Mickey Lovejoy - Biblical Counselor

08/26/2025

Need a fresh take on this caption from last week: This is a deceptively simple concept. But if you want something to change in your life — in your relationships, your health, your finances, your mindset — you can’t just hope your way into a new outcome. You have to act.

If nothing changes… nothing changes.

So ask yourself: What’s one thing you can do differently today? What are you tolerating that’s no longer serving you? What small step can break the cycle?
Change starts with one choice. One shift. One act of courage.

08/20/2025

I don’t know who in your life has told you that you are anything less than the most glorious creation of the almighty God. I don’t know who has spoken words over you and about you that have stripped you bare and broken your heart. But I do know any statements spoken to you that come against the truth must be called a lie.

God’s Word is the Truth. And His Truth says you are a holy and dearly loved child of your heavenly Father.

You are wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14).

You are a treasure (1 Peter 2:9).

You are beautiful (1 Peter 3:4).

You are fully known by Him and lavishly loved by Him (Psalm 139:1-4).

You are chosen (Ephesians 1:11).

You are special (Ephesians 2:10).

You are full of purpose (Romans 8:28).

You are set apart (2 Timothy 2:21).

Even if you don’t always feel like these things are true. Even if you don’t feel known or understood. Our feelings aren’t always an accurate assessment of what’s true. Cling to the words of 1 John 4:16 today: “And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love.

Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them”. Release the lies you’ve believed that make you feel less than who you are, and set your mind and heart on God's Truth.

We must remember God’s words. Repeat God’s words. Believe God’s words with our whole hearts.

08/12/2025

One of the hardest things about ending codependency is that it tugs at your heart. You develop codependent habits because you care, and you don’t want to hurt anyone. You want to see an addict get better, or you want to see your child succeed. When you see your loved ones suffering, it’s easy to want to come to their rescue. But love doesn’t mean losing yourself.

The reality is, you can’t get sober for someone.

You’re allowed to care deeply without carrying the weight of someone else’s recovery. Whether it’s addiction, irresponsibility, or immaturity, you can support without rescuing, love without enabling, care without controlling. You can be for someone without becoming responsible for them. Let’s talk about how to let go of the weight that was never yours to begin with.

08/09/2025

Integrity is not just about honesty, but also about consistency of character, keeping one's word, and doing what is right even when it is difficult.

07/28/2025

07/27/2025

Took me a LONG time for God to heal me of offense. But he did!

A good sign of how secure you are is what it takes to offend you. If it takes a lot to rattle you, that’s a sign of internal strength. Build that. Let offenses shrink as your security grows.

07/25/2025

It’s easy to think you need more people, more connections, a bigger crowd around you. But the truth? A small circle with deep, tested roots is where life truly flourishes.

You don’t need a crowd. You need a few who know your soul — not just your highlight reel.
People who’ll speak truth when you stray, sit with you in the dark and silence when life falls apart, guard your dreams like their own, and celebrate your becoming.

These kinds of connections aren’t built overnight. They take time, shared tears, vulnerable truths, and mutual loyalty. And they’re worth every bit of it.

These are your life protectors. Choose wisely who gets close. Look for people who live by the same values, who don’t shy away from hard conversations, who stand steady when storms hit.
The right people won’t just support your goals — they’ll guard your heart and appreciate that you’ll guard theirs.

Visit boundaries.me to learn more about finding safe people.

07/25/2025

Controlling people call it “helping you for your own good.” It’s not. It’s about their gain, not your growth. Draw a line and don’t allow them to cross it.

For more tips on handling manipulators, comment “Control,” and I will send you a link to a course packed with actionable ideas.

07/10/2025