Rubies in the Rough

02/07/2022

10/14/2021

The other day someone zinged me as a mom. Big time.

She said that I didn't do enough to spend time with my oldest son who is away at college. In her words, “She would have done whatever it took,” basically saying I didn't do “whatever it took”.

It set me back for a moment. Then it hurt me. Deeply in fact.

If any of you know me at all you know how seriously I take my role as a mom.

But as I continued to process this more a few things occurred to me.

This was 100% her perception of the limited view she has of my life. Nothing less and nothing more.

It's like when you are walking down the street and you see a shop window. You see the very few items they are displaying in the window and based on those few items you decide whether you want to go in or not. In an instant you make a judgment based upon very limited information.

That is essentially what this woman did to me.

She has no idea what my relationship is like with my son. She has no idea how hard I try to respect him as the man that he is and to not overstep as a mom. She has no idea the school load that he has right now and how considerate his dad and I try to be to his schedule. She knows nothing other than the one or two sentences on the subject that I gave her, which was very basic because I don't know her well either.

Why am I saying all of this?

Because I believe too often we give people a voice in our lives that are simply sharing their opinion with us based upon limited information and we need to stop giving them that voice.

If someone wants to have a voice in your life they need to be willing to invest the time in your life to get to know you. They need to get to know the situation and maybe even ask some in-depth questions. Don't base your opinion of yourself or a situation in your life based upon someone who is only interested in window shopping.

05/13/2021

We have done quite a bit of counseling lately for a variety of situations. I feel like I have said these words several times and thought perhaps someone else needed to read them....

When our brains are stuck in an emotional state it is very difficult to make rational decisions. Hence why our decisions can appear to be so irrational during those situations. Yet, we expect to be able to do this!

Just a couple of things...

1.) Don’t rush into any decisions when you are feeling emotional and require a rational decision.

2.) Give yourself plenty of time to process your emotions before you try to make any necessary decisions.

3.) If you find that you are still stuck in that emotional state then don't be afraid to seek wise counsel.

All of these things may seem to be common knowledge but when we are in that highly emotional state sometimes we can use a reminder. 💜

03/11/2020

Welcome to Rubies in the Rough - a group that is passionate about ministering to women in and around Watford City, North Dakota.

We already have 3 fun events planned for 2020 so please be sure to like our page so you can keep up with our upcoming events.

Blessing and love to you all.