02/14/2025
It is my opinion that one of the worst habits of today is how people have weaponized the word “love.”
I can treat you how I want, I can do what I want, I can put myself first while watching you figuratively starve, and it’s all ok because I love you and nobody else could love you like I do.
When I first started my journey of faith years ago, Matthew 5 was my first real dive into the depths of who I wanted to be; blessed are the meek and merciful, if they slap one cheek turn and give them the other, if they ask for a mile give them two, love your enemies. This was my template. You see, I was so starved for love that I thought if I gave enough then surely it would come back to me. So I tried my hardest to become who I thought I needed to be, and do you know what that got me? A bitter agonizing death of everything I had envisioned, because when I turned to give my left cheek they again slapped my right. When I would give an extra mile and they noticed they would then ask for two and I would give them three, then they’d ask for three and I’d give them four. When I loved my enemies they took advantage and abused all that I was giving them. I would listen to everything they deserved and needed but if I brought up my own I was asking for too much. By the end I was so bitter, battered, and broken that I didn’t even recognize myself, but whenever they would notice my countenance slipping they would always slip in how much they loved me and it would harden my heart further. Love had turned into a disgusting thing. That’s when I realized how far away from God I had fallen. I wasn’t looking at what God was laying out for me, I was doing what “I” thought I needed to do and it’s never going to work out when we follow our own plans.
As I lay there crying out to God in my deepest despair, trying to understand how anyone could endure such agony, how could a heart withstand so much grief, He whispered back to me….
““Blessed are the poor in spirit, For theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are those who mourn, For they shall be comforted. Blessed are the meek, For they shall inherit the earth. Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, For they shall be filled. Blessed are the merciful, For they shall obtain mercy. Blessed are the pure in heart, For they shall see God. Blessed are the peacemakers, For they shall be called sons of God. Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake, For theirs is the kingdom of heaven. “Blessed are you when they revile and persecute you, and say all kinds of evil against you falsely for My sake. Rejoice and be exceedingly glad, for great is your reward in heaven, for so they persecuted the prophets who were before you.”
Matthew 5:3-12 NKJV
It’s not for me to understand how people can be so vile and cruel, my only job is to follow the example of Jesus Christ and to extend His love and mercy to all because even at my worst He has never failed in extending it to me. He’s not asking me to lay down my life for those who are happy living in their sin, He wants me to save those who have seen His light but are so used to the darkness that they’re too afraid to reach for it.
Then one lonely day, I’m scrolling and I come upon Luke 4; Jesus returns to Nazareth to minister but is then run out of town as they attempt to kill Him. He never returned to Nazareth after that. He was kind to all but He helped those who were ready to repent and turn to the Lord, He didn’t dwell with people who were content living in sin.
True love, the Love God has freely given each of us, never has to be said. Love is an action, love is unselfish, love does not boast, love is not rude or envious, love does not watch someone suffer alone but it is suffering in itself. Love is unconditional, unparalleled, there are no limits to how much we can love a person, but if you are not careful in keeping God first you slip into the worlds definition of love and it’s always based on our own selfish wants and needs.
It’s also not our job to be vengeful or hold someone’s sins above their head after they’ve hurt us, but it is our job to love our enemies and to pray that they may seek salvation for their soul. Don’t let someone else’s sin ruin the light that is within you, never let someone hurt you enough that you begin to doubt Gods love and faithfulness. His wrath far exceeds our own and He always hears our cries. Trust in Him and lean not on your own understanding and you’ll never have to worry about who loves you on earth, because this isn’t our home. Our home is in heaven with our Father and what a joyous reunion that will be 💜