09/24/2026
The Dawn of Hesed: The law of Kindness
Think about the last time you looked into a mirror. Standing there is a very personal position, we don’t use it to look at the person standing in the next room. We use it to examine ourselves. We look for the flaws, the smudges, the things that need to be brought into alignment.
Interestingly, something completely opposite tends to happen when it comes to our spiritual lives. It’s like Satan’s magic trick. Our sinful nature takes the mirror God gave for our own souls, and we turn it outward, using it as a magnifying glass to point out the flaws, the failures, and the shortcomings of the people around us.
This is the root of the problem Paul addresses in 2 Corinthians 13:5. In a urgent and direct command he states: "Examine yourselves as to whether you are in the faith. Test yourselves. Do you not know yourselves, that Jesus Christ is in you?—unless indeed you are disqualified."
On the surface this sounds harsh, severe even. How do we reconcile this intense call for inward examination with everything we know about avoiding an outward, critical spirit? How do we balance the demand to "test ourselves" with the relentless, gentle hesed—the covenant-making, unbreakable lovingkindness of God—celebrated twenty-six times in Psalm 136?
The answer lies entirely in the direction of the lens, and it brings us face-to-face with one of the most raw, painful, and beautiful passages in all of Scripture: Lamentations 3:22-25.
The prophet Jeremiah writes from the ashes of a destroyed city. He is at the absolute end of himself. He has examined his nation, he has examined his own grieving heart, and right there in the dust, he drops the magnifying glass of judgment and looks up. He writes: "Through the Lord’s mercies we are not consumed, because His compassions fail not. They are new every morning; great is Your faithfulness. 'The Lord is my portion,' says my soul, 'Therefore I hope in Him!' The Lord is good to those who wait for Him, to the soul who seeks Him."
In the original Hebrew, that word for "mercies" is hesed. Notice the process and intention of true biblical self-examination. It doesn’t stand in a position of comparison in pride or self justification, neither does it let shame or guilt keep it from carefully inspecting the beauty of the perfect standard of love. True self-examination looks inward, realizes my total bankruptcy, and realizes that the only reason I am still breathing is because of the morning-by-morning hesed of God. His loving kindness pleading with me to understand how much I’ve always needed Him and let Him create the new heart He wants to give me.
In the book “Desire of ages” there is a warning about how the danger of turning the lens of God in an outward focus without letting it work in us. “When we are frustrated, hyper-critical, selfish, or rude, we completely cut ourselves off from God's holy influence. When we spend all our time monitoring and judging everyone else's behavior, we block the very grace and mercy we need so desperately ourselves. Our words end up biting and stinging like a venomous snake, driving away the gentle presence of the Holy Spirit and bringing tears to the very angels of heaven.”
Basically put, we can’t claim the Lord is our morning "portion" while serving portions of bitterness, criticism, and gossip to the people around us. The fresh mercies of Lamentations 3 can’t flow into your life if you are actively choking them from flowing out of your lips. Ultimately we take that view of God to ourselves as well.
The course correction comes in recognizing our need. Realizing it is our loving Creator that has revealed it to us we are encouraged to ask for help in correcting it fully trusting that as we grow closer to Him He will perfect us to the day of Jesus’ return for His service.
True self-examination does not end with your defects. It begins with your need and ends with Christ’s righteousness. Jesus was never rude, never spoke harshly for no reason, and never intentionally hurt anyone's feelings. Instead of judging people for being human, he showed real understanding and compassion. He helped them see their need and pointed them to the truth.
Studying God’s word serves as a mirror to examine our faith and bring our great need to God. It isn’t a license to compare ourselves to others but to see His faithfulness to us all and help others to see it. The only reason any of us are even breathing is because of His faithfulness and He wants us to get to know Him.
When we understand and receive His hesed through our own brokenness, the magnifying glass of criticism is shattered. Satan can no longer use us to magnify our brother's flaws because we are too busy marveling at Christ's patience with us. By recognizing our own great need for Jesus, we are freed to receive His heart of service and step into the ministry of reconciling others to our Heavenly Father.
Now the law of kindness takes possession of character. We can look at the world around us no longer as a judge, but as a fellow traveler who has found the morning mercies and wants to share them with others.
Today let’s study God’s word as the standard of Love that it is and present to God our great need. Let’s test our faith by it to ensure we are hidden safely in Jesus. Look by faith, wait quietly for His goodness, and let the law of kindness flow out into a world that is thirsting for real love.