04/25/2026
A WICKED WOMAN FOR A WICKED MAN
There are relationships that do not need counseling first. They need confession.
Because the problem is not communication.
The problem is not love languages.
The problem is not that somebody misunderstood somebody.
The problem is wickedness found a companion, and when wickedness finds companionship, it stops looking like sin and starts calling itself love.
That is why some of you are not in relationships, You are in agreements!!!!!!!!
You are in spiritual contracts built out of appetite, pride, lust, rebellion, secrecy, and fear and Hypocrisy!!!!!
The most terrifying part is this:
You call it chemistry because you do not want to call it fornication and sin.
You call it passion because you do not want to call it disorder.
You call it “we just understand each other” because you do not want to admit the truth.
You understand each other because both of you hate correction but love pretending to be righteous. You understand each other because both of you know how to lie without blinking. That is not love. Love is not a fruit wickedness bares!!!!!!!
Sirach said it plainly:
“A wicked woman is given as a portion to a wicked man.” Given.
That word should scare you.
Because it means you might not have been blessed!!!!!!
You might have been handed over!!!!!!!
You might not have found your soul mate!!!!!
You might have found your sentence!!!!!
Yah may have sent him or her to you as judgment!!!!!!
You might not have met the person sent to complete you!!!!!!
You might have met the person sent to expose the secret sin you refused to kill
and that is why this cuts so deep!!!!!
Because people want to blame the person they chose, But they do not want to interrogate the appetite that chose them.
You keep saying, “They were toxic.”
But why did toxicity feel familiar? Why did you bond with what was toxic????????
You keep saying, “They manipulated me.”
But why did manipulation look like affection?
You keep saying, “They brought out the worst in me.”
No.
They did not bring out what was not there.
They gave permission to what you were already protecting.
A wicked man does not want a Yahly woman.
He says he does, but he does not.
A Yahly woman will make his demons uncomfortable.
She will not clap for his ego.
She will not excuse his laziness.
She will not turn her body into a reward system for his inconsistency.
She will not bow to a man who is not bowed before Yahuah.
A wicked man wants the benefit of a righteous woman without becoming a righteous man!!!!!!!!
He wants peace in the house while he brings war in his spirit!!!!!!!
He wants submission from her while he is submitted to nothing.
He wants loyalty while he lives a double life.
He wants honor while he has no integrity.
He wants her to be soft while his soul is hard.
He wants her to be quiet because if she speaks truth, his image will bleed.
That man does not need a wife first.
He needs judgment. He needs the mirror.
He needs the terror of realizing that headship without holiness is just organized destruction.
and a wicked woman does not want a Yahly man.
She says she does, but she does not.
A Yahly man will not worship her wounds.
He will not let trauma sit on the throne.
He will not call manipulation discernment.
He will not confuse beauty with virtue.
He will not let her tears become commandments!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
He will not let her body become government!!!!!
He will not let her bitterness run the house and call it wisdom.
A wicked woman wants covering without correction.
She wants protection without submission to order.
She wants a man strong enough to fight everybody else, but weak enough to never confront her!!!!!!!!!
She wants a man who will call her chaos “depth.”
She wants a man who will confuse her control for care.
That woman does not need a husband first.
She needs deliverance. She needs truth.
She needs to stand in the ashes of what her hands have torn down and admit:
“I was not building. I was consuming.”
Ahab and Jezebel were not an accident.
Ahab had appetite, Jezebel had ex*****on.
He desired Naboth’s vineyard.
She turned his desire into bloodshed.
That is what wicked couples do.
One dreams the evil, the other gives it language.
One carries the offense, the other sharpens the knife.
One is bitter, the other makes the phone calls.
One is insecure, the other starts the campaign.
One is wounded, the other weaponizes the wound.a nd before long, a household becomes a courtroom, a bedroom becomes a war room, and pillow talk becomes the birthplace of accusations.
That is why some homes are heavy.
Not because devils randomly walked in.
Because the couple invited them through agreement.
Ananias and Sapphira did not die because they had money.
They died because they built an image on a lie.
They rehearsed deception as husband and wife.
They stood before the assembly with one story and before Yahuah with another.
That is the wicked-couple spirit.
Not merely sinning, Synchronizing sin!!!!!!
Perfecting the lie, managing the image
Hiding the motive.
Protecting the secret, appearing sacrificial while being privately greedy.
Appearing united while being united in fraud.
And when the Spirit asked, “How have you agreed together?” that question did not just fall on them.
It falls on every couple that knows they are lying.
How did you agree together?
How did you agree to smile in public and rot in private?
How did you agree to counsel others while your own house is diseased?
How did you agree to post righteousness while practicing deceit?
How did you agree to make Yahuah’s people your stage while your hearts remain full of guile?
Some of you do not have a marriage.
You have an alliance against repentance.
You do not pray together.
You complain together!!!!!!
You do not study together.
You collect evidence together!!!!!!!
You do not fast together.
You starve accountability together!!!!!!
You do not build together.
You bond over who you both dislike!!!!!
And then you call it holy matrimony. Its unholy matrimony, its phony matrimony, its the bond of devils!!!!@!.
Loyalty to wickedness is treason against righteousness.
You are not ride-or-die.
You are die-and-die.
Because nobody is riding toward life.
Both of you are driving deeper into darkness while convincing each other the road is holy.
This is where it gets hard.
Some people are not trapped in wicked relationships.
They are comfortable there.
They like having someone who will not require them to become clean.
They like having someone who will cosign the half-truth.
They like having someone who will help them avoid the elder, avoid the rebuke, avoid the apology, avoid the restitution, avoid the hard conversation!!!!!!!!
They do not want healing.
They want a witness for their rebellion.
They want somebody who will sit beside them and say, “You are not wrong,” even while heaven is calling them filthy!!!!!!!!!!!@@!!!!
That is not companionship.
That is spiritual anesthesia.
Somebody is helping you sleep while your soul is dying!!!!!!!!!!
A wicked couple is dangerous because they multiply.
Their children learn tension before they learn peace.
Their children learn performance before they learn prayer.
Their children learn that love sounds like arguing, silence, manipulation, control, and emotional punishment.
Their friends learn to choose sides.
Their assembly learns to walk carefully around their offense.
Their community becomes infected by their private disease.
That is why wicked union is not private.
There is no such thing as private wickedness when two people become one flesh.
Whatever rules the union eventually leaks into the house.
Whatever leaks into the house eventually touches the children.
Whatever touches the children eventually shapes the people.
That is why this is not just about relationships.
This is about nations.
Wicked couples raise broken sons.
Wicked couples raise suspicious daughters.
Wicked couples create households where covenant language is spoken, but covenant order is absent.
They produce children who know feast days but do not know peace.
Children who know fringes but do not know safety.
Children who know commandments but watched their parents despise correction.
That is bloodline damage.
That is generational contamination.
So no, this cannot be soft.
Because some of you are treating marriage like a hiding place for demons.
You think because you found someone willing to tolerate your darkness, Yahuah approved it!!!!!!!!!
He did not.
You think because the relationship survived, it is blessed.
No.
Some things survive because both people are too proud to repent.
Some things last long because nobody has the courage to tell the truth.
Length is not proof of righteousness.
A prison sentence can be long too.
A wicked woman for a wicked man.
That is not a cute phrase.
That is a verdict.
It means your portion matched your condition.
It means your desire selected your discipline.
It means your hidden life found a helper.
It means the thing you refused to crucify got married!!!!!!!
And now you are shocked that the house has no peace.
Peace cannot live where truth is hated.
Peace cannot breathe where pride is king.
Peace cannot remain where sin is protected by two witnesses.
But a Yahly woman is given to him that feareth Yahuah.
Not him that talks loud.
Not him that teaches well.
Not him that knows Hebrew words.
Not him that can quote Torah.
Not him that looks disciplined in public.
Him that fears Yahuah.
Fear is the gate.
Fear is the qualification.
Fear makes a man tremble before he touches what is holy.
Fear makes him apologize without being forced.
Fear makes him confess before exposure.
Fear makes him lead without crushing.
Fear makes him correct himself before demanding submission.
Fear makes him safe.
And if a man does not fear Yahuah, a Yahly woman is not his reward.
She would become his victim!!!!!!!!!
A righteous man is not assigned to a woman who worships her own emotions.
A righteous man is not given to a woman who calls every boundary rejection.
A righteous man is not given to a woman who cannot be corrected without becoming dangerous.
A righteous man is not given to a woman whose mouth can burn a city and then cry because someone smelled smoke.
A righteous man is not given to a woman who wants priesthood benefits while refusing covenant discipline.
Because righteousness is not decoration.
It is government.
It governs the mouth.
It governs the bed.
It governs the money.
It governs the phone.
It governs the private conversations.
It governs who you listen to when you are offended.
It governs how you speak when nobody can correct you.
So here is the question.
Not who hurt you.
Not who failed you.
Not who betrayed you.
But what in you agreed?
What in you felt at home in disorder?
What in you confused intensity for intimacy?
What in you needed chaos to feel wanted?
What in you kept ignoring the warnings?
What in you called conviction “judgment”?
What in you hated the people who saw the truth before you were ready to admit it?
Because until you answer that, you are not healed.
You are just between cycles.
And the next person will have a different face but the same spirit, Different voice, Same appetite, Different body, Same bo***ge.
Different relationship, Same portion!!!!
A wicked relationship does not always destroy you with scandal.
Sometimes it destroys you by making you normal in sin.
You stop grieving, You stop trembling.
You stop repenting, You stop noticing how far you have drifted.
You become fluent in excuses.
You become skilled at explaining away darkness.
You learn how to sound righteous while defending what is rotten.
That is when wickedness has done its deepest work.
Not when you fall.
But when you can fall and feel nothing.
So let this hit where it needs to hit.
If your union makes you lie, it is not love.
If your union makes you hide, it is not love.
If your union makes you hate correction, it is not love.
If your union makes you despise righteous people, it is not love.
If your union makes you comfortable in sin, it is not love.
If your union gives your demons rest, it is not love.
It is agreement.
And agreement has consequences.
A wicked woman for a wicked man.
A mirror. A judgment. A portion.
A warning, and for some, a mercy.
Because sometimes Yahuah lets you taste the fruit of your own spirit so you finally stop blaming everybody else for the harvest.
Repent before the relationship becomes your ruin.
Repent before your house becomes a monument to your pride.
Repent before your children inherit the atmosphere you refused to cleanse.
Repent before the person you call love becomes the witness against you.
Because the scariest thing is not being alone.
The scariest thing is being joined to someone who helps you stay wicked.
Yah help us all
Elder BeniaYah Ben Yisrael.
