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12/14/2024

"When we see our marriage as something more than our own romance or our own ‘story,’ as a journey ‘on the way’ to holiness, then we focus less on small annoyances, changeable emotions, and the distractions of the world.”

-St. John Chrysostom

12/06/2024

I’m sure you would agree that you need to cherish your spouse, but did you know that cherishing is a habit that needs to be developed? The word cherish is a verb, and it’s action oriented.  But this post is about what needs to happen in us before the right actions occur. I’m thinkin

03/04/2024

Having difficulty resolving conflict together? Try this. It's not easy, but always effective.

I'm not exaggerating when I say Debbie and I have found the secret to resolving our conflicts together...every time. I'm not kidding. It works every time.  It's not complicated, complex, or difficult to comprehend.  After many years of marriage, we've realized there has been one

02/05/2024

Is your wife thriving in her own unique calling, talents, gifting, and mission? Do you know what she’s most passionate about, the area of ministry she’s primarily interested in, and how God wired her to make a unique mark in the world? And most importantly, is she making progress in these areas?...

01/04/2024

Wow. Just read this, and it stopped me in my tracks.

"The Communio Study on Faith and Relationships reveals that the collapse in marriage and resulting decline in resident fatherhood may offer the best explanation for the decline of Christianity in the United States."

I realize I'm pulling this out of context for this post, but the overall study (below) reveals the link between the decline in Christianity in the U.S. and the breakdown of the family...and marriage in particular.

This is undeniable proof that every church needs a substantial marriage ministry.

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11/30/2023

A dose of surprising research about happy couples...

Here is some surprising research about marital happiness. It illustrates the value of endurance and perseverance when we are struggling.

11/15/2023

How are your communication skills with your spouse?

Here's a few thoughts to consider...

Could your communication with your spouse use a tune-up? How about a complete overhaul? Whatever you're arguing about these days, it's never about the topic of discussion. It's about your communication skills.

10/06/2023

"Marriage only works when it is the most important human relationship in our lives."

Jimmy Evans, in his book,
The Four Laws of Love