07/04/2021
This is an unusually hot and dry beginning to summer in the Pacific Northwest. Although I love fireworks every July, Iβm really hoping that thereβs not many this year. All those sparks, and all the dry grass and treesβ-thereβs definitely potential for huge fires.
βA great fire is set off by a small sparkβ and so our words can also be the trigger for a heated argument. As outdoor temperatures rise, so can our internal temperatures. Iβm a firm believer that the Holy Spirit helps me hold me temper in check often and provides me understanding and wisdom when things go wrong. Whether or not you are a believer, there are ways you can cool off too.
1. Take a deep breathβ¦ and then anotherβ¦and then another. Oxygen flowing to your brain helps you feel less reactionary.
2. If you are still feeling angry, take some time to care for yourself: a glass of water, a snack, a few minutes alone, reading or listening to something beautiful or funny.
3. Remind yourself of why the person who upset you is valuable and worthy of love. If you know them well, this might be easier. But if youβre struggling to think of anything positive, remember that each person has intrinsic value and worth.
None of these will solve the problem on their ownβthat takes a healthy measure of truth, love, and understanding. But each of these steps should help you preserve your sanity and avoid causing verbal wildfires β€οΈ