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02/02/2022

The defining characteristic of many weak men is that they are “orbiters.”

They are desperate for direction and validation—frequently due to poor father relationships.

In their search for direction and validation, they tend to get stuck in the orbit around two types of people:

-Entitled women
-Narcissistic men

In their minds…

Helping a woman overcome some obstacle validates that they are a man (as does securing a wife);

Having the approval of a father-figure validates that they are a man.

Hence, they are on a desperate quest to get both. And they think that if they show devotion to these types of people, it will result in reciprocal feelings.

Not so.

This is why so many white knights end as bitter men. They told women that they are “brave, stunning, & beautiful.” They helped them defeat the dragons and rescued them from castles and defended them from villains (all generally imaginary).

Similarly, they showed undying loyalty to their alpha-guru-type male leader, and defended him against nasty detractors who said he was a callous manipulator.

Now, they’ll get the approval they desire, right?

Not at all.

Because the relationship isn’t reciprocal.

Women don’t respect weak men—and neither do alpha-gurus.

At best, both will use them. Especially the latter.

Many orbiters turn into bitter men when they crash into the hard ground of this reality.

Better to pursue your own gravitas through devotion to God.

What is gravitas and how do you "get it?"

Gravitas was a Roman virtue, referring to a man’s seriousness, his dignity, his weight.

It is a useful term because Scripture also speaks of weight in a similar way.

We devoted two chapters to it in It's Good to Be a Man.