Christian Counseling with Kellie Hoener

09/24/2021

Tha shadow of our past is NOT our reality in Christ! Amen!!!

05/01/2021

Just a little something I’ve been reading! We need to make more of an effort to talk about things! Stop hiding our issues. Break the stigma surrounding mental health issues!!

03/18/2021

Forgiveness can often be the key to healing from the past. Here is an excerpt from a book I picked up, “Praying God’s Word,” by Beth Moore.
When someone hurts us the last thing we want to do is forgive them. Forgiving someone after they have hurt us does not mean we think what they did is “okay,” but rather that we are letting it go.
Maybe you were abused or assaulted in the past, and that has influenced who you are today. It causes you to experience depression, anxiety, panic, or anger. Today could be the beginning of a new path in life, if we grasp what it means to forgive. I encourage you to dig into this topic and see where it takes you! Let the healing begin!

03/18/2021

Mental Health Awareness,if you know a woman who struggles with healing from the past, invite them to this event.
Mark your calendars and attend! Maybe you go and become equipped to help that friend!
Don’t be embarrassed or ashamed of what has happened to you in your life and allow that to keep you from healing. THIS may be the day you have a break through. This woman has been through it and came out on the other side. She is here to help!!
This is FREE of charge, and when you leave you receive a copy of her book.
Share this event! Someone needs it!!!

03/15/2021

Anxiety- we all experience it at some point. How do we deal with it? Do we struggle alone? Do allow it to consume our thoughts, over and over again? Do we cry, or become panicky and short of breath? So much so we have chest pains?
Stop struggling alone!! If we consciously turn to God and seek His help, we Will receive it! If we seek help from other people, good and wise, Godly counsel, we will receive it.
Cast your anxieties on Him. Let Him know what is bothering you. Prayer in earnest! Supplication-petition, make known your desire or need. In thanksgiving- being thankful for someone you can turn to, who cares for you, who loves you, and provides you with your needs.
When we do this Peace like No Other will overtake us. We cannot understand it, and sometimes we don’t believe it. But it is TRUE! You can have this!! It’s a gift for all of us!
Regarding myself, I sometimes think, why am I not praying more? Why am I not being more thankful for what God has given me?
STOP struggling alone! Seek help. I am here to help in anyway I can. God first, me second.
Philippians 4: 6-7
6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God , which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

02/17/2021

Shared from a friend. Know that you are not alone!

I’ve been debating putting this out there bc it’s extremely hard for me. A year ago I found out I was pregnant. My first time. I found out 6 days later there was no heart beat. At some point over the last year I wrote this poem. And I wanted to share...

Before those 4 words

I was only pregnant for 6 days
Yea you were 10 weeks old
But I just found out about you.
In those 6 days. I saw it all. I saw you grow up. I saw you take your first steps. Your first giggle. Your first words. Your first love.
I saw you grow up big and strong
Independent but always knowing mommy was there when you couldn’t be strong on your own.
I taught you to be smart bc beauty fades. But also taught you how to use your beauty to bring beauty to the world. I thought of it all.
And then the 4 words...
“There was no heartbeat”

The four words that made it all disappear
Made all those visions disappear faster than a Thanos snap. Out of the whole. I was the only half left. Left to pick up in a world where the dust covered the earth and all I could feel was the smoke suffocating my lungs.
The words filling my bloodstream as quick as a virus invading a body. The tears streaming down my face. Seeing my mom try to be the strong force for me I saw myself being for my baby...before the 4 words.
Having to lay on my back while the doctor looks inside me to make sure everything is ok. But if she looked inside me she would see I’m not ok. I was...before the 4 words
Hearing her tell me that it wasn’t my fault. There was nothing I could do. It was my first pregnancy and sometimes the body rejects it. And all I can do is cry. I cried when I found out I was pregnant. But those tears were different, they were...before the 4 words

My sister is pregnant. It’s not easy for me. She’s pregnant by a man who committed infidelity. I disowned her. I did everything “right”. She did everything wrong. But the pain is too much. I would have been so happy for her...before the 4 words.

It’s been a while now. My baby would be one month. I imagine what it’s like but it’s so out of touch. I used to be able to imagine holding it. The smell of its hair. The touch of its skin. The pure love I had to give.

But now it’s all just so fuzzy. Like a long night of partying. Trying to remember what happened. What I did. How it happened. All at a chance to grasp a glimpse of reality in the haze of a dream.

I was 1 in 4. I was different...before those 4 words.

02/15/2021

Recovery is a journey of progress, not perfection! Remember that!

02/12/2021

A book I’m reading. Full of a lot of wisdom. For those struggling or know someone who is.

01/04/2021

Accountability- subject to giving an account: answerable, "held her accountable for the damage" -capable of being explained; explainable
When we have a struggle, we often times need someone else to hold us accountable, because we cannot do it for ourselves. This often goes against our very nature.
We need to find someone we trust and ask them to hold us accountable for certain actions. Then we need to be committed to that accountability partner. Sign a contract with them and both keep a copy.
Then remember not to become angry, agitated, or frustrated with your accountability partner. Challenge yourself, and work through this. Remember, they are doing what you asked them to do!

12/03/2020

https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/wellness/mental-health-su***de-help-covid/2020/11/30/af45a7a6-2e88-11eb-96c2-aac3f162215d_story.html

Amid pandemic-fueled anxiety and depression and heightened concerns about su***de, here’s what experts say you can do to help people who may be struggling.

12/03/2020

We were created to be social beings. To gather together, to communicate, and to love. We are NOT meant to be alone. I am not speaking in terms of romance, necessarily. We are meant to have friends or companions. We are NOT meant to struggle alone. If we were, God would never have given Adam a companion.
If you struggle with depression, please know there are others out there who are willing to listen. To sit and talk. No judgement! We all struggle. We all have issues. No one is perfect.
We can work through this!

10/17/2020

The Holidays can be difficult. Grief, anxiety, depression, and any other stressors impact how we handle the holiday season. We sometimes have this idealized version of how the holidays should be, and when it doesn't live up to the fantasy we've created it can be a huge let down. With grief there may be may emotions that you stir up and have to deal with all over again, or stress from the preparation for the holiday just to be let down.

If we could help ourselves anticipate the stress of the holiday season, maybe we would then have the opportunity to plan for it, or possibly anticipate things that we had not considered in the past.

Consider the following format:
Holiday | In the past | Stressors | Possible change of
| Tradition/ Routine | (Family, Finances,| Tradition/Routine
| | feelings, |
| | planning, etc) |

Create yourself a table with these four column headers, and then work your way through the holidays that you celebrate. What have you done in the past and how might you need to adjust that tradition or routine?

Hopefully this is helpful. If you ever need someone to talk to please reach out! ~Kellie