05/23/2026
“Here or there”
Joe called his brother Bob’s cell phone and sat waiting on him to answer. He had called Bob a couple of times and was on the verge of driving out to the little house Bob had moved to when he returned to town two months ago.
But Bob finally answered the phone.
“How is it going ?”Joe asked his brother.
“Okay I guess”, answered Bob.
“Well, how is the new job? Are you liking it?”
Bob had taken a night job stocking merchandise in the local lumber and hardware store. Bob had said he liked it because he was able to work alone. “All I have to do is follow the list they leave me each night”, he had said.
“The job is going fine”, Bob replied with a tone that indicated he was not very interested in talking about it.
“I haven’t seen you around brother”, Joe said. “ I figured I would see you at the coffee shop some morning, I was even hoping to buy you breakfast.”
“No, I just hang around home and go to work mostly”, Bob replied.
“I see you didn’t show up to Clifford’s birthday party and barbecue either, he really hoped you would.”
“No, I just didn’t feel like getting out”, Bob said.
“How long have you been home now Bob?”, Joe asked the question he already knew the answer to.
“Oh, about two months”, Bob replied.
“Yeah, and all you have done is work and isolate yourself in that little house. Why?”, Joe asked.
In a rather irritated tone, Bob answered.
“Because I can’t look people in the face after what I did! That’s why!”, Bob shouted into the phone.
“Oh, my mistake Bob, I didn’t realize that you were still in state prison. Well by golly, I better come drive you back there! I am sure they are looking for you!”, Joe said with a note of sarcasm.
“Shut up Joe”, Bob muttered.
“No, sure ‘nuff brother. I guess I was mistaken. I thought you got released from prison a couple months ago. I had no idea whatsoever you were still doing time”, Joe said.
“I ain’t still doing time Joe, I just don’t want to face anyone. You don’t get drunk and rob a gas station in your hometown and feel good about it.”
“That was five years ago, do you think folks are still walking around and talking about it? I have news for you, folks have a lot more to talk about than some kid making a mistake five years ago.”
Bob didn’t respond.
Brother, the folks in this town, including Roger who owned the gas station, have gotten way past that mistake you made. And if they haven’t, that’s up to them. Fact is, they are not making you live in shame, you are making yourself live in shame and regret.
Joe went on, “so tell me Bob, are you going to live here in the present and move on with your life?
“Or will you just keep living in the prison of your yesterday?”
There was silence on the phone.
Joe broke the silence, “you have to decide my brother, will you be here, or there? Because if you are going to live in your past mistakes you may as well pack up and head back to prison, it will save you from having to keep building your own prison here.”
Joe’s tone softened and he said, “Bob, when our Bible instructs us to forgive, that includes ourselves.”
Again there was silence. Bob finally spoke.
“I will see you at breakfast tomorrow and you are buying.”
Then he hung up on Joe.
Joe looked at his phone and laughed.
“I guess he may try living here, instead of there.”
“Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.” – Matthew 18:15
“As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.” – Psalm 103:12
“Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 3:13-14
Brother Mark