More, Most, & Forever

02/14/2026

❤️ 13 Lessons We’ve Learned in 13 Years together ❤️
(And we’re still learning…)

1. Love is a daily decision. Feelings fluctuate so your commitment anchors you to your covenant.

2. Passion and “feelings” are far more in control than you think they are. If you learn how to delight in your spouse…desire is cultivated.

3. S*x matters…but it’s not just about the physical act. It’s sacred, it’s a tool for comfort, it can open lines of blocked communication, it’s good for your health…and worth prioritizing. However….more frequent s*x doesn’t mean good s*x. The intimacy of knowing one another as friends will ultimately lead to better s*x.

4. Avoiding hard conversations costs more than having them. You NEED TO master 5 needed conversations one at a time God & Faith, S*x & Health, Parenting, Money, Career & Calling. The key to unlocking good conversations is learning to ask the right questions.

5. Listen to understand, not to win and argument. Connection > being “right.” Who cares if you won the argument? But did you win their heart?

6. Unspoken expectations create unnecessary frustration. Say what you need…clearly. Don’t expect your spouse to be a mind reader.

7. Forgiveness is a rhythm, not a one-time event. Marriage requires ongoing mercy and grace for one another.

8-13 in the comments cause it’s too long…

04/09/2025

It's time to reset. Your marriage needs your presence—not constant distractions.

Welcome to a brand new 8+ week series on Needed Conversations with Ryan & Viktoriya Cole — The Presence Pledge. In this first episode, we're laying the foundation for a relationship reset that prioritizes connection, restores rhythm, and realigns your heart with God and your spouse.

In Episode 1: The Power of Presence, we’ll explore:

- What the Bible says about presence in the Garden (Genesis 3:8)
- How daily rhythms affect emotional, spiritual, and physical intimacy
- Why two sacred windows—morning and evening—matter more than you think
- What neuroscience says about breaking habits and building lasting connections

Join the challenge by signing The Presence Pledge:
✅ No phones 2 hours before bed and 2 hours after waking
✅ Keep devices 5 feet away from your bed
✅ Create intentional check-in moments with God and your spouse
✅ Give yourself permission to restart with grace when you fall off

Sign the pledge today at ⁠https://marriage.ryancoleempowerment.com/presencepledge⁠

Then, share this episode with a friend or couple who needs this reset, too.

You don’t need more time. You need to be present with the time you already have. Let's walk this out together—one sacred moment at a time.



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03/25/2025

Can intimacy grow again after betrayal, distance, or seasons of silence? In this powerful episode of Needed Conversations, Ryan and Viktoriya Cole explore how intimacy in marriage—emotional, spiritual, and physical—is not just a moment, but something that must be cultivated like a garden.

Drawing from the rich imagery of the Song of Solomon and personal stories, they invite couples to rethink intimacy as more than s*x. It's about trust, pursuit, and the daily tending of your marriage soil. Whether your garden is blooming or buried under weeds, this episode will help you find hope, healing, and a fresh start.

Learn how:
- Intimacy begins with emotional connection and intentionality
- Seasons of marriage (like winter and spring) impact closeness
- Betrayal doesn’t have to be the end of your story
- The roles of cultivation (husband) and nurturing (wife) work together to create lasting love
- God uses the garden metaphor from Genesis to the resurrection to show how relationships grow through care and time
- God uses the garden metaphor from Genesis to the Resurrection to show how relationships grow through care and time

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03/18/2025

In this powerful episode of Needed Conversations, we discuss one of the most difficult topics couples face—betrayal—and how to rebuild trust after it's been broken. Whether you're dealing with infidelity, financial mistrust, addiction, or emotional affairs, this episode offers hope and practical tools to help you navigate the road to restoration.

We unpack the crucial difference between disclosure and discovery, and why voluntary confession is a key factor in a couple’s ability to reconcile after betrayal. You'll learn why healthy boundaries aren't punishment but safeguards that protect your marriage, and how both partners must engage in personal healing to truly rebuild.

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03/11/2025

Sometimes apologies feel empty—either because they’re not genuine or because the pain runs too deep to move on. But in marriage, forgiveness isn’t optional. So how do you heal, rebuild trust, and truly reconcile after hurt?

In this episode of Needed Conversations with Ryan & Viktoriya Cole, we’re diving deep into:
✅ Why "I'm sorry" doesn’t always fix things & what a real apology looks like
✅ The difference between forgiveness & trust (they are NOT the same!)
✅ What Jesus really meant by forgiving 70x7—and why that doesn’t mean being a doormat
✅ What "love always trusts" actually means (hint: it’s not blind trust!)
✅ How unforgiveness poisons your heart & why forgiveness is more for YOU than them
✅ The path to true reconciliation (and what to do when trust is broken)

Forgiveness frees you, but trust is rebuilt over time. In this episode, we’ll help you navigate the journey of letting go of resentment, setting healthy boundaries, and rebuilding what was broken.

Key Scriptures:

Matthew 6:14-15 – If you don’t forgive, your Father won’t forgive you
Matthew 18:21-22 – What Jesus meant by forgiving 70x7
1 Corinthians 13:5-7 – Love keeps no record of wrongs & always trusts
James 5:16 – Confess your sins to one another and be healed

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03/06/2025

Have you listened to this weeks episode of Needed Conversations?

Every couple fights—but are you fighting the right way?

Fighting isn’t what ruins marriages. Fighting unfairly does. The way you handle conflict determines whether it strengthens or weakens your relationship.

🚨 Are you making these 4 toxic fight mistakes?
❌ Criticism
❌ Defensiveness
❌ Contempt
❌ Stonewalling

These patterns break trust, kill intimacy, and lead to resentment. But the good news? You can change how you fight. 💡

Swipe through this post to learn how to fight fair and turn conflict into connection. Then, listen to our latest episode where we break it all down!

🎧 New episode out now!

03/05/2025

Do you and your spouse struggle with conflict? Do your arguments leave you feeling more distant instead of closer? In today’s episode, we’re diving into one of the most important marriage skills—fighting fair. Conflict is inevitable, but how you handle it determines whether it strengthens or weakens your relationship.

We’ll cover:
- The 4 toxic fight patterns that destroy marriages (from Dr. John Gottman’s research)
- 5 biblical principles for handling conflict with love, wisdom, and patience
- Practical steps to resolve arguments without resentment
- How to repair damage after a disagreement and grow closer as a couple
- Scripture-based wisdom on communication, forgiveness, and conflict

Key Scriptures:
James 1:19 | Ephesians 4:26 | Proverbs 15:1 | Colossians 3:13

Takeaway: Fighting isn’t the problem—it’s how you fight that makes or breaks your marriage. Let’s learn how to argue in a way that builds trust, connection, and love.

00:00 Introduction: Fighting in Marriage
00:16 The Inevitability of Conflict
00:22 Internal Dialogues and Their Impact
00:45 Predictors of Divorce
01:34 Series Introduction: When Love Gets Tough
01:55 Communication Struggles in Marriage
02:24 How to Fight Fair
03:09 Weekend Recap and Personal Stories
04:57 Healthy Conflict Resolution
10:00 Four Destructive Fight Patterns
18:41 Five Rules for Healthy Conflict
23:57 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
30:48 Upcoming Episodes and New Podcast

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Your #1 source for marriage empowerment. In this podcast, we have the conversations that are sometimes the hardest to have but are the most needed in society today. Discussing everything from purpose, spiritual growth, marriage, and culture, we are not afraid to confront the hottest topics to bring a biblical response and help bring the body of Christ back to God's original design for marriage, family, and the church as a whole.

03/04/2025

Every couple fights—but did you know that HOW you fight can determine the future of your marriage?

Conflict isn’t the problem. The way you handle it is. The difference between couples who grow closer through disagreements and those who drift apart comes down to one simple shift.

If you’ve ever walked away from an argument feeling frustrated, unheard, or more disconnected than before… this is for you.

We just released a new blog breaking down:
❤️ The biggest mistakes couples make when fighting
❤️ The key to turning arguments into deeper connection
❤️ How to stop repeating the same cycle of frustration

If you want to stop fighting against each other and start fighting FOR your marriage, read the full blog now: 👇

In marriage, it’s easy to dream together—but how do you actually set goals and stick to them when life gets busy, challenges arise, and you and your spouse may not always see eye to eye? In this blog, we’re tackling the power of personal commitment and how it affects not only your individual g...

02/26/2025

In this episode of Needed Conversations, we explore how to enlarge your capacity for the next stage in life and marriage. We discuss the importance of exposure to new experiences and the power of building effective networks and relationships. Highlighting the significance of taking personal responsibility and aligning with God's purpose, we emphasize strategies for couples to navigate transitions and elevate their spiritual and relational growth. This episode also touches on the detrimental impact of toxic relationships and the benefits of seeking mentors and wise counsel, all within the context of their 'Built to Last' series.

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02/19/2025

🚨 Are you operating with old strategies in a new season? 🚨

If you don’t learn the protocols of your next level before you get there, the very thing meant to bless you could become the thing that crushes you. Many marriages struggle not because of a lack of love, but because of a failure to adapt to the new challenges, responsibilities, and blessings that come with growth.

In this episode of Needed Conversations, we (Ryan & Viktoriya Cole) are talking about New Rules for a New Season in Marriage—how to recognize when it’s time to shift, redefine what “winning” looks like in your marriage, and upgrade your strategy so you can fully step into what God has for you.

🔥 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✅ Why so many couples resist change—and how it holds them back
✅ The importance of learning the protocols for the new season BEFORE you step into it
✅ How to redefine success and recalibrate your marriage for elevation
✅ What the Bible says about putting new wine into new wineskins (Luke 5:37-38)
✅ Practical strategies for anticipating challenges and preparing your marriage for growth

We’ve experienced this firsthand and now we're sharing our story to help you!

Consider the season of your marriage that you're in—what worked before may not work now, and that’s okay! But if you don’t recognize the shift, resist change, or fail to prepare for what’s ahead, you’ll find yourself frustrated, disconnected, and stuck.

💬 Drop a comment below and let us know: What’s one area in your marriage that needs a new strategy for this season?

00:00 Introduction: Embracing Change
00:47 Biblical Insights on Change
01:38 Welcome to Needed Conversations
02:00 New Rules for a New Season
03:36 Practical Steps for Marriage and Personal Growth
10:30 Personal Testimonies and Experiences
24:19 Reevaluating Roles and Responsibilities
29:36 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
33:03 Upcoming Podcast Announcement

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Your #1 source for marriage empowerment. In this podcast, we have the conversations that are sometimes the hardest to have but are the most needed in society today. Discussing everything from purpose, spiritual growth, marriage, and culture, we are not afraid to confront the hottest topics to bring a biblical response and help bring the body of Christ back to God's original design for marriage, family, and the church as a whole.