07/21/2026
Refuse!
Becoming Unoffendable
In order to become unoffendable, you will be invited to be offended.
Submit yourself to the Lord, resist the devil and he will flee! (James 4:7)
Offense is the trap set to keep you in unforgiveness, to become bitter, which will defile many, and the enemy’s goal is to gain access to torment, by way of unforgiveness. Just like the servant in Matthew 18.
See the end of Matthew 18:21–35. The servant who had been forgiven did not forgive and was given over to the tormentors. (Matthew 18:34–35)
So how do we avoid the offense?
• Stay in the Spirit. (Galatians 5:16)
• Pray immediately. (Philippians 4:6–7)
• Release them to the Lord. (Romans 12:19)
• Pray for wisdom and compassion. (James 1:5; Luke 6:27–28)
• Guard your heart, including your peace and your joy. (Proverbs 4:23; Philippians 4:7)
• Refuse to be offended. (Proverbs 19:11; Ephesians 4:31–32)
• Keep your armor on. Raise up your shield of faith. (Ephesians 6:10–18, especially verse 16)
• Take the offensive thought captive and make it bow to Jesus.
(2 Corinthians 10:5)
• Think on these things; whatever is true, noble, just, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent, and praiseworthy.
(Philippians 4:8)
Stay submitted. Resist the enemy. He has to flee.
“Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.”
James 4:7 (NKJV)
Don’t allow someone else’s mess to create a mess in you. Not everyone realizes when they’re being offensive. Refuse to take the bait. Choose grace. Guard your heart, walk in love, and leave the outcome to God.
In His Amazing Love,
Beauty for Ashes-Hope and Healing in Jesus Christ
Scriptures for Meditation
James 4:7 (NKJV)
“Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.”
Matthew 18:34–35 (NKJV)
“And his master was angry, and delivered him to the torturers until he should pay all that was due to him. So My heavenly Father also will do to you if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother his trespasses.”
Hebrews 12:14–15 (NKJV)
Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord: looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble
Galatians 5:16 (NKJV)
“I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.”
Philippians 4:6–7 (NKJV)
“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”
Romans 12:19 (NKJV)
“Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, ‘Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,’ says the Lord.”
James 1:5 (NKJV)
“If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.”
Luke 6:27–28 (NKJV)
“But I say to you who hear: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, and pray for those who spitefully use you.”
Proverbs 4:23 (NKJV)
“Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.”
Proverbs 19:11 (NKJV)
“The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger, and his glory is to overlook a transgression.”
Ephesians 4:31–32 (NKJV)
“Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.”
Ephesians 6:16 (NKJV)
“Above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one.”
2 Corinthians 10:5 (NKJV)
“Casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ.”
Philippians 4:8 (NKJV)
Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.