08/26/2026
Weekly Wednesday Discipleship
“Take up your cross” is Jesus’ call to true discipleship: deny yourself, accept that following Him has a cost (including potential suffering, rejection, and loss), and walk after Him daily. It is not about enduring ordinary hardships with a participation trophy.
The saying appears in the Gospels:
Matthew 16:24: “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me.”
Mark 8:34 (similar wording)
Luke 9:23 (adds “daily”)
Jesus spoke these words in a culture where the cross was not yet a religious symbol but was instead an instrument of Roman ex*****on: public, agonizing, and shameful. Criminals were often forced to carry the heavy cross to the site of their death. To “take up your cross” meant accepting a path that could lead to humiliation, suffering, and death for the sake of following Jesus.
Immediately after, Jesus explains the paradox: “For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it” (Matthew 16:25). The call screens out half-hearted followers and invites total surrender.
What It Does Not Mean:
Popular usage often reduces it to “my difficult boss,” “my chronic illness,” or “my difficult relative” with statements like “that’s just my cross to bear.” While Christians are called to endure trials with faith, that is not the original intention of the phrase, nor is it truly the spirit of what it means. The cross in Jesus’ teaching is not a random burden God assigns; it is the deliberate choice to put self to "death" so that Christ can live in and through you.
In today’s world and in practical terms, taking up the cross is a daily posture of self-denial and allegiance to Jesus over comfort, reputation, security, or personal ambition. It includes:
Dying to self: Choosing obedience when it costs ease, popularity, career advancement, or relationships. Examples include refusing to compromise integrity at work, speaking truth in love when silence would be safer, or prioritizing time with God and others over endless self-centered activities.
Willingness to suffer loss: Being ready to lose friendships, family approval, social standing, job opportunities, or even physical safety if faithfulness to Christ requires it. In some parts of the world this is literal persecution; in more comfortable settings it is often more of a social or professional cost.
Daily, not one and done: Luke’s “daily” emphasizes that this is not a dramatic one-time decision but a repeated choice, saying no to pride, resentment, greed, lust, or self-protection each day and yes to the way of Jesus.
Following, not just carrying: The cross is taken up in order to follow Him. The focus is relational AND directional, which means moving after Christ rather than wallowing in suffering for its own sake.
The paradox: Losing one’s life (self-centered agenda) in order to find true life. This can look like sacrificial love, generosity, forgiveness, and service that make no worldly sense but flow from identification with the crucified and risen Jesus.
Modern illustrations often include remaining faithful in a hard marriage, continuing to give or serve when finances or energy are tight, refusing to “church-shop” purely for personal preference, or accepting the social cost of holding to Christian ethics in a culture that finds them offensive. The common thread is that the disciple no longer has final plans of their own. They are not serving to gain a reward. Direction, identity, and security are found in Christ.
Jesus didn't soften the demand. He asked whether His followers are willing to lose friends, family closeness, reputation, livelihood, or life itself. Not every disciple experiences every loss, but every true disciple must be willing. The alternative is a form of discipleship that costs the disciple nothing and, ultimately, gains them nothing of lasting value.
Yet the same passage promises that the one who loses life (figuratively) for Jesus’ sake finds it. The cross is not the end of the story. That distinction belongs to the resurrection. Taking up your cross is the path into the life Jesus offers: freedom from the tyranny of self, participation in His mission, and the hope of sharing in His glory.
In short, “take up your cross” in today’s world means a deliberate, ongoing decision to let go of self-rule, accept whatever cost faithfulness requires, and walk after Jesus, trusting that the life found on the other side of that surrender is infinitely better than the life clung to in self-preservation.