08/31/2026
MISTAKES WERE MADE, BUT NOT BY ME
By: Pastor Johnie Akers
Proverbs 28:13, “He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy.” In their book, Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me), authors Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson, explore why many people abdicate responsibility when things fall apart, as a result of bad decisions they have made. They cite organizational consultants Warren Bennis and Burt Nanus who suggest that “institutions can be designed to reward admissions of mistakes as part of the organizational culture, rather than, as now, making it uncomfortable for people to own up.” To demonstrate the point, they share a story of Tom Watson, Sr., founder and leader of technology giant IBM for over forty years. Watson became the object of business leadership legend by his purported handling of a promising young executive who lost the company over $10 million in a risky venture. “When Watson called the nervous executive into his office, the young man blurted out, ‘I guess you want my resignation?’ “Watson replied, ‘You can’t be serious. We’ve just spent $10 million educating you!’” Whether it is the culture of an organization, the family unit, or within a church community, the ability of an individual to be transparent, and yet not be condemned is a priceless commodity. Pointing out where another has stumbled takes the focus from us. Yet it serves as an injustice, not only for the object of our judgement, but for us as well by positioning the mirror away from our own reflection. If “they” are bad, we conclude we are good (or at the least, not so bad). In the gospels, Jesus spoke of the tendency we have to remove the speck of dust in someone else’s eye, while ignoring the log in our own eye. Religion is good for making hypocrites out of its converts. We must get to the place where we first are willing to admit that the one who is most in need of grace, is us. Then, we can view others through the same eyes of forgiveness that God has granted us. Enabling us to live as agents of mercy and reconciliation to all who have stumbled, with this and each new day.
Source: Mistakes Were Made, but Not By Me: Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions, and Hurtful Acts: Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson: Harcourt, 2007