10/14/2026
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. I asked Rev. Debi Acree, a member of our Commission on Ministry, to offer a word to our regional family, and I am grateful she did. She names something too many churches have kept behind closed doors, and she gives pastors and lay leaders clear, practical guidance for the moment someone finally finds the courage to speak.
If this is your story, you are not alone, and it is not your fault. The church is called to be a place where the truth can be told safely. Please read what Debbie has written below and share it.
“Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them. For it is shameful to even mention what such people do secretly, but everything exposed by the light becomes visible.” Ephesians 5:11-13
Only when we bring it to the light- don’t be afraid to talk about it- then name it so we can begin to heal IT. The IT is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. October brings a month that recognizes numerous issues (Breast Cancer, Children’s Sabbath, and Domestic Violence), but the one issue many in the church do not talk about is the violence/abuse that occurs in the home. It is “what such people do secretly…”
‘It affects millions of people in the United States each year. More than 1 in 3 women (nearly 43.5 million) and more than 1 in 6 men (20.7 million) experienced contact sexual violence, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner during their lifetimes.’ (The National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey: 2023/2024 Data Brief – Intimate Partner Violence. Atlanta, GA: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, National Center for Injury Prevention and Control; 2026.)
Why is the church so afraid to talk about Domestic Violence? For some reason, we as a society have decided it was a private matter – between family members- but DOMESTIC VIOLENCE affects not only the church but also all aspects of life. So, what does the Bible have to say about Domestic Violence? “For it is from within, out of a person’s heart, that evil thoughts come…” Mark 7:21. And how do we lift such a veil of darkness and silence around Domestic Violence? That question is really an easy answer – say it OUT LOUD, PREACH about it on Sunday mornings. You might be surprised at who in your congregation may come forward with a family secret. There is a story of r**e and domestic violence in the Bible – 2 Samuel, the story of Tamar; however, the Lectionary seems to overlook that story.
Unfortunately, too many of our seminaries do not address the issue of Domestic Violence or how to handle the violence when it comes to light in our congregations. All ministers, youth ministers, and any other staff or layperson working within the congregation should look at the local DV shelter for resources, training, and set up a safety plan when a victim does come forward. But after you have helped the victim set up a safety plan, then REFER, REFER, REFER, to the local DV Program. Whatever you do – DO NOT invite the couple in for couples counseling.
Remember, Domestic Violence is not a personal problem, but a community problem which must be brought out in the light and addressed.
Georgia Statewide Hotline 1-800-334-2836 (this number connects one to the closest DV program)
National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 or Text START to 88788
NOTE: Allow the victim to use a private phone in the church so she or he may feel safe about calling.