06/20/2020
Sermon Middleport & Wilkesville: Father’s Day
June 21, 2020
(Scriptures are included in the sermon for today.)
Mother’s and Father’s Day sermons are hard to write and preach because of all the extenuating circumstances that involve mothers, fathers, children, and families. We all have “that” relative, and sometimes it is even the mother or father. If we are lucky enough to have or have had a good father, we should thank God for him. Being a dad is tough these days. Many of our fathers have passed on, so this day can be a difficult one too. You may remember on Mother’s Day, I read a list of sayings that just about all mothers have said at one time or another. Well, I found this, written by Martha Bolton entitled: What is Fatherhood?” See if any of you can relate.
Fatherhood is...getting to go anywhere you want for Father’s Day, getting to drive there, and even getting to pay the bill!
It’s getting up in the middle of the night to see what the noise was outside, when you’d really rather stay in bed and hide, like everyone else.
It’s the best excuse in the world to buy all those toys you wanted as a child and never got.
It’s catching yourself watching cartoons when no one else is home, and even sort of enjoying them.
It’s biting your tongue and remembering to be a good example when someone cuts you off on the highway.
It’s playing Santa at midnight on Christmas Eve, then paying for the privilege at 22% interest for 36 consecutive months.
It’s assembling toys that require one screwdriver and a nuclear physicist to assemble.
It’s praying for, hoping for, and anxiously looking forward to the day when your kids will be out of the house and on their own...and then trying to postpone that day as long as possible when it approaches.
It’s carrying sleepy kids into the house when you’re too tired to even carry yourself in.
Yes, fatherhood is sometimes a thankless job of fixing kites, breaking up fights, wiping up chocolate milk. It’s dental bills, broken arms, and skateboards. But today, Dad, we want to say we appreciate you, and all you do! Sounds pretty true to me when thinking about my own dad with my brother and me and Rick and the years raising our kids.
Both parenting and fatherhood can be a real trial and yet a real blessing. We are here today to remember our Father God and honor our earthly fathers. We need to do both. I want us to think about some of the things that hopefully you as a father and your own father did for which we should say, "Thanks, Dad!"
1- Thanks for material provision
2- Thanks for faithful instruction
3- Thanks for Godly illustration
I. THANKS FOR MATERIAL PROVISION
First Timothy 5: 8 says,
“Everyone should take care of all their own people. Most important, they should take care of their own family. If they do not do that, then they do not accept what we believe. They are worse than someone who does not even believe in God.”
Wow! That’s powerful. If a father does not provide materially for his family (food, clothing, shelter) then he has denied the faith of Christ and is worse than unbelievers. Why would such a father be worse than unbelievers? BECAUSE EVEN UNBELIEVERS provide for their families. Many men today are great fathers, but there are also many men who flit from one woman to another, getting them pregnant as some sort of trophy, and then leave the woman and the child to fend for themselves while they move on to the next. Even after a divorce, many fail to pay child support or be around to provide any sort of help and guidance to the child.
Do I think my dad provided for me? Sure, he did. I honestly don’t remember missing out on anything. He, like many of you and your fathers, worked more than one job most of his life to have enough money to give us what we wanted and needed. He grew up poor and vowed he would never let his family not have money for food, clothes, or the doctor. He worked to put himself through college and became an educator himself. Education was the key to getting out of poverty he believed. College was expected of my brother and me, and I had no student loans for college. Dad and Mom made sure they had enough money saved to put us through four years of higher education. That was very important for them to do that for their children. Your parents probably had goals that they strove for with you and your siblings as well. Did your father provide for you? He probably did, or you wouldn’t be here today. You need to thank him for it if he is still alive, or at least, give thanks to God that he did! Godly Fathers provide for their families.
II. THANKS FOR FAITHFULL INSTRUCTION
“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord,” we read in Ephesians 6:4. Other versions of the Bible state it this way, "Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord." "Parents, don’t be hard on your children. Raise them properly. Teach them and instruct them about the Lord." "Don’t keep on scolding and nagging your children, making them angry and resentful. Rather, bring them up with the loving discipline the Lord himself approves."
Fathers do instruct their children about many things. They are bigger and better examples of what to do and not to do than we care to admit. Fathers have given all kinds of instruction to their children about such things as: school, work, relationships, dating, driving a car, etc. I used to hate it when my dad would try to talk with me about these things. I thought they were “lectures”. Now, I wish I could hear him “lecture” me again! But remember, faithful instruction is important, but we have to be careful how we deliver it. All criticism and no praise are not good even if it is meant with the best intentions. We need to ask ourselves at times: “I am a coach or a critic?
When we want only what is best for our kids, it’s hard not to criticize and nag at them, but they usually need to hear our praise even more. Here is the sad confession of one father. "I took my children to school but not to church. I taught them to drink but not of the living water. I enrolled them in Little League but not Sunday School. I showed them how to fish but not to be fisher of men. I made the Lord’s Day a holiday, rather than a holy day. I taught them the church was full of hypocrites and made a greater hypocrite of them and me. I gave them a color TV but provided no Bible. I handed them the keys to the car but did not tell them about the keys to the kingdom of God. I taught them how to make a living but failed to bring them to Christ who alone can make that life worth living."
How sad to think that those developmental years were wasted with our children on things that will ultimately have no value, so thank your father for the faithful instruction he gave you in life...for all the good advice – for all the lectures. And especially, if that instruction included the Lord!
1- Thanks for material provision.
2- Thanks for faithful instruction.
III. THANKS FOR GODLY ILLUSTRATION
By this, I mean a Godly illustration for life - Godly example for life.
In I Corinthians 11:1 Paul said to the Corinthians who were his children in the faith, "Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ.”
Please notice: Paul didn’t say, "Do everything I do." He said, "Do everything I do which is Christ-like." Or follow the example of Christ. Paul wasn’t perfect and neither are we.
There are no perfect fathers - or mothers. God knows that and forgives us our mess ups! But we should try to the very best of our abilities to follow what Christ taught us with everyone and certainly our children more than anyone. There are lots of things that we have done in life that we do not want our children to do. We’re sorry when we have given them a bad example. But we have also done some good things, some Godly things, some Christ- like things, which we hope they will copy from our life. THE MOST IMPORTANT THING BEING; loving people!
If you’re a father, it’s often hard to be vulnerable. Our society often believes grown men don’t show emotion or cry or pray aloud or many other things considered not manly. They are to be “the strong ones.” But remember Jesus was moved by the injustices He saw during His time on earth and even cried for His friend Lazarus. Our children need to see we all are human and moved to joy - and tears at times.
Today, let us thank not only our earthly Fathers but our heavenly Father for all both have given to us. Good Fathers are first of all good husbands, so it is important for children to see Godly marriages too as examples of what families should be. May God lead us all to be good Fathers, Mothers, Grandparents, and Godly examples to everyone we meet – especially in our own families. Amen.
Let us pray. Father God, first and foremost, thank You for being our heavenly Father. You have given us the truest example through Your Son of what it means to be a loving parent. May we give You thanks also for our earthly fathers, even if they have gone to be with You. They loved us and taught us the best they could. They were Your example to us here on earth. Please bless all fathers and father figures this day. Give them the grace, knowledge, and endurance to teach future generations about Your love and the love of a father. In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen.