Inn on I-20 in Abilene. I would go to my college classes from 8am to noon, go home and eat lunch and sleep till 8PM, get up and eat supper with Jennifer, do my homework and be at the hotel at 11PM and work till 7AM. Behind the check-in counter there was the men’s restroom, then the women’s restroom, and at the back, the bar. The bar made more money than the hotel rooms and the restaurant (the restaurant never made money) combined. The traveling men would come staggering out of the bar at one or two in the morning and I would hear them go into the men’s room and throw up and throw up, and the next morning talk about what a great time they had.
There are some medicinal benefits to moderate w**e intake. Paul told Timothy to “Take a little w**e for your stomach’s sake, and for your oft infirmities [1 Timothy 5.23].” But the Bible says drinking is dangerous, too, as we saw earlier. Heavy alcohol intake kills brain cells, can cause cirrhosis of the liver, cancer of the digestive track, and heart disease, and of course you can die of alcohol poisoning, not to mention from driving drunk or just staggering and falling down and hitting your head.
So, the Bible does not say never drink w**e, it only says, ‘never get drunk.’ I have seen way too many drunks in my life, and I have seen the pain they put themselves and their families through, to ever drink myself. Besides, 1 Timothy 3.3 says part of the criteria for pastors is “Not given to w**e…” And Ephesians 5 says, "Don't get drunk with w**e which can ruin you, but be filled with the Spirit [which is life ABUNDANT]."